~~Be yourself. If you water yourself down to please people or to fit in or to not offend anyone, you lose the power, the passion, the freedom, and the joy of being uniquely you. It's much easier to love yourself when you are being yourself.~~ Dan Coppersmith
It's easy to lose yourself here. There are so many people supporting and guiding you....so many cheering you on...so many who have amazing stories of overcoming obstacles. You like them. You are impressed with them. You want to be like them. A quitter.
So you take their advice. You read everything they suggest you read. You say things like "I don't do that anymore". You stick your head in the freezer and drink gallons of ice water. You chew on cinnamon sticks and get rid of all smoking items in your house, your car, your porch.
And still you relapse. And as you smoke, you hate what you're doing and you don't understand why you failed. You did EVERYTHING they told you to do. So why?
Your life is not here . Your spirit is not in the control+alt keys. Your soul is not in a blog, no matter how wonderfully you write or how many comments you get.
It is so important to add you to your quit!! Your personality. Your routine. Your passions. Even your family and friends.
You are the only one who knows what makes you happy so add that! You are the only one who knows what stresses you out....so avoid that! You are the only one who knows what keeps you going....so add that!
In other words, personalize your quit. Add all the little nuances that make you you Bring out your talents, utilize your strengths, create your quit with all that you are! Because it's yours. Mold it, shape it, build it. Own it.
When your quit is a reflection of who you are, you will find that you are in control of it. You know how to hold on to it, you know how to strengthen it, and you know when it's solid. You don't have to be like anyone else here....not even the elders. This is all about YOU. Know we are here for you but it's your quit so make it yours. You'll keep it then.