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redluvr
Member

I'm experiencing grief.

I quit on 10/25/19. I thought I was experiencing withdrawal when I started waking up too early and crying uncontrollably nearly every morning. But now on my 11th day as a former smoker, I'm starting to think this feels more like the loss of a loved one. Don't get me wrong, I'm 100% committed to never smoking again because I've come to the conclusion that if I don't stop, it WILL eventually kill me. That said, I'm not very happy about this situation. Can anyone else relate?

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pmt
Member

Hi redluvr, 

I'm 39 days into my quit this time.  This is my 3rd go round since April.  I screwed up and gave up twice, but I'm determined to be smoke free!   Every morning I would wake up earlier than normal and my first thoughts would be smoke, coffee.  No crying but very strong cravings.  Its still happening, but getting better.  I force myself to stay in bed, I really want to get up and turn on the coffee pot, but I'm just being as bull headed as I can.  Sometimes I even go back to sleep.  I love my coffee and I enjoy telling myself how much better it really tastes with out that crappy smoke!  I even slurp the coffee with joy.  I find myself celebrating that great cup of java smoke free.   Smokes ran my life, I'm now taking charge, it's my turn.  Hang in there my friend, there's proof we can do this........IT GETS BETTER AND BETTER.

p.s. physically I feel so much better already, amazing considering I sucked on those stupid things for 50 years and after a short period of time I feel physical improvement.  I'm Happy 🙂

pmt  39 DOF

JJett
Member

I was next in line after you this morning on the Daily Pledge. You reached your hand out to me and saved me this morning. I am only 9 days in so thank you for the encouragement. You can do this, you are stronger than you know. Peace and Love to you!

tuckeww
Member

You are doing great,just keep repeating to yourself each day is a new day,not just another day while always reflecting

on where you were when you smoked reguarly.Moreover never forget to pat yourself on your back from where you
were ,because right now everthing you need is right in front of your face (smoke free)

Roj
Member

You got this just stay strong and come here...it gets better,I did some crying too and honestly I think it is like grieving the loss of a friend...a killer friend but a friend just the same...if you haven’t read Alan Carr’s book I suggest it strongly...and just keep saying “I don’t do that anymore” your brain will eventually catch up to your words...blessings

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PastTense
Member

Congratulations on your quit days!  They are really starting to pile up.  It looks good on you.

I have compared quitting smoking to leaving that manipulative boyfriend that you KNOW is bad for you and your family barely tolerates for your sake and your friends just can't stand.  Everybody around you knows that he isn't The One for you, but you keep hanging with him because you remember that time when he was fun.  Besides, would rather be with him than alone.    But you finally break up because you know there has to be something better out there.

Cigarettes are the same.  It's a break up.  You will feel sad for all the times you thought a cigarette was your friend and all the times when you associated having fun with a cigarette. You are also going to feel all the feelings you hid with smoking. 

It can be rough and I feel your pain.  You are so wise to come here to vent instead of sneaking back to your ex.

PT

Keep the Quit
PT
sweetplt
Member

Hi and Welcome redluvr 

First, Congratulations on your quit...second, you are feeling what most all of us felt in the beginning of our quit...once the physical withdrawal is gone, we work on the mental withdrawal...I found I basically went through the stages of grief when I quit smoking...Denial, Bargaining, Depression, and then the best place Acceptance...there is so much to this journey then just quitting...we smoked through everything in our life...and now we are learning to handle our feelings, situations, people, etc., without the smokes...Lastly, remember you smoked a long time and it takes a long time for your body to heal...try to embrace the goodness of the quit...if you continue to feel depressed more than normal or it doesn’t stop...consult your Doctor...keep close, we will help...Happy Wednesday ~ Colleen 338 DOF ~

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

What you are feeling is normal.  I suggest writing /blogs/aztec-blog/2010/08/08/write-your-goodbye-letter-letssee-it 

Barbscloud
Member

As other's have said, what you're experiencing isn't uncommon.   My quit was very emotional--I have very little physicial withdrawal symptoms.   Feeling sad and crying for no reason.  Stay strong, it will pass.  

Barb

indingrl
Member

SUGGESTION made to ME - YEARS AGO - to write a goodbye letter to - MY lover - NICOTINE - to MY best friend NICOTINE - it sounds silly - yet - it worked - a divorce letter - I do believe they have some BLOGS here that explain this process - YOUR DOING GOOD- CONGRATS 14 NON SMOKER DAYS - YAHOOOOOOOOOOO - gentle hug