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JACKIE1-25-15
Member

When...

I just returned home from a weekend getaway and I am checking in to see what is going on!  I hope all is well here. This is just a quick note of thoughts to my EX-community friends.  My title may make you think this note is about setting a date but it is about when and how you can quit?  Well, the true fact of the matter is; it is not by your power nor by your might. Neither by your willpower but by your own willingness

You will quit smoking when you are:

Willing to relearn your thinking, remove the brainwashing to accept mentally you don't "have" to smoke.

 Willing to make necessary changes in your lifestyle to be free from the clutches of nicotine.   

Willing to change people places and things if necessary.

Willing to educate yourself about nicotine addiction.

Willing to accept that smoking is a drug addiction and treat it as such.

Willing to recover from the addiction one day at a time.

Willing to let it go>>>step out on faith>>> believe that you can. 

Willing to go through whatever is necessary  NOPE. No matter what is happening in your life!

Willing to make you, your health and family a priority over smoking. 

Willing to eliminate the selfish act we have performed that separates us from loved ones.

Willing to take your life back from the chain of addiction and hold on to it.

Willing to ask and accept help/support when you are having difficulty. 

Willing to give it your all and believe that you can.

Willing to see that your life can be better without smoking.

Willing to start this journey and never look back. 

Willingness makes it all doable.

When the willingness is great the difficulty is small.

This is WHEN  you will succeed.

 

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elvan
Member

That is ALL true...great blog, Jackie.

XO,

Ellen

Mandolinrain
Member

Wonderful Blog Jackie....Nothing is accomplished in life that we desire until we become willing and I think those who don't understand this concept will continue to be prisoners of their own demise until they do. I know I was anyway..Worthy of a bookmark ,xoxo

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SaraCorinne
Member

I LOVE THIS POST!  

Early in my quit, when I was talking about my lack of willpower, Dale said, "Willingness NOT Willpower".  No matter how crazy it sounds, those 3 words made ALL the difference!  It totally changed the way I looked at my quit!  You must be willing to go through the crappy days of withdrawals and cravings to get to the freedom that we all seek.  

WILLINGNESS NOT WILLPOWER was my AHA moment!

Thanks for your wonderful words!

Sara 79 DOF

LindaLouise
Member

Thank you! That was helpful! Struggling a little bit on day 6! There is a lot of commotion going on with my household today. I am willing to put my quit first and not let it get to me. Cigs are not the answer. I am so adamant about it this time. I have gotten to day 6 by focus and determination. I actually thought it wasn’t so bad till the stress started building up. And it still isn’t . NOPE NOPE NOPE!

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Hang tough.  It will get better.  Look forward to another milestone.  You are in Hell NO Week.  The best is yet to come.  Stay close. 

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LindaLouise
Member

Thank you Jackie! I'm hanging tough! I appreciate the encouragement! Happy New Year!

elvan
Member

Remember, this too shall pass and you will be stronger because you did not smoke.  ALWAYS put your quit first, it is vital to your success.  Happy New Year.

LindaLouise
Member

Thank you elvan! I am getting through the evening... WITHOUT cigarettes! I really DO  have a lot going on but so far it is working in my favor. I know what I need to do... NOPE is all I need to know!  I need to find a defense against impulsiveness... I have a tendency to have problems with that. Again... and I don't want to sound repetitive but plain and simple...NOPE!

Happy New Year to you!!!    

elvan
Member

If I counted the number of times I said NOPE in the first weeks and months of my quit...it would sound ridiculous.  I said it silently, quietly, out loud, I even yelled it a couple of times.  It and this site were my best friends.  Keeping your quit front and center is absolutely vital and if you have to say that to someone...DO IT.  I DID.  I told my friend that being around her when she was smoking, even if it was outside, threatened my quit and then I told her that I had to take care of my quit every single minute of every single day and I could not lose site of it or I would lose the quit and there was no way that I EVER wanted to start over again.

A smoke free New Year's...your first of many more to come!

Ellen