♀️ Getting on my nerve

Blog Post created by Pameladavid on Jan 10, 2021

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Trying to figure this page out and what my stupid health insurance expects of me is getting on my last nerve!

So if I don’t participate in this they charge me $900 a year.

I get text messages from a “mentor” I respond and ask questions to. I’m thinking these are automated messages because not once have I gotten a reply. Ive asked not to receive after 6pm because I got to bed then. I’m up at 1:45am every morning so about the time I fall asleep guess what yep a text asking me if I hadn’t a puff today pisses me off.

Yesterday made 28 years ago my Daddy died in my arms so yes i smoked! I’ve cut way back from a pack a day to half (which is a major deal for me) I can quit but on my own terms not someone trying to force me to (just ask my mom)

Whats this deal with points? I can’t seem to find how we earn them. ♀

Why is this thing typing so slow and messing up my words

can y’all tell I’m aggravated this morning? Lack of restful sleep for the past week. My average of 4-5 hrs dropped to 2-3. I’m keeping occupied by playing games on my phone, playing fetch with Roxie (my 10 yr old pupperdoggy) , petting the cats (4 of them furballs) , trying to catch the possum eating the outside cat food and living under the house.

I go to work and come home this has been my life for the last 5 years. So being in a pandemic hasn’t bothered me at all. Good thing about being an introvert.

Congrats to those who have quit and stayed there. I’ll be there one day soon

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Maki Jan 10, 2021 8:18 AM
Wow yes k l can definitely tell you are agitated this morning .
Sorry about your problems related to the site , your father's passing . I hope our community manager can answer your questions ... his name is Mark .. in regard to the messaging problems .
I agree no one can tell you when to quit . You have to do it for you . No one could tell me either .
Here we are just regular people who all have smoked and are quitting together . You are welcome to join us when you are ready ..
I had the same thoughts as you so I understand . I quit smoking when I was almost at deaths door because of my right to smoke . I'm so grateful for this community and all it's support .
Be safe , be well .
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sweetplt Jan 10, 2021 8:23 AM
HI and Welcome to Ex’s Pameladavid ... so happy you are here at our site. Perhaps our administrator Mark can help with you getting these late night texts. Sleep is important especially through this journey. Honestly, you think you like smoking, when in fact you are addicted to cigarettes. If you weren’t you would just quit. If you must be here and don’t want to be here, might I suggest you read My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX and take some days and look around the site and ask questions on what you are unsure of doing...WE are here to help people quit smoking because we are all doing it together...~ I hope today is a better one for you ~ Colleen

Mark Hoping you can help her with technical problems ? Thanks a bunch
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- Maki @ sweetplt on Jan 10, 2021 8:28 AM
  Thanks sweetplt , I tried tagging Mark but couldn't bring it up for some reason .. ( my computer skills however are not great ) so likely me .
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  - sweetplt @ Maki on Jan 10, 2021 8:40 AM
    No problem Maki Maki, it happens to me too...sometimes I can’t even copy Mark’s icon name...but like you, he is the best choice to help...have a good day Maki....
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Barbscloud Jan 10, 2021 9:25 AM
I hope Mark can help you. I don't have any knowledge of this. Remember we're here for you though. You can post anytime and reach out if you need help.
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YoungAtHeart Jan 10, 2021 9:29 AM
Welcome to our community!

My sympathy on the loss of your Dad. I know you must be hurting, and I feel for you.

Your insurance company charging you to keep smoking is a Draconian way to do something that will be good for you in the long run. I understand why you don't see that. I remember when I smoked and our campus started talking about becoming smoke free - I decided I would have to quit my job (of 27 years!) if they went ahead with it. Nobody likes to be forced to do something when they aren't ready. BUT if you do some reading about your addiction, you will come to understand that all you believe smoking does for you is a LIE - really. The calm you feel when you smoke is only reducing the stress CAUSED by the last cigarette you smoked. It is the never ending cycle of this addiction

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” You can search for it online or at your local library. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

I hope you will stick around and do some reading here. You might just change your mind about quitting. Otherwise, you will need to figure out how to get another $900 out of your budget. Before I understood what Big Tobacco was doing to me with its product, I would have figured it out somehow. Because - I was an addict. And the industry made me one - on purpose!! Maybe think on that for a bit!

Let us know if/when you decide to quit - we can help!

Nancy
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Pameladavid Jan 10, 2021 9:54 AM
Thanks everyone for the extra knowledge and support.
Im sorry I missed an entire sentence in there. I have a quit plan and cutting back to none is the plan just have to do it in my time. I’ve just started the journey and I know I can defeat smoking. Yes it’s an addiction just like drinking. I got up one day decided I wasn’t going to drink anymore and stopped. I can do the same with smoking.
I have great will power so that’s a plus. I just have a problem with being forced to do things.
I will get in touch with Mark about everything else.
I’ve read so many post/blogs on here and I’m inspired more every day to stop. Just give me a couple weeks and I’ll have a whole new story to tell y’all plus outlook on my life
The number 1 thought in my head is all the money I spend on smoking will now go towards vacations lol beachfront rental here I come!
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- Barbscloud @ Pameladavid on Jan 10, 2021 10:07 AM
  That's great. I'm glad you're taking advantage the information and support on the site. Saving that money for a goal can be a real motivator.
  Keep moving forward.
  Barb
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- maryfreecig @ Pameladavid on Jan 10, 2021 10:07 AM
  Your insurance company may be pushing you along, but the Ex community is made up of quitters and we kinda really understand that your quit is in your hands. We're here rooting for you!
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elvan Jan 10, 2021 7:28 PM
You have gotten great advice from all of the people who responded. I came here every morning & every evening when l quit. I did all of the recommended reading & every blog l saw said something to me. I could never have stayed quit without this site. As far as the phone notifications, can you just block that number when you go to bed?
Welcome to EX.
Ellen
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indingrl Jan 10, 2021 8:52 PM
I am SOOOOO sorry for your loved Daddy passing and I am SOOOOO sorry your having a rough day
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Mark Feb 2, 2021 1:08 PM
Pameladavid

Sorry to hear about your experience on your phone.
Complete the checklist on your My EX Plan to get credit for participation.

We don't have a way to turn off the automated texts from us at certain hours of the day. However, It sounds that you may benefit from turning on the Do not Disturb function on your phone from 6pm until 2am if your phone has it. The default times are likely 10pm to 7am. Both Android and iPhones have this function in recent OS versions. Remember to add people to your VIP list for people who can contact you in those do not disturb hours if it is an emergency. If you call twice within 15 mins on an android phone it will ring through regardless. I don't know if the same is true for iPhones.

Not sure how old your phone is but the typing might have to do with the phone's browser or the operating system of the phone. If you give me more details about the phone's model and OS version and also the browser and the browser version that could help me look into it further.

Mark
EX Community Manager
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- Mark @ Mark on Feb 2, 2021 1:09 PM
  Pameladavid Checking in to see if adjusting your phone's settings has helped at all with respect to the automated messages you receive from us?
  
  Mark
  EX Community Manager
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  - Pameladavid @ Mark on Feb 4, 2021 12:53 PM
    Yes I did that made a big difference. Thank you for your help!
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    - Mark @ Pameladavid on Feb 4, 2021 6:42 PM
      Pameladavid wrote:
      
      Yes I did that made a big difference. Thank you for your help!
      Glad to hear it!
      
      Mark
      EX Community Manager
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