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Jodylee98271
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Day 3 any advice?

I am using a patch. But craving really bad this am.  Smoked for 46 years.  This is my first successful attempt. Never gone one day before. Thank you

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maryfreecig
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Welcome to Ex. You said it best "this is my first successful attempt..." Three days is fantastic, so keep going and let yourself find your smobriety one day at a time...only way it can be done.  It is not unusual to feel out of sorts at first--it will pass. Stick around, read and blog as you wish. 

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Jodylee98271
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Thanks

Cant access reading

No idea how to blog

Needed support

Want to smoke right now!

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Fresher1
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Hi!

well what I can tell you is that if you give in and smoke...you’ll have to start all over.  And that’s ok. I started over 7 times.  This time I’m at day 23. The best advice I’ve gotten is that when a urge comes....do something.  If you can’t read or blog, maybe......go for a walk, do jumping jacks, color a picture, watch tv, brush your hair or your teeth....there’s a post, that I’m sure someone will refer you to, that is 101 things to do instead of smoke.  I can tell you positively....it gets better and easier. If you smoke, eventually, you’ll get sick of it, again, and have to start over.  So don’t smoke! You are very welcome here. 

Fresher1

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Jodylee98271
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Thank you!

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit and your first day!   I can tell you that a LOT of people here credit their success from reading the Allen Carr book......if you do the same thing you have always done in quitting smoking, you will probably get the same result.  Why not try something different this time?  NRT stands for Nicotine Replacement Therapy.  If you are using a patch, you are using one.  It provides a steady dose  of nicotine so you can concentrate on one part of the addiction at a time.

I believe the most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I also highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read - not long, not technical - but has good information.  You can search for it online or at your local library.  Know your enemy!   There are two parts to this addiction - the physical and the psychological.  If you are using the patch, then what you are dealing with is the psychological addiction.  I think this is the toughest part of the quit.

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

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Jodylee98271
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Thank you

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Celebrate! You are on day 3! As for the craves, listen to these guys above. Drink ice water, dance, sing, sleep. Allen Carr is a definite must read. You are doing great! Keep it up!

Jodylee98271
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Thank you...I am on day 4 and tomorrow will be day 5.

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Jennifer-Quit
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https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/rollercoaster831/blog/2018/05/02/alan-carrs-easy-way-book-... 

Click on this link - someone is offering the book free  of charge on CD!  Might just be your lucky day!   Allen Carr recommends going cold turkey rather  than using NRT (nicotine replacement therapy - patch, gum, etc.)  But I learned a lot by reading the book even though I used the patch.  Helps you to think about quitting differently.  Congrats on 3 days!

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elvan
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So sorry it took so long for you to start getting responses, that's pretty unusual around here.  Please know that we have all been where you are because there are no shortcuts to freedom.  I smoked for 47 years and have now been free for over four but those 47 years took a huge toll on my body.  I am on oxygen at night because I have COPD, almost two years into my quit, I had to have both upper lobes of my lungs removed because they were so full of holes that they were trapping air and making it hard for me to get a good breath.  This has NOT been easy...I am sure that just about everything you did, every thought you had was connected to smoking. No crave ever killed anyone (despite the fact that your addiction will try really hard to convince you otherwise.)  We stuffed all of our feelings down when we smoked and along with the physical damage we did, we also stunted our emotional growth and we smoked instead of allowing ourselves to FEEL.  As we begin our journey, all of our feelings SEEM more intense because we never learned how to deal with them the way people who never smoked or used any other substance did as they were growing up.  We are all here to help you and we all want you to succeed.  Please hang on and believe that it WILL get easier.  The beginning of a quit is like an emotional roller coaster...there are always good days and bad days and they were there when we smoked too...we just don't have our crutch.  Smoking does not help anything, it does nothing FOR us but it does lots TO us.  Please pay attention to all of the advice given to you by our fellow exers.  You are one of us now.

Welcome to EX,

Ellen

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