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awc1989
Member

Quit Smoking Today one of my many attempts wish me luck.

I actually had fully quit cold turkey back in 2012 before that had smoked for like 6 years, then started back up smoking again mid last year in june little by little got back into my old smoking habit again smoking about a pack to a pack and a half a day im 29 now will be 30 this friday my wife still smokes and all of my friends smokes which makes it tough my mom smokes her boyfriend and so on the list goes on under lots of stress each day tried quitting like 4 to 6 times now and have failed.

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YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

I would wish you luck if you were going to play a slot machine, but there is no luck involved in quitting smoking, .There is education, preparation, planning and commitment - we can help with all but the last!  It's GREAT that you are quitting at a young age before it is too late for your body to take care of the healing necessary to negate the bad effects.

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance.


 After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:


 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

indingrl
Member

CONGRATS AND GOOD JOB!

sweetplt
Member

Hi and Welcome to Ex’s awc1989 

It is wonderful you made the decision to quit smoking.  Might I suggest, read and actively participate at My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX ... I believe it is important to read about Quitting (Knowledge) and writing plans for your quit date and the days following after (Preparation).  Also, for sometime you will have to avoid people and places where there is smoking.  If you can’t avoid ask that they help you quit by smoking away from you.  We are all in this journey together to give and get help to each other.  Keep close to the site.  ~ Good Luck ~ Colleen

anaussiemom
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elvan
Member

 awc1989  This is not a habit...it is an addiction.  I am really sorry that you are surrounded by friends and family who smoke, please enlist their help in your quit as well as ours.  Ask them not to smoke indoors, ask them not to leave their cigarettes laying around and within your line of vision...ask them to understand that you want to take care of yourself and tell them that you really would love it if they would do the same.  Read everything you can find about nicotine addiction, education is a huge help, seek support from this site and any others you can find on line, COMMIT to your quit, to stay smoke free, no matter what.  Quitting is not an event, it is a journey, one day at a time and sometimes, it is one hour or one feeling at a time.  You CAN do this...I suggest paying close attention to all of the advice that YoungAtHeart‌ has offered you and I also suggest that you read a blog by JonesCarpeDiem‌ My Welcome To New Members (12+ Years Of Watching) You are young enough to have perhaps avoided any serious damage to your body.  Cigarettes do nothing for you but believe me, they can do a whole lot TO you and none of it is good.  No crave ever killed anyone but no one can say that about cigarettes.  You might want to print this out and give it to your friends and family members: Letter to a Loved One  Take this one step at a time, even if they are baby steps.

Welcome to EX, please stay close to the site, please make a plan and follow it.  Identify your triggers and plan what you will do instead of smoking.  KNOW that you can do this.  I used the mantra NOPE, Not One Puff Ever when I came here, it was easy to remember and to say quietly or loudly and to remind myself that one puff would be all that it would take to go back to a day one of my quit...no one wants to go back there.

Believe in yourself...believe in freedom.  We all want to help you succeed, I came here every morning and every evening when I first quit and after more than five years, I still do for the most part.  It's not because I am afraid I will smoke, it is to pay it forward and to support others the way I was supported when I came here.

Best to you,

Ellen

excuse yourself and make your move when they light up. you'll be doing them and yourself a favor because they will be reminded of what they're doing. Do it in a nice way so they take it the right way. 

jconfusion
Member

u need to tell the ppl in your life that you are quitting smoking and it would be best if they smoke outside or quit with you, get ride of all the ashtrays lighters cigs I got three months worth of  Nicorette  gum  the 3rd month to ween myself off the gum.  you got this and you don't know how strong you are until you've tried. good luck!

june

Deena-A-Yenni
Member

You've got this.  READ  READ  READ.