Help! I am losing it!

[amiray39]

I feel silly typing help on my phone like this but if it can work for me, I guess it's worth it. I am losing my stuff!!! I keep thinking I'm doing good. I mean I'm trying to hold my P's and q's but it's obviously not been good enough! My husband feels I am mean, I guess! I just want to go out to his truck and smoke one. My head keeps saying nobody has to know but me and that I am a better wife when I smoke. Losing it!!! I really thought I could do this and want to but .... I don't know....

[YoungAtHeart]

Of COURSE you can do this - stop the stinkin thinkin' right NOW! You are in line for a lung transplant - do you want to jeopardize that by having detectable nicotine in your system?

Control your thoughts.  Apologize to your husband for your current and any other transgressions that might occur in the near future.  He should understand that this is an ADDICTION from which you are battling to be free!  It will make you grouchy, and short-tempered and yes, even mean-spirited for a time while you detox from the ADDICTION! 

And then you won't smell like a dirty ashtray; you can plan a weekend getaway with the money you will be saving; did I mention that you won't taste like a dirty ashtray when he kisses you?

You don't want to smoke - it's the addiction within you that is trying to lure you back - but don't fall victim to it again.  You are stronger than its pull.

Think about something else!  Count the blue things in the room - march in place and count your steps - call a friend - write a blog (gee - you DID that  - good for you!), clean out a drawer, take a shower or a bath, play a computer game.

It should soon be time for bed....grab a book or a magazine and go there NOW!

Just don't smoke!!!!!!!!!!

Nancy

[amiray39]

Got it!

P.s.

Don't need a lung transplant that I know of and really don't want to set myself up for one!

[YoungAtHeart]

Sorry I mixed you up with somebody else.....it's late and I had  a devil of a PT session today.  Glad it wasn't you, actually.

Happy I helped get you back on track!

[JACKIE1-25-15]

Quitting smoking may be one of the hardest things you will have to do. But it is so worth the insanity right now.  Here is a blog that may help you and your spouse. /blogs/SkyGirl-blog/2013/11/06/dear-friends-family-heres-what-to-expect-from-me-while-i-quit  In the meantime, your quit is the priority. NOPe no matter what will get you through.  Deep breathing works wonders.  Relax when the stress comes. https://www.webmd.com/smoking-cessation/quit-smoking-cut-stress#1 

You can do this. 

[Sootie]

Guess what? Non smokers are also irritable and mean sometimes.  I am an EX smoker.......I've been quit for nine years and I am irritable and mean sometimes.

Smoking solves nothing, changes nothing and does no good for either you or your husband.

Stay Strong.

[shashort]

Don't let that nicotine dude-ette lure you back in.  All is a lie I am sure your a good wife with or without a cigerette.  Remember smoking won't do a good thing for you. Try taking a hot bubble bath and relax and practice deep breathing.  I like lighting candles and play relaxing music, and it is awe so relaxing.  Another thing that helped me was sucking on mints and carrying a water bottle with straw so I could suck up nice ice cold refreshing water which is good for you, helps flush the toxins.  Remember NOPE NO MATTER WHAT will get you another day won.

[Beck37]

You are not losing it and you are not a better wife when you are smoking....  maybe he needs to be a better husband and cut you some slack. Remind him if he truly loves you he will be willing to suck it up for a bit while you get your berrings. In the long run your quit is going to be a positive for your entire family. 

Hang in there! You are smarter than this and you know that there is nothing positive about continuing to smoke so just get that silly thought out of your head. Just sit your family down for a family meeting and just explain you might not be your “normal” self for a bit but if they hang in you will come out as the “better” self you were meant to be.

Dont let your addict take over. Stay out of your head. Think before you speak and be amazing!

Beck

[MarilynH]

As horrendous as quitting smoking can be thankfully it is very Doable and totally worth it so hang on tight and don't let go because you will get through the roller coaster ups and downs of withdrawals and moodswings and lack of sleep to get to that point where you realize how much better life is as an EXer then you'll never ever want to go back to Day ONE again BUT Each and every Day WON will put a smile on my face, it will take awhile to get to that good place in your quit but you'll get there one precious Smokefree Day at a time or hour minute or even a second at time, just keep moving forward and stacking up those DOF - Days Of Freedom......

[amiray39]

Thank you all! I did not smoke. I went to bed.