Dreams

[Gwenivere]

Had my first smoking dream last night.  Embellished as dreams are, the pack was gorgeous and the cig I pulled out had this beautiful glow.  I looked at it and sadly put it back in the pack.  It was a time I could honesty cheat but didn’t.  I’ve been having days of really wanting a real cigarette having just passed my first month.  I hope this eases a bit soon. I didn’t expect it to hit so hard now.p

[virgomama]

Wow! Gwenivere I haven't been on the site much the last 30 days.  I want to give you a big yahoo for making 30 days.  I know it was a hard road.  Good job!!.  My dream was waking up and smelling smoke.  I thought my partner had snuck a smoke in on me. I even accused him of it.  But he hadn't.  Congrats on your 30.  I felt really good about myself when I hit 30.  I didn't feel good physically, just felt good I'd made it.

[Giulia]

I hope this eases a bit soon. I didn’t expect it to hit so hard now.

And if it doesn't ease soon?  What will you do?  You need to answer that question for yourself.  What will you do if it doesn't ease up soon?  Go back to smoking?  After all the struggle and time you've put in?  Or will you put up with it for as long as it takes?   /blogs/Giulia-blog/2015/02/23/expectations-timelines-and-the-reality-you-create 

You know what my answer was to myself when I asked that same question?  "What'll I do if this doesn't end soon?  Too bad!  Tough!  You wanted to be smoke free, you chose this, get over it.  You either stay the course or you go back to another day one.  What's your choice?"  I chose not to go back to another day one.  I come across as a tough love mentor, probably because I was tough love on myself.  It wasn't any easier for me than you.  I went nuts.  But I was willing to go through whatever it took to end the misery.

There are two ways to end the misery of quitting.  Smoke - or stay the course until a cigarette is the LAST thing on your mind. 

[Gwenivere]

I appreciate your tough love approach.  None of this is hearts and flowers.  I don’t want to go back.  I’d like to think if I did I would have smoked that dream cigarette.  Obviously you remember the misery of the beginning.  It’s a tough fight every day and I hope to achieve what all those that broke free feel.  

[maryfreecig]

You had a quit smoking dream!!! What a powerful and positive dream.   Keep it coming.

[Barbara145]

Good morning Gwenivere.  I think you are doing great.  Wow, what a change I see in you emotionally.  I do believe that not smoking in your dream says a lot about your intentions for this quit.  I loved Giulia's" message to you.  It is so true.  You suck it up, no matter what it takes.  "A cigarette being the last thing you think about"  Is the most wonderful thing in the world for a former smoker.  You will get there.  "It just takes time  Happy New Year.  Get out of the house, stop dwelling on the past and enjoy this beautiful life you were given.  Take care.

[AnnetteMM]

There will come a day when that cigarette won't look so good, and the wanting will be gone. The day comes at  different times for everyone, but it does come. It does. Believe it and look forward to it.

[YoungAtHeart]

There WILL come a midday when you realize you didn't think of smoking at ALL that morning.  It WILL come - I promise.  In the meantime, get through each day the best that you can.  This is not an easy journey - but you are DOING it!  Be proud and happy in the fact you have a month of not smoking.   Could you have imagined you would get this far when you started?  Probably not.  Try to rejoice in it!

Nancy

[Bellegonia]

I have an obsession with finding the source of a cigarette smell

I also wanted to watch people smoke at first - which has now morphed in to wanting to tell them how to quit (which I don't do, of course but I think it. LOL). I have had some incredibly random urges, strong ones too! But like you, I stayed the course. 4 months in and barely think about smoking any more, except for those random times I mention.

We are doing GREAT!

Belle

[YoungAtHeart]

Even after 6+ years smober, I STILL love the smell of cigarette smoke outside wafting on a breeze.  In a room or on a person - not so much!!

Doesn't mean I want one - NOPE