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[Pookweencess]

HELP!  Day 82 why am I struggling so hard- I am exhausted and worn out from fighting this- illlis it ever going to stop

[YoungAtHeart]

Never fear - you are doing just fine!  You are in the portion of this quit journey we have chosen to call No Mans Land:  No Mans Land Days 30 to 130 (approximate).       

What you are feeling is perfectly normal!  It WILL end - and SOON!  Just hang in there a little longer.  You are almost THERE!  I had probably my most difficult day on 108.

Hang in there - pull out those tools you found useful early in your quit.  Get busy!  Get through these FINAL rough days the best you can.

It WILL end - I promise!

Nancy

[constanceclum]

Just don't quit before the miracle! I struggled for 7 weeks with tough cravings but held on tight to my quit. Then things got so much easier, and I actually was feeling like a nonsmoker. Remember, I have never regretted a cigarette not smoked. The times in the past that I relapsed and smoked-I regretted 100% of the time!

Connie

[Barbscloud]

First of all congrats on 82 days smoke free.  We haven't heard from you for a while.  Have you read the material about No Man's Land?  There's where you are now.  It can be a difficult time for some, but knowing what to expect makes such a difference.  I know it's easier said than done, but try to not see it as a fight, see it as a success.   You've accomplished something that is very difficult to do.  You should be so proud of yourself.    I'm glad you reached out.  Support during those rough times can make all the difference.  I know I wouldn't have gotten this far without the help I received here early on.   Stay close and CELEBRATE being a non-smoker.  Remember "I don't do that anymore"

Barb

[Pookweencess]

Thank you for the encouragement I am trying so hard but am losing the energy to fight this shot anymore

[Barbscloud]

Please don't give up.  You've come so far-- do you really want to go through this all over again.  You're so close to being a non-smoker for good.  Come to the site as much as you need us right now.   What are you doing to refocus your thoughts?  Go for walk, play a video game, there's so many things to do instead..  My quit was very emotional.  Physical withdrawal symptoms were nil.  I know how hard it was for me being down, sad, and crying for no reason.  It took a good while and it wasn't easy, but I made it through.   You can too.

Barb

[marciem]

Pookweencess‌... Hi!  I'm so glad you've hung on... CONGRATULATIONS on 82 days!!. 

In your last thread, I posted a note about riding the waves, and not struggling so hard.  You might go back and read that again.  The struggle can be exhausting, so sometimes you just need to go with it, relax and let the waves carry you to comfort.

You haven't come this far only to get this far... seriously!!  It DOES get better, and very soon.  Look for the good things that are happening, because they really are.  And take a look back at your first days/weeks, and realize that it really isn't as bad now as it was then.  You should be having a golden day here or there, and they will become more frequent and last longer the more time you put between you and your last smoke.

The above advice is also very true... No Man's Land can be a slog, but it is sooooo worth it to keep on, step after step, day after day.  You WILL find it easier with time!

[angel51859]

Hi Pookweencess,

I rarely am on this site, but I saw you reaching out for help! today.  Here are some suggestions , I promise if you

take at least one of them you will get through another day.

1.  For today I CHOOSE NOT TO SMOKE FOR A HEALTHIER ME

2. Call a friend or support person to help you through.

3.  Put all of your exhaustion, concerns , blocks in a 'WORRY"  BOX AND DO A CONSISTENT 

     AFFIRMATION THAT ITS "JUST FOR TODAY"  , after all 82 days becomes 820 days 8200 days

    82,000 days.  

4. Reflect and discuss in the 82 days what made it easier for you to get through the day?

5. Most important change your mindset.  LOL THIS IS SO UNBELIEVABLE FOR ME TO SAY THIS

    THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT WAY I GOT THROUGH.  

6. Chew gum, sugarless candy, excercise, go for a walk,  TAKE CAN'T OUT OF YOUR VOCABULARY.

7.  STAY ON BECOME AN EX!   EVERY MOMENT POSSIBLE AND CONNECT WITH PEOPLE

      THAT HELP YOU.

8.  IF YOUR A PRAYER PERSON-PRAY FOR THE WILL POWER AND GOD TO HELP YOU 

      A DAY OR A MINUTE OR AN HOUR AT AT TIME!

9.  Know that if you did 82 days you can do one more day and one day and so on!

N.O.P.E. ( NOT ONE PUFF EVER) I put this on my screen saver so I seen it all the time !

YOU CAN AND WILL DO THIS ! AND REWARD YOURSELF LITTLE GIFTS WITH EVERY 

DAY YOU ARE SMOKE FREE!  YOU GOT THIS!

Stay blessed,

Angel

XOXO

[Barbara145]

Dale's wonderful advise is " talk yourself out of it, not into it."  I hear that from you right now.  Don't talk yourself into it.  I smoked for 52 years and talked myself into smoking again many times.  I now have emphysema.  Wish I could describe how it feels to not be able to breathe. Yesterday was 6 years since I quit.  Life is so much better as a non-smoker.  I love better, I am more even-keeled and I even look better at 72. Hang on a little longer.  Most people lose their quits between day 30 to 130.  You can do this.

[jonimarie]

Wonderful 6 years Congratulations.

You are a treasure here