This is so hard

[Sis71]

I am starting my quit again today. I am so frustrated that I cant make it through a normal day. The only way I feel this will work is if I dont leave my house. EVER!! I want this so much but my mind gets the best of me and I feel like a complete failure. I am very disappointed in myself and I am very sorry for restarting my quit date.

 

Sissy 

[JACKIE1-25-15]

Yes quitting is hard.  It may be one of the hardest things we have done in our lives.  Withdrawal from a drug is not easy.  Just like any other drug you can not feed it and be free. Education is the key to a successful quit!  If you do not educate yourself about nicotine addiction you may continue on a cycle of relapse.  Quitting is a challenge but with a commitment not to take a puff no matter what, which includes whether you are inside or outside.  It is and will always be a choice.  I am sorry that you have not been able to be consistent.   I always advise new members to stay close,  Be here, participate, read, study, blog.  Come here BEFORE you smoke.  To stop the vicious cycle and not become a serial quitter take it seriously and analyze what caused you to smoke.  Have a plan for what to do differently when you have the urge to smoke. Make a vow that you will not smoke if it happens again Get rid of all smoking materials it lessens the chances of being tempted. rt It is good that you are starting over. Never give up.  Start with a commitment that NOPE to yourself no matter what so that you do not give up.  Be prepared to hang tough.  You will not die from quitting but from smoking.  

 Keep it Simple"...

 101 Things to Do Instead of Smoke

Stay Connected 

Quit Date - How to Reset 

UNDERSTANDING EXCUSES EXCUSES

[GyorgyiM]

Okay, I am not pushing religion or anything like that on you, but perhaps give this a try.....just believe.

YOU GOT THIS!!

Smiles......................

Gyorgyi

[PastTense]

Awwww, Sissy.  I hear you.  This is HARD.  You are fighting addiction and fighting addiction is not easy.

Obviously, becoming a hermit is no way to live.  But smoking is no way to live, either.

What have you tried in the past to help with your quit?

My method was to create an actual, written (by hand) quit plan.  This made a huge difference.

I listed the times I was tempter or triggered to smoke and wrote down what I would do instead.

I also used nic-gim (per the package directions)

I signed in here and spent some time every single day.  That's the real ticket to success

I am on day 69

I've gained 7 pounds - and already lost 2 of them.

You can quit.  This site can help.  We are standing by to applaud your success.

PT

[Barbscloud]

Make this the last day.   You can do it.  Reach out today if you want to smoke.  

Barb

[JACKIE1-25-15]

[AnnetteMM]

Yes you can make it through a day, but you are choosing not to. You're giving yourself permission to give up.

DON'T DO THAT. It's not strength that gets you through. It's not willpower. It's your WILLINGNESS to go through what you need to in order to be FREE.

[YoungAtHeart]

What are you going to do differently THIS time?  Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result! 

Have you done the recommended reading?  Do you have a plan in place of what you can do instead when a craving hits?  Do you UNDERSTAND the addiction you are fighting from which to break free?  Do you have a list of distracting activities you can do?  Have you figured out how to change up your routines so the associations and triggers are lessened?  Gotten rid of all cigarettes in your possession (keeping any around is giving yourself permission to fail)?

Do all of this, and come here with us and read and participate every day.  The Daily Pledge is a good place to start each day.

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/thread/25767-the-daily-pledge-october-2019.

Blog "HELP" before you give in and smoke.

And - keep in mind that the difficult part is the first couple of weeks.  You don't have to be a hermit FOREVER!!!  Once you get past those first days, they will start to get easier - I promise.

Hang in there - it IS possible - one day at a time.

Nancy

[Thovis]

I agree with Youngatheart.  You have to figure out what works, what doesn't and make adjustments.  I've attempted to quit many times and I learned something from all of them.  The most important thing I learned was that I was letting my brain play tricks on me.  The number one thing you have to do to quit smoking is pretty simple, make the decision to quit your decision.  

If you attempt to quit you have already failed.  We often stop smoking and we wait for a big sign that says, "you don't smoke anymore".   It won't happen.  The day you smoke the last cigarette is the only action that will happen that tells you that you're no longer a smoker.  

If you haven't yet, consider medication.  Wellbutrin and / or Chantix makes a big difference for most people.  

[virgomama]

Everything has already been said that I would have told you.  I've quit more times than I can count.  My last 3 I told myself I was going to keep quittin my entire life if I had to.  Because it was getting to be the priniple of the matter as much as the health reasons.  I don't like anything or anyone having control over me and nicotine had me by the throat.  

I am one year quit.  Here was my plan.  

I used the patches.

I read volumes on this site and used it to set up my plan.

I wrote my plan down and kept it in front of me all the time, so when one of those crazy moments hit I just had to look at it and find something to do

I joined the daily pledge everyday.

I joined in conversations and started some of my own on this site.  

I used this site and the people on it as an alcoholic/addict uses a sponsor in AA/NA.  I called for help.

Sometimes I would just get on and blog or read to keep me busy and pointed in the right direction.

My self talk when I wanted a cigarette was "I don't do that anymore, what should I do instead?"  and NOPE (Not One Puff Ever).

You will only fail if you stop quitting.  You can do this.  This is a journey.  Embrace it.  All of it.  You will get to your final quit.  And I will tell you after being a year w/o smoke it is worth every single crazy moment I had to get there.  

TAKE THE PLUNGE...  EMBRACE THIS CHALLENGE.....YOU WON'T BE SORRY.