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Ralph1955
Member

Loneliness and Fear for all

Hello my friends.  I pray you are all doing well and are safe and healthy.  How the World has changed in the last few weeks.  Who would have ever thought we'd be living as we are right now.  It's a very difficult time for us all and I know the Stress and Anxiety are off the charts.  We are all strong people and will not turn back to smoking due to these dire times in our lives.  Continue to take the Pledge N.O.P.E.  We can do this.  

Many of us are out of work and separated from family and friends and it's a tough situation, especially those of us with elderly parents.  I haven't seen my mom in 3 weeks due to her facility being on Lock Down.  As many of you know my mom has dementia and cannot fully understand what's going on.  When we talk on the phone or do Facetime all she does is cry asking why we haven't seen her.  It is so difficult to explain what's going on and it leaves my sister and I feeling lost and helpless.  Dad has been gone for 6 months now and speaking with my sister she feels as if we've lost our mom and a bigger fear is, at 90 years old, she will succumb to the isolation and loneliness.

I don't know when this is going to end and how life will be changed for all of us.  We are living in a time that has so much uncertainty and our leaders, instead of working together, are at odds.  That is not helpful at all and I say Shame on them.  While our businesses are closed and most of us out of work, we ponder our future and pray we have something to go back to when it's all over.  My business has been closed for over a week; I closed before it was necessary to keep my staff and clients safe.  

I wanted to reach out to you all and include you in my prayers.  Now, that's all we can do.  Stay Safe, Stay Healthy and Hope for a better future.

Miss ya all,

 Ralph

17 Replies
sweetplt
Member

(((Ralph))))Ralph1955 I so get it...my parents facility has been locked down for three weeks...luckily I can talk to my mom by phone, but dad has Alzheimer’s...he doesn’t understand like your mom...yesterday I had a good cry because I miss them so much...especially my dad...but I pray...and know they are ok...needs being met...these are hard times...but hang on to your faith...and keeping positive and don’t watch much news...Gotcha in my thoughts and prayers ~ Colleen 484 DOF 

Ralph1955
Member

It’s the hardest time being separated but I keep assuring her we’ll all be together soon

sweetplt
Member

Big hugs Ralph...all we can do is reassure our love ones and tell them we love them...sending prayers and thoughts to you and your family...keep us posted on how your mom is doing...

Jennifer-Quit
Member

Keeping you and your family in my prayers Ralph.

YoungAtHeart
Member

I have a good friend in a LTC facility and haven't been able to reach her by phone for the past three days.  I am assuming she is OK because it would have been newsworthy if there was an outbreak there.  Worrisome, though.

I will keep YOU in my thoughts and prayers, too, Ralph.  May you continue to be safe, healthy and smoke free (of course!).

Nancy

Sootie
Member

Nancy--that is worrying...I presume you are trying to reach her on a phone in her room? Can you at least call the nurses station and ask about her? It is so upsetting not being able to see people in nursing homes or hospitals.

Barbscloud
Member

Ralph, nothing to add.   I think you summed up what we're all feeling.   My heart goes out to those who can't see their family members.  I know how devastating it would have been for me not to see the relatives I had in facilities.  

Stay safe.

Barb

Swanbird
Member

Life is hard right now! I have many things in common with you.  We just gotta stay strong and do what we can to be positive as hard as it is.  

RachelMB
Member

You said it all Ralph and I couldn't agree with you more.  Please stay safe and healthy.  I will add you and your family to my prayer list. 

Rachel