~~Some of the most comforting words in the universe are "me, too". That moment when you find out that your struggle is also someone else's struggle, that you are not alone, and that others have been down that same road.~~ Unknown
We all say it here, don't we? You're not alone. We've gone through what you're now going through. We understand. And that may comfort you some. You don't have to explain yourself because we know. You don't have to try to fit in because you do fit in. We know, we care, and you're not alone.
Sometimes, though, lines get blurred and suddenly the support that you've grown to rely on and enjoy becomes another obstacle. When you are afraid of 'disappointing' us because you relapsed. When you disappear rather than tell us that you 'failed'. When you hesitate to tell us that you slipped. When you don't want to ask questions because you don't want to appear less than competent.
Read that quote again...."that moment when you find out that your struggle is also someone else's struggle, that you are not alone, and that others have been down that same road.".
Believe me, when I tell you "I've been there", I've been there. Relapse, afraid to disappoint, disappeared....the whole shebang. Others here, too. We know what it feels like. We know.
No question is too 'simple'. No relapse will make us turn away. No slip will make us shun you. We know.
And I also know that your quit is YOUR quit. You don't have to do it like I did. You don't have to be like her or him or them. Be like you and do it like only you can. Your quit, your way. You are in charge. We support. Educate. Suggest. Encourage. Remind you that you are not alone.
I don't mean to talk for everyone here. But I do know that the elders here were once like you. New quitters with a bumpy road ahead of them. At least, I had one And I know every person here wants you to succeed.