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When You're Quiet

SimplySheri
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~~Only those who care about you can hear you when you're quiet.~~  Unknown

I know sometimes you think some of us are unfeeling.  That we talk down to you.  That we feel 'superior' or 'cold'.  And sometimes you even wish that we wouldn't respond to your posts because you feel bad enough without our input.

Please know that nothing is further from the truth!!  First of all, remember that words on a screen can be interpreted by different people in different ways.  They are words.  Sometimes you simply read them in the way they weren't intended.

My suggestion there would be to message whomever wrote it and ask for clarification.  Please don't assume the worse because.....

We wouldn't be here if we didn't care.  Each and every one of us have been there.  The knowledge that we must quit sooner or later.  The dread of thinking we can't have that next cigarette.  The fear of failing that first day.  We've felt everything you've felt...and then some.  Every quitter is unique and some of us take emotions to a new level   I've always been extremely emotional and I recognize that...those who love me accept it.

We want you to succeed.  We do!  We also want addiction to lose another victim.  We want big tobacco to lose money.  We want you to know that there are people in the world who support you no matter where you are in your quit!!

But it doesn't matter what we want, really,  It's all up to you.  You don't have to believe us.  You don't have to listen to us.  You don't have to trust that we want the best for you.  But I will continue to support you anyway   Silently if I need to. 

Lastly, please know that even when I'm not here , I wonder how you're doing.  I send a silent prayer your way.  I hope you're doing ok.  Because you aren't just a name on the screen for me....you are a human being capable of doing remarkable things in life!  So I wonder, pray, and hope for you  

I can't speak for everyone.  I don't speak for everyone.  But I know others here care.  If they take the time to respond to your post, they are showing they care.  If they ask about you, they are showing they care.  If they send you a message or write about you or comment to you, they are showing you they care.

So please don't think people talk down to you or are harsh in their comments.  If they didn't care, they wouldn't respond at all.  So know, please know!, that you matter to people here.  You are important and we care  

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