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Cavebaby1966
Member

Quiting

So how do I quit do I cut back before my quit day.I have been taking Chantex for 2 weeks and had a quit day of November 16 well that didn’t work.How depressing.

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stAn3
Member

Stick with it. I relapsed many times but kept coming to the site. I never gave up. I am smoke-free today. I’m looking forward to the day when smoking never crosses my mind. I’m not there yet but the thoughts are rare. And they don’t have much power. And I’ve only been smoke-free for a little over 3 months.

maryfreecig
Member

Only! Only 3...!!! Only! Fantastic for 3!!!

maryfreecig
Member

      So how do I quit? What a wonderful question!!!

      As smokers we live in the addiction, hardly questioning it at all, just not taking it seriously. And we have to decide to quit while we are smoking. I told my smoking self that my quit was going down, so get ready, and I read, learned and planned, but I was nervous about quitting--it'd been decades since I'd had a free breath.

     The idea that we can just quit and not think at all about smoking just doesn't hold true to what addiction does to the mind. BUT, this is what planning is all about. Planning for craves, for an unexpected desire to smoke, for feeling as though something is missing. All these initial withdrawal from the dependence can be managed one day at a time and by making a serious plan. 

     Welcome to Ex! Yes you can.

mrios5776
Member

I am with stAn3 alittle over 3 months. reset your date. Plan the quit, then quit. You may fail, that's ok, pick yourself up and try again. Stay close to this site!There are some amazing people you will meet on this site who will support and help you. Good Luck!

Giulia
Member

Welcome a'board!  Cavebaby.  Interesting name choice.  'Cause you live in a cave, or 'cause you cave when quitting?   Or perhaps you're a spelunker?  

So how come the 16th didn't work?  Don't be depressed about it, rather figure out why it didn't work and how to make it work!  You can.  /blogs/Giulia-blog/2018/03/01/quitting-is-a-skill-that-can-be-learned?sr=search&searchId=57ad09f4-35...‌  But you have work at it.  And work hard.  Most of us with successful, long-term quits didn't come to them first time around.  There are some lovely exceptions here, like youngatheart.  But for most of us it took a lot of failures before we finally "got it."  I'm not sure those failures  would have been true for me had the education I glommed onto when I quit the last time in 2006, with the aid of on-line support.  THAT is what made the difference for me.  Support and education.  

Interestingly you will find that many of the long-term quitters here continue their education about this addiction.  Whether it's simply out of curiosity as to the new aides and "thinking" that help people overcome this addiction, for themselves and their own quit maintenance, or whether it's to have more knowledge to impart and hopefully enable others to reach the success of a long-term quit - it doesn't matter.  But I think there's an ongoing curiosity and interest that helps the successful quitter.   If you play a sport, or a musical instrument, you tend to have an ongoing interest in that thing that you're involved with.  Same is true with quitting smoking, I think.

Anyway, I waxed on too much.  Just glad you've joined our quit family, Paul.  READ EVERYTHING YOU CAN GET YOUR EYEBALLS ON.  It'll help.  Really it will.  

Cavebaby1966
Member

Cavebaby is a name I got when I was just a young child before I smoked.I think I was like 5 in the era of captain caveman and the teen angels.Anyway I am smoking half what I was a week ago,so I should be Quit on Quit day.Not should but will be quit on quit day.Right?

autumnpepper
Member

Good for you!  Be positive!  You can do this!

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Deerbake
Member

I have my quit day coming up soon. So far I have done lots of things to prepare myself for this day that I truly dread. I started with switching to a brand of cigarettes that I am not fond of, at all. I have been rationing them and delaying the time between them. I have refreshed my skills for coping such as visualization, imagery, meditation and relaxation. I have reviewed my accupressure points. I dragged out my coloring books, bought myself a fidget spinner, and have my medicine balls handy. I have only smoked outside for the last several decades and God, Mother Nature, and the state of Minnesota all make going out to smoke less desirable or even impossible at times.

I have been to a counselor 4 times and read lots of reading material that I got from her. And I can't believe all the material available through BecomeAnEx and all of the people willing to offer advice and support. Amazing! It is going to take everything I have got to get this done but I feel hopeful.

You only fail if you quit trying. Keep going. There are so many people cheering for you. You are not alone.

Barbscloud
Member

Deerbake‌  welcome to the Ex.  You sound like you're well prepared.  Education and preparation are the key.  Look forward to celebrating your quit date.

Barb

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