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Grammy25
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Need help with anxiety

What to do with the anxiety? Got down to 5 cigarettes and major anxiety started so now I am back to 20; but was at 35 cigarettes when I started! Want to get back to 5 or less (would like to be at 0)!! Please help 

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Barbscloud
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 You're going to be on emotional roller coaster for a while when you quit.  Sounds like your describing the actual fear of quitting.  We've all been there and people can give you many reasons where their fear comes from.   Here's what worked for me this time.  It may be unorthodox, but I told myself I can choose to smoke again if I want to, so there's nothing to be afraid of.  There's everything to gain and nothing to lose, so why not give it a try.     Unfortunately, having just one cigarette doesn't work.   You actually can do this and we're here to support you.  You have to keep reminding yourself, it's one day at a time.  

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Mandolinrain
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Well the truth is , as long as you are taking nicotine into your system, you are building up the next crave and the anxiety will not go away, likely.  Each cigarette sets your brain up for the next one, so when you starve it then feed it and back and forth...your just making it all last much longer than need be and in the process you are making yourself miserable.

Nancy YoungAtHeart will be along soon and send you many links to help you get started. If you can, go get Allen Carrs book, the EASYWAY TO QUIT SMOKING. it is a short fast read and SO HELPFUL!!!

Mypersonal experience found me to be successful when I understood the demon, 'Nicotine'. Knowledge is power. Then I prepared a quit kit....a journal  and lined up all the things I would busy myself with when I quit, before I quit. I read many many blogs here also.

I wish you well in your journey, we will be watching your quit grow and we will support you! Welcome to Ex!

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Grammy25
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Thank you everyone for your suggestions

I really appreciate it

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Mandolinrain
Member

ALSO....The following is a WONDERFUL blog loaded with info that I think may help you. Written by one of our Wonderful Exer Elders . Enjoy:

Here's the Skinny

Discussion created by crazymama_Lori on Nov 28, 2017
Latest reply on Jan 2, 2018 by JACKIE1-25-15

Back in 2011 I played around with the idea of quitting smoking. It was getting too expensive. I did the song and dance of oh, once cartons get to be $40, I'll quit. Then it was $50, $60. Once it got to $70, I seriously looked into how to successfully quit painlessly. I wanted this to be as easy as possible. Back then, I looked at this as being a habit. Something like biting your nails, shouldn't be that hard, right?

 

I tried drops, inhalers, e-cigarettes, herbal remedies, nutritional supplements, anything and everything I could get my hands on to make this as simple as can be. Some say the symptoms are gone after 3 days, some said a week, some said a month. All different kinds of information out there on the Internet. They give you these charts telling you after so many days, this will happen, that will happen. When I first gave this whole quitting thing a try, none of those chart statistics applied to me. I wasn't feeling this, that and the other thing. Am I doing something wrong? There's got to be a list somewhere that can tell me exactly what is going to happen when.

 

By nature, I'm a gal of preciseness. I have to have exact, delineated goals, something to go by. I think that's why when I was looking at the process of quitting as a timeline, a broad look down the road, I got frustrated. This isn't applying to me. I don't understand vagueness. I need facts. I want it and I want it now. Well, Miss Type A Personality, this is an individualized proposition. Every single person is different because every single person's life is not the same. Smoking is not just an addiction to nicotine as is an addition to oxycodone. You don't just wait until the physical symptoms are done and then, poof, you're magically cured. It doesn't work that way. If you want this to stick, you have to figure out the whys. We picked up a cigarette and started smoking for a reason. We didn't just wake up one morning and decide to smoke. What were you using it for?

 

Some people have the misconception that prescription aids or NRTs (nicotine replacement therapy) is what makes you quit and keeps you quit. Once you stop taking them, something is triggered in your brain that's associated with smoking because you never took the time to track your cigarettes or even notice when you were smoking, perhaps a birthday, family gathering, a night on the town, BAM, you're right back to smoking again. Oh, it must be because I forgot my gum, my patch, my pill. NO, it's because you're allowing yourself, giving permission to yourself to smoke. It's a conscious choice, not an involuntary one. You're standing outside with your friends, doing the same motions you did when you smoked, hanging out with them puffing away on their cigarettes, and somehow you think you're not going to be tempted to smoke. Someone who doesn't know you quit extends a cigarette out to you. Oh, one isn't going to hurt. Trust me, you'll be back to it in no time flat.

 

Take the time to understand what happens to your body, what goes on in your brain when you smoke. What happens inside that wonderful grey matter. What makes this such a powerful addiction. I'd like you to take 13 minutes and view this video, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nyIJo7VCdPE. It's by Mike Evans with the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health. It's very straightforward and explains very simply what goes on with your brain and how most people perceive smoking. Once you understand the physical aspect and what's going on, quitting will become more like a science experiment. Each day is something new that you're experiencing. Try to view it that way. Search on here for the symptoms or feelings you're having. This journey is very similar for each of us, it's just that some go through certain stages at different times.

 

With me, it was denial at first. It was a habit. I can quit any time I want to. Read up on grief. Here's a great blog written by a member here The Grief Cycle (You're not going crazy!) . Understanding your foe and doing something about it, another excellent blogHow Nicotine Addiction takes over (and what to do about it!) . I have many blogs bookmarked on my profile for me to refer to and also refer others to. A great place to go to for some really stimulating blogs and articles is the Best of EX. So much knowledge to be gained there. Bookmark some of them that really resonate with you. You'll be referring back to them from time to time.

 

Take the time to learn about this thing they call nicotine addiction. Understand why it's so hard to quit and what to do about it. It isn't just the physical aspect of it. The emotional part of it is what keeps you coming back. Read as much as you can on here. Look up certain topics. Go to member's profiles that you connect with or find their blogs informative. Start reading their experiences, their knowledge, their findings along the way. It may not be exactly similar to yours, but I'll bet that it comes pretty darn close.

Grammy25
Member

Thank you so much

I am starting to understand what is going on with me

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Grammy25
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Thank you

This is very helpful

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

We recommend a LOT of reading here - for a very good reason.  Once you have educated yourself on this addiction, you will understand that all of the things you think smoking does for you are LIES.  You get a brief hit of dopamine, but then the receptors in your brain start demanding more - which CAUSES stress.  It's why you need more and more of the drug - until you stop it COMPLETELY.  I was not able to cut down before my quit date.  Trying to do so just kept smoking at the forefront of my mind and wasn't helpful at all.  While MINDFULLY thinking about each cigarette you smoke and why are you lighting it is helpful....trying to cut down to zero doesn't work for everyone.  I pretty much chain smoked the night before my quit date, and I was successful on this, my first and only attempt at quitting.  Education, commitment and support are what ensures a successful quit.  We can provide two of those!
 

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php
 
 
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 
https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...
 
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
 
Nancy

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Grammy25
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Thank you

This was very helpful

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SimplySheri
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Only you can decide what to do about your anxiety   That doesn't answer your question, does it?  But it's true.  Some people do deep breathing, stress balls, meditation.  Others jog, sing happy songs, do yoga.  Some are on medication.  Some just forge on.  Others paint, use a rubber band, hum.  

This is your quit so you get to create it.  You get to design it.  You get to bring out the warrior in you and win!!  Now, make a list (the longer the better!) of all the things you can do rather than smoke when you feel anxious.  Please feel free to share that list...others may benefit from your wisdom!

Sheri