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Tammyzhere
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So far so GOOD :)

Day 1 of no smoking / no nicotine.   Alienating all the smokers. 

Don't wanna set off any kinda unnecessary crazy in me.  

My son smokes.  He asked if I'd like to go with to the show.  I appreciated the invitation but, declined.  After the movie, the first thing the smokers do is blast outta there to go smoke.  I knew he'd give me cigarettes and that is totally the opposite of what I'm all about today.  Just hugging him and smelling it on him - that would set me off.   I'm too new in my quit to deal with all that.  So, no thanks honey.  Not today.

My two best friends smoke.  I told both of them today that I quit.  They both asked, "How long?"  I wonder if non-smokers ask that too?  Is that a sabotage type question?  Is it designed to patronize?  Am I just being weird and overly sensitive?    Like - I'm done smoking and I don't wanna be around it.  I'm just all about protecting my quit cuz I know - 

it's a big deal.  Maybe, someday it really won't bother me...   to see it, smell it, be close enough to reach out for one. 

All I know is I'm not trying to get a haircut so there's no reason to go hang out at the barber / beauty shop .... right??? 

My other friend Lori quit a long time ago.  Her birthday is today

and she will be thrilled when I tell her    

She's been riding me for years. .   

Now we can share this special date every year    what a nice birthday gift 

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Tammyzhere
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dunno if I'm the type to ever ABJURE from anything dumb - but it's a new day and now I'm not smoking so you just never know    

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Giulia
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Well we all gotta be dumb sometimes to get wise!

c2q
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Great to meet you, Tammyzhere. Such a great blog, and you're just getting started.

I love so many things that you say here. I've been quit 2393 days. And as strong as I feel in my quit, I realize that I am always just one bad choice away from being a smoker again.

I'm going to  make my own "I Choose" list and post it as a blog, I like this one of yours so much. Thank you.

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Tammyzhere
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Well I can't take credit for that meme

I am sure I stole from someone else

Don't remember when or where though... 

and at this point - I'm pretty happy to hear

the random opinions of others  

Giulia
Member

(I realize that I am always just one bad choice away from being a smoker again.)  c2q‌  Good one!  https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/message/30685-quick-quips 

They doubt you will quit because you've done it so many times before.  I say that because that happened to me also.  then they will start to avoid you because either, A, they support you in your quit; B, they don't want to tempt you or, C, you're not part of them any longer.  Sometimes they won't know how to respond to you when you're a nonsmoker because it's something you shared for so many years.  My friend avoided me because she didn't think I'd want to be around smokers.  She came over about six months into my quit and almost felt guilty about going out and having one.  And they really don't want to sabotage.  They are just trying to give you what they think you want.  I basically told me friends and family that I'm quitting smoking.  I'd appreciate your support.  Please put up with my crazy for a few months.  But I need your help to help me succeed because I need to do this.  Once you're quit for a few months, you'll notice that some will ask how you did it and some will become your cheerleaders.  You're doing great.  Keep up the excellent job 

maryfreecig
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    Thanks for your blog...and for the humor. Humor is very good medicine in quitting.

    Congratulations on the start of your journey. And high five for shoring up your resolve by all means necessary.

    Regarding length of time smober...well, I am not a fan of counting days (just a personal preference) because recovery comes on its own according to each individual. I firmly believe that there are those with fewer days of smobriety than I have, who have a greater recovery. I had a pretty good idea what recovery would be; that time when I didn't give a hoot about the cigs--but it took me more time than I'd expected. Each quitter recovers in his or her own time and way.

    But I do believe in one day at a time...that's a time frame we all can handle. 

Tammyzhere
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I'm kinda all over the place at the moment.  Day 1 was the easiest hard thing I ever did.  Day 2 - it's getting kinda real.  The restless, what am I supposed to be doing now, weirdo thing.  NOT SMOKING      by whatever means necessary...YAY  I'm really glad that I found this site pancake head.jpg

I think this might just be the best thing I've ever seen.  If this doesn't help you quit, nothing will.  LOL.

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