~~If you're not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you're determined to learn, no one can stop you.~~ Unknown
I so often read here elders encouraging new quitters to "read, read, read". Educating yourself about your addiction and gaining knowledge about recovery can assist you in keeping your quit throughout your lifetime. But often new quitters read and don't really absorb the message. And sometimes new quitters read and think, "Why don't I get it???" And if you are at all like I was, you wonder why everyone else can quit and you 'failed' once again.
You can't read and expect the words to quit for you. You can't read and expect the author to quit for you. You can't read and expect it to magically happen.
Quitting takes commitment. Quitting takes effort. And quitting takes integrity. For instance, if you go into your quit saying, "I hope this one is my forever quit", you aren't committed. Maybe you're wavering between "I want this" and "I'm not sure I can".
If I can 'teach' you one thing, it is that when you decide to quit smoking, know in your heart and in your mind that you have just committed to never smoking another cigarette no matter what. Because that's what quitting means. No slips, no fails, no falls. That is the basis of your forever quit. Not smoking. Ever. Again.
And once you get that into your head, the rest is more about finding other things to do that you love as much as you once 'loved' smoking. A crave? Turn towards something else rather than back towards smoking. A stressful day? Turn towards something rather than back towards smoking. A devastating loss? Turn towards something rather than back towards smoking. Because you don't do that any more.
And you get to create what you turn towards! How fun is that?!! You can:
Dance, Paint, Sing, Work Out, Garden, Photography, Run, Yoga, Talk with a friend, Learn a foreign language, Take a Class, Volunteer, Spend time with family, Bake, Clean house, Work on your motorcycle, Travel, Camping, Take a hike, Rock climb, Read a good book, Write a book, Create something, Paint the inside of your closets, Sew, Start a club, Join a club, Skip, Join a gym, Plan a trip, Color your hair, get a GED, Trace your family tree, Sip tea, Drink coffee, eat a butterscotch, climb a tree, plant a tree, swim, snorkel, scuba dive, sky dive, rearrange your furniture, have a yard sale.....and so on and so on......
If you aren't willing to learn what to do to keep your quit, no one can help you. If you are determined to keep your quit, no one (or nothing!) can stop you. It's really that easy