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JACKIE1-25-15
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 Love Yourself/Forgive Yourself

There were times in my life that I felt I wasn’t loved.  As I look back I now questioned whether I knew how to truly love myself.  I often ponder how does one love or forgive themselves.  One of my main reference for questions is the Holy Bible.  So there I go to search.  I do not find anything that speaks directly of loving oneself.  However, there is a passage that says we should love our neighbors as ourselves.  So I can interpret that as to say we should love ourselves and love others.   Let me be clear, I am not a Bible scholar but the Word has been a part of my life most of my life, my "self-help" book of which I have read many.  The Bible is the best one.  My search leads me to "Love thy neighbor as thyself. Mark 12:31.  I am sure many of you have heard, read and were taught this scripture. 

Question?  Do we live it or are we holding on to a disagreement or misunderstanding and not talking to our neighbor.  Are you harboring anger in your soul?  Who does that help?  Forgive them move on.  How do we do it?  I think the proper term should be "acceptance."  One of life’s obstacles is self-acceptance.  Though it may be difficult, learning to be okay with who we are is one the most important things we can do to be happier individuals.  No matter what life has dealt us, we have the opportunity to accept ourselves and learn from our experiences to be used tor our good. 

How does this fall in line with quitting smoking?  Quitting smoking will open the door to help us reach a higher level of accepting ourselves. It is a growth process within the quit that brings this assurance. It is easier to live than to put into words.  It is about a healthier and more spiritual lifestyle. This attitude of acceptance makes life more wonderful.  So NOPE no matter what. 

To all who are MAD and ANGRY about something.  We have all been hurt.  We have been lied on, talked about, abused, scorned, etc. How we respond to those misdeeds is our choice. We can forever burden our hearts by constantly reliving the hurts or we can release the hurts, forgive our offenders, and move on. Carrying the hurts keeps us in bondage. Releasing them gives us freedom.  Which do you choose Bondage or Freedom? 

Wish the best to/for those who hate and despise you. 

Matthew 5:44 

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

How do you know when you have forgiven someone?  

Answer: When you do not have to continue to speak ill of that person.  

Note: Start Your New Day with a New Way.  Forgive others to allow forgiveness for yourself in order to move forward. 

Thank God I am Magnificently Made  I am stronger, wiser, courageous, loving, generous, kind, forgiving, funny, smart, beautiful, talented, not perfect but a happier more self-accepting person smokefree.  I can smile about me. I am loving my life smoke free1431 DOF

Don't quit on your quit.  Keep it Movin Forward

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Lay aside every weight that may be slowing you down. Make up your mind not to allow doubt cause you to stumble. You can do this! Do not allow fear , False Expectations Appearing Real to hold you down. You can do this! Break the chains of addiction, forgive yourself for ever smoking. move forward and start loving yourself more each day by staying smokefree. Put aside worry, anxiety, depression, any EXcuse that you would use to not get in or stay in the race of freedom. Take one day at a time, one step if necessary. Run the race diligently, steady and sure with endurance. Believe that you can. Keep your eye on the prize. Hang tough, stay close, be mindful, never give in, never give up.