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Fearless Friday

LarryG
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Cellardoor Winery Camden  Katie Reed.JPG

Katie Reed too this photo of Cellardoor Winery in Camden, Maine.  Maybe it's their label.  There are 155 breweries, 24 winery's and 17 Distillers in Maine!

My wife had surgery yesterday, plates and screws in both legs, the knees look okay I think she will need some heavy duty rehab.  I'll go see her in a few hours (it's almost midnight here now).

We may love and care about our family very much. Family members may love and care about us. But interacting with some members may be a real trigger to our codependency—sometimes to a deep abyss of shame, rage, anger, guilt, and helplessness.

It can be difficult to achieve detachment, on an emotional level, with certain family members. It can be difficult to separate their issues from ours. It can be difficult to own our power. Difficult, but not impossible.

The first step is awareness and acceptance—simple acknowledgment, without guilt, of our feelings and thoughts. We do not have to blame our family members. We do not have to blame or shame ourselves. Acceptance is the goal— acceptance and freedom to choose what we want and need to do to take care of ourselves with that person. We can become free of the patterns of the past. We are recovering. Progress is the goal.

From: The Language of Letting Go.

“You can cut all the flowers but you cannot keep Spring from coming.”
 Pablo Neruda

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About the Author
I quit on October 25, 2013, it was the best decision I ever made (or, one of them). I smoked for over 50 years and quit Cold Turkey. My most useful tool is gratitude, you can borrow some from me.