Yesterday I stopped smoking. Day 1. It is tough. But I am glad to be free. I truly hope it will carry on!
Thank you Michelle. Yes. That means continuation indeed. Somehow I feel lighter while I still have few puffs a day hmmmm....
You are going to have to end it sooner or later and I hope, for your sake, that it is sooner. Cigarettes are not really helping with anything, your addiction is speaking to you and you are listening. You don't HAVE to do that. Cigarettes are killers, we do not have to give them permission to kill us.
I've heard of this.
The YoYo Method
When the string breaks
You lose your yo
Then it becomes the NoYo method......
and then you spend another 10 years smoking.
Perhaps it's time to really LEARN your addiction. Do you know the triggers that make you want to smoke? Do you understand that an urge only lasts a few moments? That by latching on to that crave you give it power? There is so much to learn and you're in the right place to learn it! Read other people's blogs and how they learned freedom. Freedom is never a gift, but it's something wonderful to work towards. Never give up on the quest for freedom. It's a quest that can do so many wonderful things for you. Lea
Yes. Still as for cravings, I've noticed it lasts much longer. I would even say couple of hours.
Ivan, craves are only perceived as lasting that long if you are fighting them and therefore FEEDING them. You need to recognize when you feel a crave and try to figure out what triggered it. You do not need to fight it or allow it to take over your life...acknowledge that it is there and you might tell it to go away...either silently or out loud. No crave ever killed anyone...no one is ever going to be able to say that about smoking. This is a journey, it is not easy, there will be good days and bad days and there will be challenges...there are ALWAYS challenges to any course we take. It is part of living. I think you need to go back and make a plan My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX and set a quit date and then commit to it and stay committed no matter what. That is the only way this works. I wish you well...it certainly took me several tries to get to a solid quit.
Ivan, I noticed for me that after a long time, I was almost at three months, the cravings were far and few lasting only a little while. Whereas when I relapsed and kept smoking I had cravings all the time. I have learned here as well as in other places that smoking keeps the craving to smoke on a cycle of 20 minutes, so if you are still smoking even if it is 2-3 a day the craving you may be having is the anger at not having one every 20 minutes. Like Ellen said many people, including myself, need to try several times, but the part that must be there is that N.O.P.E. is ones thinking.
Thanks. I will read recommended posts.
If you cut down to around 5 -10 a day, it's time to just quit. Not doing so just keeps you in a constant state of withdrawal, and makes you more uncomfortable than need be. In the beginning when you first quit, it IS difficult - but you are doing it over and over again by cutting far back. When you totally stop giving those brain sensors their fix, they slowly die out. Not so if you keep feeding them.
I recommend you do the reading, then just DO it!
It's not easy, but it is doable......quitting never killed anybody - the same cannot be said about smoking!
Of course. Did you ever had cravings after several years of quitting, in some circumstances or does it goes away, eventually?
After several years you realize cravings are only memories or emotions you associated with smoking.
I agree with Dale. Sure, you remember those smoking days, but there's no power to those thoughts. In fact, after a while, even the memories of smoking fade. I make a point to remember thoser days, simply to remain compassionate to those who are going through a new quit.
ONWARD TO FREEDOM!!!
Sometimes, I will have a memory or a fleeting thought of smoking that is directly associated to something I am doing...something that I associated with smoking for years. The thing to remember is that smoking never helps anything, it never fixes anything...it does not relieve stress or pain or sadness, it does not resolve anger, it does not HELP anything. As soon as you really accept that, it will be MUCH easier and then if you get really angry or really stressed you can honestly tell yourself that smoking would not help anything...it does irreversible physical damage and stunts emotional growth. NOTHING is worth smoking over...NOTHING.
Nope. Not anything ever.
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It is so fascinating to hear it leaves you without problems of cravings. This helps so much guys
It is OKAY to FEEL...smoking just stops you from experiencing things normally. It is OKAY to be angry or sad or stressed...it is NORMAL and it is part of life.
It truly is! We still go through it just not as bad as the beginning. Plus we would never want to start over
I believe you. Okay, I am still smoking btw. Just I don't want that someone thinks I am hypocrite and lying here!
But I am trying to quit.
No guilt. But how r u trying to quit? You need to first be ready to really quit. Then you have to read everything you can on how to quit and what to expect. It’s not easy so you really have to want to quit. I’m 107 days after many short fails. I wasn’t really ready. I didn’t do my homework. But I did this time I never want to smoke again in my life. So I was ready. Even now if I didn’t read about NML I wouldn’t know what was happening after all this time. Pleas read Make sure u are ready. Have plans Then and only then can you set a date. See we have all been there. I talked for years about quitting. I just talked. This time I want it so much. I cut down each day. Wrote my triggers down set the date and prayed for strength. My prayers were answered on this site. We are here for you when you are ready.
Still not ready...
Hi Ivan. I totally get the hesitation, but I know when I relapsed I went hog wild and knew that it wouldn't get easier if I continued. There's never a "good" time to quit. Putting it off is very risky. Like many others here you don't want to wait until a doctor tells you "bad" news. Please try to set a date soon and then take it one day at a time.
All the best,
do a T-chart, pros on one side and cons on the other. On the pro side list all your reasons for NOT quitting. On the con side, list all your justifications for the each one and be honest with yourself. My main reason for not quitting was fear of the unknown. I was the I'm dying with a cigarette and a drink in my hand and going down and having fun. BUT as I got older, I'm wheezing, I'm getting more cramps in my hands and legs. 43 years of smoking has now started to take its toll. What exactly was I missing out on? Well, I missed out on 10 minutes with my smoking friends as they're all huddled in the smoking section. I missed out on my yellow ET finger. I missed out constantly checking when I go somewhere of where's my lighter, how windy is it, is it going to rain, is there smoking allowed and where is the smoking section, do I have enough packs.
Now, I know my friends will be back after they smoke. I'm not longer discolored. When I want to go somewhere, I just go. And I'm not blowing $250 or so a month buying those things anymore. You see I started smoking when I was 12 to be cool. I got up to full-blown when I was 16. That was back in the '70s when everybody was smoking. Smoking kept me company when I was alone and calmed me down when I was upset or angry or so I thought. It wasn't the smoking that I had a problem with. it was the nicotine in them that I had a problem with after. I can't stop at one. I get the taste of it, I'm off and running. Why are some people smokers and why are others not? could it be our upbringing? My dad smoked when I was small. I loved the smell of it, but I associated the smell with my father. I have friends that also had parents that smoked and they don't. that mystery is yet to be solved. But all I know is that after 43 years, I quit. I came here and learned about what nicotine does to the brain. I learned about behavior modification, understanding why and when I smoked which I hope you're doing since you're still smoking.
I won't preach to you about the health risks of smoking. We all know that. I'm not going to tell you that it's going to kill you some day. We know that too. but I will tell you that if you put your brain into it, dig your heels in, stick to your guns and simply say I'm not smoking today and move along one day at a time, you can do this, Trust the Process. If you fail, get right back on that horse and try again. figure out the reasons why you keep running back to smoking. What do you believe it's doing for you, (hence the tracking tool, Track Your Tobacco and Identify Your Triggers | Guides & Tools | BecomeAnEX ). Devise your plan once you figure out your own personal reasons for smoking for replacing smoking with something else. You smoke when you're stressed. Instead of smoking, get yourself a stress ball.
I hope you take the leap. You are ready to because you are on here asking questions. Just take it one day at a time. Cold turkey isn't for you; try the patch. Wait every time you feel the need to light up for a minute or two. I've now been quit for over 2 years and I smoked close to 2 packs to 3 before I decided to finally give it up. Just do it. You'll be glad you did.............
it never goes away; it's just simply different. it's something you have to be willing to live with and understand and comes to grips with. Just like an alcoholic never wants to drink, they just simply CHOOSE not to.
" I TOLD YOU SO" s........do come true.
You wont look the same in 30 years............
You wont act the same in 30 years..........
You will question your actions from 30 years ago.....
You will ask yourself why?
Why didn't I listen.......
and either you will have NO CHOICE but to change., because your health will be making your LIFE miserable...
or it will be TOO LATE......
"We" DON'T want to every say "We told you so".....
As the others said, get back on the horse and try again........
It's not easy,but doable! Glad to see you are here asking
questions. I also think,it means you want to Quit, more than you want
to smoke.......Figure out your triggers and a plan for them.
Prairie 92 DOF...... it is literally 1 DAY at a Time........
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