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Brent_Krauth
Member

Newbie

Hi I’m a smoker soon to be a none smoker. I am 33 years old I started smoking 20 years ago because of peer pressure.

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JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Welcome to EX.  You have come to the right place for support. Congratulations on making the decision to quit smoking. It is great you want to rid smoking out of your life while you are still very young.  To be successful quitting you must educate yourself about nicotine addiction.  One puff will always take you back to full-blown addiction.  

Start First, by educating yourself about nicotine addiction.  Education is the key to a successful quit.

Understand the law of addiction."

Law of Addiction 

Administration of a drug to an addict will cause re-establishment of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance."   Therefore NOPE, not one puff ever will keep you free.  When we start this journey sometimes we have to be willing to change the people places and things for a while in order to be successful..  We have to set boundaries and when you are comfortable let friends and family know that you are quitting smoking.  One day a time with support quitting is doable.  

Read: Freedom from Nicotine My Journey Home and Nicotine Addiction 101   Here are the links      http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html   and http://whyquit.com/ffn/  

Also Read   Allen Carr’s book, “Easy Easier Way to Quit Smoking”.  Which can be purchased of found pdf format on the internet. You can start here My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX  Help Community to learn how to navigate around the site. 

Strudel
Member

Welcome to the site! This site is a wonderful place for support! I agree with all of Jackie's advice....you can do This! Stay close!

indingrl
Member

CONGRATS BRENT AND WELCOME-please continue to BLOG before you use NICOTINE to just vent or ask questions-or blog to share your morning-day-or whatever you need to do for you-one day at a time- whatever you blog will give US time to HELP with SUGGESTIONS TO STAY QUIT no matter what happens - WE will stay quit TOGETHER- Hope you keep coming back and thank you so much for sharing- i appreciate your self honesty and courage to admit complete defeat over nicotine and choosing your own NICOTINE free lifestyle! GOOD JOB!

Welcome to the site!!

 In my opinion, why you started smoking isn't as important as the fact that you want to quit, though I'll admit I too started smoking at an early age due to peer pressure. So, you're in the preparation stage currently. I'm curious, what steps have you taken to learn your addiction? Have you set a quit date yet?

 When I decided to quit, I was terrified! I knew that learning how to cope with what my addiction would do to me would be a life saver! All I'm saying is that you've already taken a hard step. Accepting that you're an addict and deciding that you want to do something about it. That in itself can be hard! And you've done it and I congratulate you on your decision to seek a better life. A better future. The decisions you make today can determine what your future looks like tomorrow.

 Read all you can! There's a wealth of knowledge out there.

You've come to the right place for support and I gotta tell ya, in my case as well as many others, the support here has helped a lot of people to understand what's happening to them once they put out that last cigarette. And knowing what's happening to you can be a life saver, because with understanding comes peace. 

 I look forward to hearing of your success! Please keep us posted and know that we're here for you if and when you need us!

ONWARD TO FREEDOM!!!

Chuck

elvan
Member

Welcome to EX...the best way to quit and to stay quit is with education about your addiction, support from others, and your own commitment.  YoungAtHeart‌ writes a great welcome to newcomers and while some of it may be a repeat of the welcomes you have gotten, I do not think it can be said too much.  I  have been quit for over four years and nine months, thanks to this site and to the support and love I have felt from here.  I am pasting Nancy (YoungAtHeart‌'s) blog here for you and a link to JonesCarpeDiem‌'s blog what to expect the first...

Again, welcome.  You are SO young that I am seriously just about jumping out of my skin with excitement that you are quitting while you ARE so young.

YoungAtHeart‌'s blog:

Welcome to our community!

 

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it  or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-exhas lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance.  You should also do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site.
 
 After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

 

 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

 

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Here is the link to JonesCarpeDiem‌'s link as well...

/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-in-the-first-four-months 

You have LOTS of reading to do and LOTS of people who are ready, willing, and able to offer support.

Ellen

beazel
Member

Hi Brent & welcome! It's so great that you are quitting while still so young - you'll be so happy you did!

I suggest reading, watching videos and learning about this hideous addiction. I feel that educating myself was huge in making this my sticky quit.

Being part of a support forum will serve you well also. Post often, everyone here knows what you are going through & want to offer as much support as needed.

And remember...Smoking Is Not An Option....no matter what.

Take it one day at a time.

MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the community you've made the best decision that you'll ever make in your lifetime please read the links suggested above me and keep reading everything you can about quitting smoking and remaining quit because there's a wealth of information right here on this site to strengthen your resolve to quit and stay quit and we're all here to help you in any way we can 

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maryfreecig
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Welcome to Ex. High five for your decision to quit smoking. Stay invested in your quit, grow it one day at a time. 

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