~~Don't be upset at the result you didn't get with the work you didn't do.~~ Unknown
At first that sounds a bit harsh, doesn't it? But in actuality, it is only a gentle reminder that we can't quit for you. You will not quit by just reading posts. They are only there to help. You will not quit by making friends here. Your friends are only support. You will not even quit by pledging every day. The Pledge page is there to reinforce your quit.
You have to not smoke each and every day of your quit. You have to not go to the store. You have to not bum one from a co-worker. You have to not sneak one you hid the night before you quit.
You have to develop coping skills. You have to learn to deal with stress. You have to create new routines. You have to stay busy. You have to be proud of yourself. You have to take good care of yourself. You have to maintain your quit.
It's work. Sometimes it's hard work and other times its empowering. It can be maddening and it can be surprisingly soft. You may hate it and you yet will never regret it.
Most of all, you need to remember it's yours. To do with what you will. Mold it, create it, develop it, own it. It's yours. And you alone are responsible for it. Some say that's a scary thought. I think it's a freeing thought. No one can mess with it and no one can blow it. Only you.
So if you slip, if you relapse, please don't be surprised if you haven't worked it. You won't find it here no matter how fabulous here is Your quit is within you. Totally and 100%. Gain the knowledge, make your plan, and work your quit.
Let me please add that I believe it is in each and every one of us to successfully quit!! There is more strength and power and courage hidden behind your addiction that you will ever realize. Allow all that to come out! It may not come out roaring, but it will help you limp through another day if limping is the only way through for you. Believe in yourself as much as I believe in you
Lastly and on a more personal note, classes start tomorrow so I will be bringing ABE and GED classes back to the jail! And religious ed classes at church in the evening. That means you may not be seeing much of me again. You don't need me to succeed but know I'll be cheering for you anyway!!