Are You Still Wondering, Fighting This Quitting Thing?

[Giulia]

/blogs/JustSharon-blog/2017/09/14/a-bit-gross-inside   Sept. 14, 2017. 

A week after that post she smoked again.  Feb. 26, 2018 she died.

I don't know what brought me back to this blog on this night, but whatever brought me back I'm glad of.  Maybe it's Sharon!  This person is no longer alive.  She's one of the people here who tried and tried to quit.  She's one who is "gone but not forgotten."  She may be just like you at this moment in your quit.  Or she may be just like you before you've finally chosen to quit.  Or she may be just like you who knows you should but haven't yet come to grips with your reality.  Just read her blog.  And know that she is dead.  Dead as dead can be.  Died in Feb. 2018.  At age 62.  She waited too long. Here's another post of hers:

/blogs/JustSharon-blog/2017/05/28/where-have-i-gone-wrong 

Are you still wondering?  Still thinking you can't? Still thinking it's too hard?  Maybe her blogs will shake up your world and give you the freedom you want and don't want at the same time.  None of us wanted to quit.  None of us really understood what freedom from this addiction was until we achieved it.  May Sharon's spirit haunt you!  (And I mean that in a very good and loving way.) 

[MarilynH]

I remember Sharon and I remember how horrible I felt when I heard she died I'm so glad that you posted this Giulia and I pray that everyone will stop and read this because hopefully it will resonate with at least one person that is struggling with remaining quit chin up if you're having a hard time stay focused and take back your life from the clutches of the dreaded nicotine poison while you still can!

[constanceclum]

Oh sweet Jesus, my heart is leterally breaking! I don't know why this quit is different from my past failures. I know 1 thing I managed to do was when that "have just 1" was still fuzzy, in a distant part of my brain, I found a way to stop it in it's tracks before it became a full blown thought. I would never be able to tell anyone how to do that. We just lost 2 members of AA to alcohol related deaths. 1 started drinking about a year ago after 40 yrs. of sobriety. The other struggled for about 40 yrs. in and out of the program. We say in AA "some must die so others can live". Sad reality!

Connie

[AnnetteMM]

I remember how shaken I was when I first saw one of those banners on a profile pic. It's real.

REAL.

And it's really important to take it in.

[Roj]

What a powerful reminder of why we need to put those nasty things down forever and what an evil hold they have on our brain to make us believe they are necessary....necessary to stay calm, to relax, to help deal with sadness, to be the dessert after a meal, with coffee....little liars!!!!

[Mike.n.Atlanta]

To all: Sharon was one that most of us knew only through this medium. But what about those loved ones we've lost in the same way as Sharon. Why did that not stir us to action? We lost another, Betty (Froguelady), a couple of years ago but members still returned to their old ways. Occasions such as these can only serve as a reminder & motivation. We really only quit when we've decided that we're doing it for ourselves. When we make that decision, only then do we have the willingness to change our lives. We don't know what kind of changes will happen but we don't care. Our willingness is stronger than the fear of quitting.

I hope everyone reads your blog Giulia & clicks those links to Sharon's words. Couldn't hurt.