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Danni84
Member

I slipped today.

I slipped today. After 7 days, I couldn’t fight the urge any longer today, all I wanted to do was drink some beers and smoke! How can I control this? I did so good all week, but I talked myself into it and there was no way of changing my mind. 

How can I talk myself back into being a good girl and say NO??

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indingrl
Member

You can't Danni...ask yourself....when you suck on that death stick.... that you know and heard is a fact....using NICOTINE by your OWN free will.... kills SOME people with cancers...... what did it do for Danni....are you addicted to nicotine....do you think DANNI won't get cancer like SOME people.....if you always do what you've always done you'll always get what you always got.....using drugs.....your free will CHOICE.....NICOTINE and alcohol.... do you DANNI want to live or die early from your OWN free will choosing to use drugs or choose to take the suggestions to live as a NON SMOKER doing it by others teaching YOU DANNI... by giving you DANNI....suggestions that they walked ....it doesn't matter what WE want.....you DANNI gotta want to be free of your choiceto use your free will drug of choice NICOTINE....you gotta care about yourself DANNI for you and only you....WE all have choices.... each day..you are NOT ALONE with choosing....use drug NICOTINE or choose to be a NON SMOKER TODAY....WE only have this day ONLY.....breaking it down into seconds or breathes.....educate yourself DANNI on your NICOTINE addiction.....not anyone else's...that was SUGGESTED to ME....go to seek the truth how NICOTINE using it over and over and over and over gets ME using more and more and more and more..... to break free from.....OLD MY addict thinking using habits....I had to take the suggestions from those here who use to be right where I was at on 2011 the 6th day of January.....they SUGGESTED TO ME.... to educate myself at whyquit.com by watching the videos of people who use nicotine and are dead....the FREE book at whyquit.com by Joel.....title.....Never Take Another Puff....Joel has suggestions for nicotine users to teach themselves to tell the truth about themselves....not anyone else....if you choose to get facts about NICOTINE the help is there and here.... go to the experts Dr hays and read read read the suggestions he offers freely...YOU DANNI got want it MORE than you want to use drugs....put as much into NON SMOKER ways than your OLD user ways...you DANNI get to choose again.....live or die for DANNI....not anyone else....your CHOICE.....WE all make our OWN choice....please love yourself enough to take the suggestions and think NEW...just like WE all had to choose....someone else's suggestions to learn how to cope be responsible and love ourselves first....by Never Take Another Puff.... Not One Puff Ever over ME!  

Giulia
Member

You said it yourself:  you talked yourself into it.  You really wanted that beer and that smoke and you let your self-discipline go.  If you haven't yet, start reading through the material in Best of EX‌  One of the blogs in there speaks to the issue of https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2013/08/12/understanding-excuses?sr=search...‌  The more we dwell on a thought,  the more important it becomes.  When those smoking thoughts come in, don't let them sit there.  Recognize them as your addict brain attempting to pull you back into slavery and change your mind.  Yes, you CAN change your mind.  It takes practice.  Turn away from the thought.  Refocus on something else.  Get up and out and stay busy.  For if you dwell in the well of smoking thoughts, they will drown you.  You might also do some reading in  Relapse Prevention‌.

Milestones can be tricky times.  Your brain probably said, "well, I've got a week under my belt, why not celebrate with a cigarette!"  You see how foolish our brains are?!

Don't wait to get back on the horse.  Sometimes the waiting can turn into years.

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Barb102
Member

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again.  This time be armed with information. Be prepared for the cravings and have plans in place before they hit. When they hit, don’t dwell on the crave - get busy. Put your plans in place. Watch the drinking. The two go too well together. I stopped drinking until I was further into my quit and stronger

I almost lost it with drinking so I stayed clear of it. Now stop beating yourself up and get on with your quit. We are all here for you!   

Barb

you have to be willing to change your routine.

maryfreecig
Member

     You can talk yourself back into being a good girl and that will work for a little while. But accepting that your smoking is a problem not a solution (not a goooooood time) will help you face the real work of quitting an addiction. It's an addiction, not a freedom. Keep working for smobriety.

MarilynH
Member

You can quit believe it deep breaths and know that you can and will be successful one precious Smokefree Day at a time or hour minute or even a second at a time ,read everything you can about quitting smoking and remaining quit because there's a wealth of information here to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb and start living a life of Freedom and then pick a New Quit Date and start your Day ONE so at the end of the day you'll be able to say Yay for Day WON with many more to come, believe in yourself and be willing determined and totally committed to succeed and you can and will be successful and we're all here to help you in any way we can. ..

pir8fan
Member

Your call! Talk your self into it, or talk your self out if it!

The wolf that wins the fight is the one you feed!

We are here to help you but you have the feed bucket!

Do you want control of you life, or do you want to be a slave to this nasty, stinking addiction?   Tommy

Pops
Member

Been there, done that....Stayed out for a about 6 months and almost killed myself in the process.  I'm going to tell you straight....you've got to want to not smoke more than you want to.  Then get them away from you, and stay away from anywhere they are until you have enough stability in your quit to be strong enough to see that they are just going to make you have regrets all over again.  CHANGING IS IN ORDER!

Pops with one month!

Christine13
Member

I think finding a new way to relax is important for both of us.  I think I have two addictions, alcohol and cigarettes.

All it's gotten me is back to day one.  Emotions are hard to handle. That is my biggest cue to smoke and drink.

All the best to you!

xo