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Monday morning

LarryG
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Mount Bigelow Someset County Trover.jpg

Mount Bigelow in Somerset County Maine.  Country Trover took the photo.  It's in Western Maine.

I used to make up stories and songs about "Bigelow Bob", drove my wife crazy.  The mountain is name for a man who was an officer in the Revolutionary War named Henry Bigelow.

Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.

~Stephen R. Covey

Ancient wise men first identified that crucial gap in time between the moment we first sense something and the response we give. They taught meditation principles focusing on this distinction and spent hours in contemplation that led to deep inner peace and serenity. Most of us, in our busy lives, do not devote hours and days to that focus, but we can learn to practice the crucial wisdom of chosen response instead of instant reflex.

Reactivity is like a knee-jerk response. It comes from a primitive part of our brains. If we haven’t learned of that brief gap between the stimulus and our response, then we don’t even know we have a choice. We might say, “I couldn’t help it. If he hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t have done what I did.” At that point, we are still immature and weak. When we gain awareness of this tiny bit of time to choose the best response, we step from immaturity into the strength of a grown man.

Today, I will become more aware of that moment of choice between a stimulus and my response.

From: Stepping Stones, Daily Meditations......

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About the Author
I quit on October 25, 2013, it was the best decision I ever made (or, one of them). I smoked for over 50 years and quit Cold Turkey. My most useful tool is gratitude, you can borrow some from me.