For the past few weeks I've been so busy every day that I've almost forgotten my personal motto since retirement: Do One Thing. It's a way I give myself permission not to rush, not to jam multiple things into a day, and to calm my own anxieties.
You know that feeling, when you start thinking about all the things you want or have to do, and the anxiety starts to rise and pretty soon you're getting all edgy and weird. That's when I have to remind myself that today I only need to Do One Thing. Then tomorrow I can Do One Thing. I can take a deep breath and think about what I genuinely want to do right now.
Today's a beautiful day, and I really "should" take advantage of it by going outside. But I've already been to the house I'm trying to sell, mopped the floors and dusted, and I'm tired. So I remind myself that I Did One Thing, and now I'm done. I can flop on the couch and watch Star Trek Next Generation and breathe in the fresh air coming through the windows.
There will be other beautiful days to go out and play. No need to feel pressured. Tomorrow it's supposed to rain and I won't want to go anywhere. That's okay, I'll do something else. Regardless, I can give myself permission to feel accomplished today and not let any anxieties ruin things. When emotions get out of control, that's when defenses go down and triggers go up.
Do One Thing, and let go of the rest. I have to remind myself of this every day.