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Time out

Maki
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‎10-18-2020 11:36 AM

                                                                     Time out 

Think those times are important in our health and in our quit . 

If you can't take what you need to help with your quit , if you can't see past things that annoy you today , if you find yourself agitated by what people say today or do , I say time for a break . It usually not the people , it's ourselves . I should know better after nine years that the side effects of a treatment for a blood disorder are the cause of my emotions being out of whack  two , three days a week and it's not the people , but im human and I'm still learning how to first of all recognize that , then deal with that side effect responsibly and not misdirect it. 

I need to deal with it responsibly without lashing out at others . Years ago I may have chosen to smoke , to lay blame , to misdirect my responsibility on to others . 

My treatment is necessary , just like quitting smoking is necessary for our , your health, our health  . I can choose to quit treatment or learn by my mistakes to recognize when these feelings are not my own . Combativeness and lashing out is not a solution just as smoking is not a solution .

I'm the first to admit that , so if I've offended anyone this morning or yesterday it's unintentional and I apologize and will do my best to be away from Ex during those times so not to disrupt the harmony here .

I am sharing because this is part of my quit . I wouldn't have quit had I not gotten this illness . I would still tell myself I deserve to smoke , I deserve fifteen dollars a day to spend on a reward of cigarettes even if it's foolish but it's selfish . 

It is the experience of only my quit I share . I can not speak for others but I love to hear others opinions . Everyone's experience is not the same but perhaps one person or many can relate to another's story  .  Perhaps itsyours. I don't feel there is one book that can give you all the answers you need to quit  although many look for that book or that magic pill . Some will say meditation , some will say prayer helps , and some will say support was their saving grace but all of them take you to do the work .  

This is a forum where freedom of speech , sharing thoughts , sharing our own personal journeys can be very similar ,  yet very different . All opinions , all experiences , all testimony is valuable . It takes a village in some cases for us to learn what we need to about this addiction in other cases it does not anyone .

Let everyone speak . Take what you need , leave the rest , do what works for you , believe whatever you need to , to keep your quit moving forward .. that's what matters most . Everyone want their fellow ex member to quit wasting life smoking . Time is of importance . Life is short . 

As for me I need to just relax today , take a time out , recover today , maybe pamper myself a bit more today , let go of my anger at having to rest and enjoy it .  This too shall pass are words I've found great hope in when I quit smoking ...so I will remember ......

                       this will pass and it does

                                But  for now until it does

                                      I will take a time out and be grateful for what I do have not angry at what I feel . 

Maki 

No responses needed , I just had to get this truth out for myself to heal things that need healing . Thank you for letting me share . 

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About the Author
Smoker of 28 years . COPD recipient . My biggest help to quit was to read other successful quitters testimony . I’ll have a thirteen years quit June 30 , 2024 . Biggest lesson learned : I learned the “Just one” lesson . You can never have just one .It is the the key to everyone’s quit . Having “ none” is the easy way to quit smoking . Quit tools : Made use of my strengths and improved upon my weaknesses . Quit benefits , more time with my family , better quality of life , better self image . How I kept the quit : one day at a time , one step at a time . I told myself like a broken record : “ Don’t smoke ; Do something different “ then literally went and did something different other than smoking “ . Quitting is not complicated , nope is it , however it will be the process of self discovery for you to find that out for yourself . How long will that be ? Up to you . We are all different and we come from different backgrounds and smoked for different reasons so no one can really tell you when it will get easier for you only that it will . Be patient with yourself . Who cares how long it takes anyway because we all came to quit forever . This quit is for life , your life , so embrace it , welcome it , it’s the best thing you will ever do for yourself . The money you save get a bucket list of little rewards and big ones and do them . Change the things you can . Life is worth living . This gets easier , oh my gosh , so much much easier . Give it a season , give it two and you’ll never want to let go of your quit I promise you that . It’s wonderful , absolutely wonderful to be free . Quitting btw was the hardest thing I’ve ever done just like everyone here . I shed buckets of tears for weeks , yelled into a pillow , stuck my head into a cold bucket of water and paced aimlessly in head fog . Was it worth it , every bit of it ! Biggest improvement : , my health , the relationship with my family ( all non smokers thank goodness ) and finances . When I started 2011. I was walking three blocks with the use of inhalers for copd . Latest accomplishment : still on the inhalers no further advancement of copd . June 1 2023. Did my first 10 k . Next goal is my second 10k by the end of 2024 . I’m 68 years years young and I’m an Ex smoker . I was able to take three trips ( out of country ) with my family because I quit smoking . Time I never would have had had I not quit . Money from quitting paid for them . I want to say you are in control , take your power back from cigarettes from vaping or any addiction you might have . Life awaits you , don’t let it pass you by . Make the decision to stop and one day that light will shine upon you and make you a whole new you . Thank you to Quitnet members and Ex members for the support and encouragement to quit and stay quit . That along with my desire never to smoke again has given me a life long successful quit . No turning back , ever .