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Christy2026
Member

How to even begin and get through the first day

I want to quit...I need to quit... Yet and still I plan to quit then wake up that morning and think of all the completely illogical reasons why I want to KEEP smoking.....and then I give in.  I feel completely powerless over this behavior...but deep down I know I'm not powerless at all and it's up to me to commit and make the change.  Can anyone tell me how they finally followed through on the first day, couple days, week?  

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shashort
Member

Welcome to our EX family, this is a great place for educating yourself and a place of great support. You have lots of good information above heed their advice and read all you can. I smoked 30 years and I won't lie as quitting wasn't exactly the easiest for me but finding this group of support and the education, finding my determination, and commitment, and no matter what life brings just don't smoke as smoking does not solve or help anything is what helped me as I am getting close to my 1 year anniversary 7 days away. So if I and we all here in the community has quit by golly you CAN too. Will be here when you need us.

Christy2026
Member

Congratulations on your quitaversary!!!!  That's awesome!  I set my quit date for the 18th.  I'm reading Allen Carr's book and it's making me want to try and quit tomorrow (that and I've been smoking like it's my job the last two days and feel like total crap) but I know I need to finish the whole book first.  I keep telling myself...patience grasshopper....

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Sootie
Member

You've gotten a lot of GREAT advice and I want to echo what everyone else said....do the readings! Education is the key to beating this addiction.

Having said that-----here's a "trick" maybe that will help you with that "vicious cycle gerbil wheel" you are on......I've been there..................

1. Each night after a day of smoking, you decide...this is it. I feel terrible. Half of these cigarettes I did not even want!  I am quitting tomorrow.

2. You go to bed. MAYBE you even throw away the cigarettes......after all...tomorrow you are NOT SMOKING!

3. Morning comes and you feel this overwhelming longing for a cigarette and whatever your morning routine was. You can't get started without one!!!!!......and you have an important

a) date

b) meeting

c) exam

d) all of the above

4. You HAVE to smoke...you can't do it.

5. And so...................you smoke (you could sense where this was going, right?)

OK----just a small hint. It won't get you through ALL the days but it may jump start you through the first ones.......

DON'T quit in the morning! I've never been able to understand why people feel they must go to sleep and then quit.....in the morning! I guess it is the human "way" to start a new day. 

But you see, when you are a smoker....in the morning is when your body is STARVED for nicotine. After all....you just slept 6, 7 or 8 hours! Not a lot of smokers go 6, 7 or 8 hours in the day time without at least a puff or two. 

Plus, many of us are foggy in the morning.....not quite awake; not really our strongest selves. So the addiction is able to push us to keep smoking....you need it....you have to have it....look what a mess you are without it.

Quit in the afternoon. Of course....prepare, read, get your quit kit together....but just don't quit in the morning. 

That one little change may work. that and education and support....from all of us.

WELCOME TO EX......we are all here for each other.

Christy2026
Member

Omg thank you so much for your post. I'm reading Allen Carr's book and feeling pretty good about it. I actually was considering trying to make tomorrow my first day but I know I need to be patient and finish the book first as he instructed. But my most difficult time is morning and the reason you gave for that is exactly RIGHT!!!! I will definitely keep your suggestion in mind on my quit date. Thank you so much!!! Everyone is so supportive and kind and so understanding. I know I can get through this. I don't have much other support as I have tried to quit and started again I don't bother to tell anyone what I'm trying to do. Not to mention I hide it from certain people because of the shame of relapse and don't want to hear the lectures. So thanks to you and all who have responded. And good luck with your journey as well.

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freeneasy
Member

I didn't think I could get through day one either and thought I liked it too. I was able to do it because of a change in my daily routine due to surgery but lots of people who prepare and set a quit date stick to it and do it. We think we liked it but since we're nicotine addicts what we really like was getting a nicotine fix.You can read and learn how to do it and if you do you won't regret it. You'll probably find that it was the best thing you ever did for yourself.

Learn How to Quit Smoking (and Make it Stick) 

I just kept telling myself, I'm not smoking today.  I tried cold turkey and it just didn't work for me.  I used nicotine patches.  The first 30 days are the toughest and then each month gets easier little by little.  Go through the steps that they have in the beginning, tracking cigarettes, when you smoke the most, how you plan to separate from them.  Do as much reading as you can.  Use the search button (magnifying glass) to search out things you want to know about, like depression, restless leg, cravings, headaches, guilt, anger, whatever the mood of the day is, because I assure you there will be a lot of them popping up.  You'll be going through all sorts of craziness for the next six months, but it's so worth it and it's so doable.  Soooooooo, I'm Lori, I smoked for 43 years, never had a substantial quit, smoked close to 2 and 1/2 packs of cigarettes a day and have now been quit for close to 460 days (a year and a few months) and still going strong.  Stay close to this site.  ask all the questions you need.  We're all here to help you

Christy2026
Member

Hi Lori!  Thanks for your response and insight.  I had already typed out this whole big long response to you and then my phone froze up and I lost the whole thing.  So I will just say congratulations on your quit.  It's amazing and you are very inspirational!!  My quit date is the 18th and I'm reading Allen Carr's book along with some other materials.  Thanks again!!

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maryfreecig
Member

It's an addiction-- and so with quitting the addiction comes learning about the addiction, planning and preparation for your quit. But first understand that it is an addiction. You would have no trouble quitting if it were not. Relearning your smoke free life is a one day at a time, one step at a time adventure--it is 100% possible to get over smoking. Keep working it!