So im at the end of day 2 in my quit. And my wife tells me its not really quitting since im suing the patch.
I know it is hard to tell your wife to butt out of f this unless she can be more supportive. But please tell her that you can indeed successfully quit while using some sort of aid in the beginning. The trick is in following directions, weaning yourself off of the aid as quickly as recommended or even more quickly if you feel comfortable with that, listening to all the wise advice you get here, educating yourself on the addiction and how to break it, and committing to NOPE (not one puff ever). I will be celebrating 4 years without a puff this coming August, and I used the patch in the beginning. Stick with the plan, and show your wife it can be done!
So sorry to hear that. I'm a big proponent of cold turkey over NRTs, but that's just my experience. There are many here with very successful quits using the patch. Whatever works for you is the best way for you! Stay strong and your S.O. will come around when she sees all your days won.
Well, your wife is wrong. If you are not smoking, you are quitting. It is the delivery system that makes all the difference. Is your wife a smoker? I quit with no nicotine replacement but I got so sick that my quit date was selected by my failing lungs. Quitting is not an event, it is a journey. Education about the addiction is really vital, as is support from people who have been where you are, and then you have to bring your own commitment not to smoke, no matter what. You should stay close to the site and read blogs, make comments, see what it working for others. I think you should read a couple of blogs written by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 that you may find helpful. What To Expect In The First Four Months and My Welcome To New Members (12+ Years Of Watching) You will find lots of helpful blogs in Best of EX which has some of the most supportive blogs ever written.
Just because you are using the patch, it does not quit FOR you, you have to do the work to stay quit. You might want to share this with your wife, Letter to a Loved One Maybe it will help. Lots of people here quit with the patch or other nicotine replacement, some used or are using Wellbutrin or Chantix.
This journey is one day at a time and sometimes it may need to be one hour or one feeling at a time. You CAN do this.
Welcome to EX,
The patch is a tool that many people have used to wean themselves off the habit and then cut back on the patch strength to wean off the addiction to nicotine, etc. I see it as a valid method of quitting. It's not the one I used, but whatever works!
Perhaps when the time is right, mention to your S.O. that you could use her support.
Congrats on cutting out the puffing.
You have some good answers above me...I am so sorry your wife doesn’t understand addiction...You are not smoking...that is quitting...You hang in there and keep saying NO to smokes...~ Colleen 183 DOF
Easy - are you smoking? NO? Then you have quit smoking!
She is correct that you are still using the addictive substance, nicotine - but you are dealing with one part of the addiction at a time. While you are relearning your triggers, associations and changing up your routines, you are concentrating on THAT part of the addiction. As you get better at that, you will be better able to wean down the amount of nicotine you are getting and finally also wean off of it.
You are choosing to quit smoking in a way that you feel is best for YOU! Don't let anybody belittle your effort. It is valuable and worthwhile.....and you might tell her the "experts" who actually know a bit about this addiction approve. This way has worked for many.
Pay more attention to us and our advice than your wife's. It'll take you farther down the road to a successful quit! Just sayin'! But with humor behind it, not nastiness. Take what works in the way of advice and let go of what doesn't. But DO pay attention to the wisdom offered that you DON'T like. Sometimes it's what we need. Kinda like bad medicine. Doesn't taste good but it works.
Just want to reinforce what's already been said. There's nothing wrong using an aid-the end result is the same. You're a non-smoker. It's your quit, so never loose sight of that. Wishing you continued success.
Congratulations on 2 days of freedom and working on 3 that is huge. As everyone said above nothing wrong with using the patch, since it is working for you. One day at a time will get you through. Stay strong. You got this
The first goal is not to smoke. If the patch helps you. Great. I hope your wife can be more supportive and do some research on nicotine addiction etc. If not, be your own support. Do what you feel comfortable doing to stay quit.
Lol, does she smoke? Use any and all things that help.
My guess is; "ah, no!"
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