Theres a ton of work involved in building a house. My husband and I are in that process right now. Theres so many things that have to flow together, the builder, his crew, the permits, the suppliers...and right now we are trying to be patient with the weather. The site is a muddy mess...kinda like I was when I came here to EX.
Before I could build a nice quit I realized I needed a strong foundation. But I had no idea how to do that and even when I first came here and had plenty of great advice how too....I screwed around a bit and used 'cheeper'construction material. All that got me was another failed quit.
So like building our house right now, we took the time to explore all the options and decide which materials will hold up the best. Then of course, hire qualified people to install and build.
Like my quit..... What better place to come to find qualified people to help INSTALL into my brain the best way to go about 'building my quit'?
Daily I learn something. I learn from my elders but let me tell you a something..the Newbies have much more to offer than I ever first thought. In them I see myself,...where I was, where I don't want to be again...struggling, denial, fear. They are a reminder of me when I smoked. I did nearly everything they did and experience mostly everything they are going through building their own house. They keep me on my toes and teach me to NEVER be complacent. I love all the Newbies. I love watching them build their beautiful quits. They are beautiful people who deserve it after all. I love that I get to be a part of this build for them, when they allow me.
We were hoping to pour the basement floors Wednesday of this week. The poured alls are done. The crane arrives today to set the support beam. Next Monday ( yes on a Holiday) they are planning to begin framing. Weather looks like rain though. But just like my quit, I have no idea what Wednesday or next Monday will bring. Maybe with the weather, we will luck out and everything will go by in a timely way. Maybe not.
Life is going to do as it pleases and we can't control much of it no matter where we are in our quit. Its natural to have a harder time early in our quit because we are just learning how to use the tools given to us . Thats when a good builder knows to ask for help. It can be difficult to acknowledge you need help sometime, but we ALL do....Elders and Newbies.
Well, I have said my lot for the day. Sun is out now so gonna go get busy getting busy. While our new house is a ways off from completion, I figure I am as well....except I figure I will always be a work in progress and I like it that way....always wanting to learn new things and new ways.
Have a great smoke free day!