Welcome to EX...ideally, you could get your husband to come here. Quitting is not an event, it is a journey and quitting without help and support is not a pretty journey. People who quit smoking are in recovery from an addiction and everyone knows addiction is rough. Some time ago SkyGirl posted this blog to help family members: /blogs/SkyGirl-blog/2013/05/28/a-letter-to-those-i-love-during-the-early-days-of-my-forever-quit?sr=... and another from SkyGirl /blogs/SkyGirl-blog/2013/11/06/dear-friends-family-heres-what-to-expect-from-me-while-i-quit?sr=sear... This was published by anacondahead /blogs/Anacondahead-blog/2012/01/25/letter-to-a-loved-one
My husband is a recovering alcoholic and he tried many times to quit drinking, he has now been sober for over 33 years but, like you, I undermined him a couple of times because he was so miserable that I could not stand him. I could not stand being around him. Once HE got into a program (AA) based on recovery he told me that there is such a thing as recovery when you are getting help and support and there is such a thing as a "Dry Drunk" when you are NOT getting support or help and you are just white knuckling your quit. As someone who failed many times in the past to quit, I can tell you that this site made all of the difference in the world to me. I have not smoked in over 4 years after smoking for 47 years...we are here to help you AND your husband. The more he can read about nicotine addiction, and the more he prepares for his quit, the better.
Ellen
