cancel
Showing results for 
Show  only  | Search instead for 
Did you mean: 

Give and get support around quitting

cindycraig
Member

Need help

I slipped and smoked six cigarettes,  extremely tired and stressed . Do I set a new quit date and start over?#

24 Replies
TW517
Member

I think so.  The longer you wait, the harder it will be.  You'll just be adding to that stress.  Don't beat yourself up too much.  We've all been there.  Make a "decision to quit" this time instead of saying you will "try to quit".

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

 Welcome to EX.  I would say yes, keeping it real and honest.  Get rid of everything that is associated with smoking you will have less tendency to slip. To be successful quitting you must educate yourself about nicotine addiction.  One puff will always take you back to full-blown addiction. NOPE, not one puff ever will keep you free. 

Start First, by educating yourself about nicotine addiction.  Education is the key to a successful quit.

Understand the law of addiction."

Law of Addiction 

Administration of a drug to an addict will cause re-establishment of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance."

You have come to the right place for support.   When we start this journey sometimes we have to change the people places and things for a while in order to make a change.  We have to set boundaries and let our friends and family know that we are quitting smoking.  One day a time with support quitting is doable.  

Read: Freedom from Nicotine My Journey Home and Nicotine Addiction 101   Here are the links      http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html   and http://whyquit.com/ffn/  

Also Read   Allen Carr’s book, “Easy Easier Way to Quit Smoking”.  Which can be purchased of found pdf format on the internet. You can start here My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX  Help Community to learn how to navigate around the site. 

Barbscloud
Member

That would be the best decision you could make.  Don't feel bad, we've all been there.  

karenjones
Member

I've been there 5 times.  I slipped after 5 years, boy it hurt when I threw that quit away and it was harder than hard to quit again. But I am over 8 months free and thankful to be so.

Barbscloud
Member

You know we're only a few days apart?   I quit on March 13th, but never had a long time quit.  This is my first.

Barb

0 Kudos
MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the community please read the links suggested above me and keep reading everything you can about quitting smoking and remaining quit because there's a wealth of information right here on this site to strengthen your resolve to quit and stay quit and stay quit once you've done the reading pick your quit date and when your Day ONE arrives keep busy and at the end of the day you'll be able to say YAY for Day WON with many more to come you can do this quit believe it deep breaths and know that we're all here to help you in any way we can.....

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

In a word - YES!  You really don't know which cigarette will start the cellular chain reaction to a serious illness....so the sooner the better,  Take a moment to think about the emotion or circumstance that caused you to make that decision.  Then make a plan NOW for what you can do differently in that situation next time.  Also wet and trash the rest of that pack - you won't be needing them anymore.  You can use the readings and suggestions I will provide as distractions after you quit.

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance.
 
 After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:


 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Giulia
Member

Greetings and Welcome!  In my opinion, yes, do set a new date and start over.  It's important to hold ourselves accountable and as Jackie said, keep it real and honest.  Being tired and stressed makes us more vulnerable.  Many have slipped during stressful times.  You're definitely not alone in that.  You might go through the material in Relapse Prevention .  In particular:  https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/message/30750-the-stress-trap 

destressify.gif