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jeanniebee
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New to Ex

Good morning everyone I am new to EX I quit smoking 13 days ago I would like advise on how to combat cravings thank you

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Deb-EX
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Ellen, Love this post!!! Especially this:

"That's how it works and in the meantime...nothing has changed, cigarettes do not relieve stress, they actually feed it, cigarettes do not help with depression or sadness, they make us feel more isolated and increase our depression, they do not help with physical pain, they distract us for a very short time and there are much healthier distractions...see Jennifer's comment to you.  They do not help with anger...I remember smoking FURIOUSLY when I was angry...I would visualize the person or thing I was angry about incinerating.  Clearly, that did not happen.  I always felt angrier and angrier, I actually had arguments in my head..you know the I should have said, should have done things?  Smoking does nothing FOR us but I can tell you that it sure can do a lot TO us."

How is it possible that I actually feel calmer and less stressed now smoke free, than I did while smoking?!! I understand that I am still getting the nicotine from the patch and that does help - but even still my over-all feeling of well being is a complete 180. I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia last year- I read your profile and see you also suffer from chronic pain, my body hasn't hurt in the past 3 days - again, I feel like because I am over all feeling less stressed this has helped tremendously with my chronic pain. SMH, who would have thought! 

Hugs

Debbie

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elvan
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Deb-EX‌ I have RA and also have osteoporosis and degenerative disc disease, my vertebrae are crumbling and I have a severe scoliosis as a result of that.  If it didn't hurt, I cannot imagine what it would be like.  I need both of my shoulders replaced but there is no way I am having any surgery that is not absolutely necessary to save my life.  When I was first diagnosed, years and years ago, fibromyalgia was just getting recognized.  My rheumatologist said he was sure that I had it along with the RA...I asked what I could do and he said...exercise.  I wanted to bite his head off, I was smoking then too.  I could not imagine how I was supposed to exercise when I was in constant pain.  He said it would help, I was determined to prove him wrong and immediately started a regular routine working out.  Lo and behold, he was RIGHT.  The pain BETWEEN my joints was MUCH better, my joints were not as happy but I kept it up and if I have issues with that kind of pain, I make sure to work out the areas that hurt.  Chronic pain is tough, it changes everything about your life.  I USED to say I could quit smoking with no issue if I could get the pain under control.  It was one of my excuses...once I really paid attention, I was amazed that it did NOTHING for my pain.  It MAY have intensified it because of the increased stress and secondary muscle tension and pain.  I am completely convinced that there is no good reason to smoke...believe me I tried to find them, LOL. My daughter quit smoking a little over two years ago, she did not come here but she did pay attention to NOPE and the many stories I told her.  I am so happy that she is smoke free...when the house burned, she and my granddaughter drove down from NY state to see if there was anything they could do.  I was not smoking but she still was, it did not bother me at ALL.  The fire was a week and a day before Thanksgiving and the Wednesday before the Holiday, I fell in the yard of the burned house...trying to feed a feral cat who stayed here throughout the fire, the demolition, and the rebuild...he's still here.  I knew my shoulders would dislocate if I put my hand out to break the fall so I basically fell on my chest.  I broke a rib (I break very easily) and I thought I was having a heart attack a couple of days later.  I finally went to the ER and had x-rays and an exam that showed the rib had broken right over my heart so I had likely bruised the heart...it took WEEKS to get better but it did.  I think that time in my life absolutely convinced me that smoking was a horrible thing and I did not want anything to do with it.  I have enough wrong with my body so I really don't need to make things WORSE.

You are off to a great start and you are going to make it through all of the ups and downs and join the 6% Club....that's when you have a year of smobriety and you become an "elder."

Hugs,

Ellen

Deb-EX
Member

Good Morning Ellen!

My heart goes out to you.. as I can only imagine the weight of the chronic pain you feel. It's HORRIBLE! YES, exercise does help greatly. It kind of sounds like an oxymoron, but it does work. As soon as I feel my body starting to go into that pain mode, I get moving, cleaning, take a walk whatever.. sitting and feeling sorry for myself does nothing to help! Accept on days of RAIN, than well you know how that goes :-))))

You are such a inspirational to me Ellen. A very strong woman, so positive and reassuring! You have probably been there, done that on so many things in life! So glad we connected, and I am here for YOU too.

  ((HUGS))

elvan
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Deb-EX‌ Thanks, my closest friend has RA and fibro and then two years ago, she was bitten by a tick and now she has Lyme's Disease.  Her sister has had deforming RA since she was really young, now she looks like her fingers have been braided.  She had all of the joints in those fingers replaced years ago but now they have come apart.  She has broken her femur three times in five years from falls...she is only in her 50's.  I look at her and I cannot feel sorry for myself. Keep in mind that you are an inspiration to me too and I thank you.

Ellen

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Deb-EX
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WOW.. It's why I hate complaining, there are so many people suffering with so much worse! I love how you can think of everyone else, before you think about yourself! I guess that's where your RN comes in. My best friend is a NP (Neurology Pediatrics)  and she is the same as you. I guess when you see how much worse other people have it, ESPECIALLY when it's children, you rarely complain about yourself. Hmm probably why we clicked :-))) 

Today was a tough day! Maybe because I did the most errands in day since I stopped smoking. Normally, every time I would get it my truck, I lite a cigarette, every. single. time ! So that thought was SO strong and I felt disappointment in that brief moment when I remembered I wasn't smoking anymore, but I let it pass as I listened to the music.  I grabbed the water cap off my water bottle and just started flipping it around and around in my fingers as I drove store to store. OK that WORKED! By the last stop the thought went through my mind a lot quicker. Awesome. Day after day, as I go about my normal routine, and see all my triggers I feel like a "beast" for conquering them LOL. Day 11 and my hair smells damn good LOL.

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elvan
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CONGRATULATIONS on day 11...I worked in pediatrics for a while, absolutely loved it but it was incredibly painful to lose a patient. There really are people who have it much worse than I do and they live near by.  My spine is the worst of my issues and I have to remember to take medication as prescribed and not wait until my back is SCREAMING.  I was just like you with the smoking when I ran errand...every single time I got to the car.  

I am really proud of you and so happy about that HAIR.

XO,

Ellen

Deb-EX
Member

LOL Ellen...The hair   the whole hair thing makes me literally laugh out loud! I’m settling in for the night, early morning  - THANKSGIVING! My favorite holiday of the year.

Wishing you a wonderful day, filled with delicious food and most importantly family and friends. AND..No talking politics- because if that don’t trigger the need for a lemon bite...nothing will...   

Oh and Pleaseeeee take your medication on time, no need to hurt.....☺️☺️

Xo 

Debbie 

Giulia
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"one day" will definitely hurt, not help.  One day will put you right back at Day One after all the work you've put into your quit over the past 13 days.  It's just your addicted brain screaming for it's binky.  Exercise is a great craving buster.  I found green tea also helped me beat cravings, oddly enough.  The following as an illustration of the back and forth dialogue we have with ourselves.  /blogs/Giulia-blog/2016/09/06/a-quit-dialogue-in-iv-acts   It's important to try to focus the brain elsewhere when craving come about.  To not sit dwelling in smoking thoughts.  Because they WILL swamp you.  Here's one technique that can be helpful:  https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/message/30736-craving-buster-techniques .  

13 Days is MAGNIFICENT!  Don't you let it go now!  Ya hear?!  (Glad you've joined us.)

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joyeuxencore
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WELCOME!!! Please know that if you hit a rough spot you can jump on the site type HELP as a blog title & hang tight for someone to get back to you! In the mean time the best thing to do is distract yourself as the craving passes whether or not you smoke so best not to smoke. You get stronger every time you say no to it. 

Craving Kickers

Did you know most cravings only last 3 to 5 minutes?

20 Craving Kickers

  1. Take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What do I really want right now?” Keep asking yourself the question til you figure out what you really need right now (probably not really a smoke).
  2. Drink a glass of water.
  3. Call a friend.
  4. Write down 3 things you are grateful for in your life.
  5. Do 25 jumping jacks.
  6. Take a 3-5 minute walk.
  7. Go brush your teeth.
  8. Paint your nails. (OK Guys TRIM your nails!)
  9. Get a jar of bubbles and go blow bubbles
  10. Play your favorite music and dance for a bit.
  11. Write down 3 reasons you want to be smoke free.
  12. Chomp on some raw veggies or fruit. The crunchier the better!
  13. Cut a straw into the length of a cigarette and chew on it. Or use a cinnamon stick.
  14. Get out some paper and doodle.
  15. Take 5 minutes and write yourself a love note.
  16. Do a crossword puzzle or Sudoku.
  17. Imagine how you will feel tonight knowing you made it another day smoke-free!
  18. Find a video on YouTube that makes you laugh. Congrats, you made it!
  19. Look in the mirror and tell yourself “I love you and I will take care of you”.
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joyeuxencore
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