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DonnaMarie
Member

Trying not to cry wolf - conversations

Hello, my name is Donna and I am a nicotine/cigarette addict.

Hi Donna!

I came here today to admit my addiction and to admit I need help. 

We're here to help you, Donna!

The why of my smoking is my biggest puzzle. I wonder why all the time. I go for hours on end without smoking and then light up. Am I being selfish?

You might be. Some people think of it like that.

It's like I don't want to give up this friend who never asks anything of me other than to keep lighting up. 

Nods.

It's like it's easier to keep smoking than it is to make the commitment to quit.

Nods.

So what am I doing here? Am I quitting or not? 

That's up to you, Donna. It's your life and your quit or not quit. We're here to support you in any way. 

What is it I really want to do? Do I want to quit?

It sounds like you do, Donna.

It should be as easy as saying "I quit." 

You've already done that a few times here and it's almost like you're crying wolf. 

What's it going to take? That's what I ask myself. 

That's up to you. Ask yourself what it means to be a closet smoker and who is affected by that. 

Yeah, I'm the only one affected. 

Are you? You are making time when others aren't around to "sneak" a smoke here and there. That's time you could be spending with your loved ones, your dog, your exercise, your whatever. 

You're right about that. And my husband and I spend more time together than ever before. I should be able to give him all the time he wants and not have to run this errand, go here, do this, do that to sneak. I'm not 6 years old. But then, if I was, I wouldn't be smoking. 

Sounds like you have some serious looking within to do. Can you unscramble the why and just do it? 

I'm 12 days past my quit date and have only been smober for 2 of those days. So...

So...?

So, I need to put a plan in action. I want (?) to put a plan in action. I want to be one of you. 

We'll be here when you're ready. In the meantime, read, set a date, and just do it. 

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ahkhippiechic
Member

Good Morning DonnaMarie!  Anyway its morning in Alaska.  Would you be surprised to know I thought about you yesterday and sent out good thoughts to you and your quit?  I am not an elder and can’t give you the wisdom they have but I can say.

I have love in my heart for you as one recovering addict to another

I believe in you and know you will quit for good

Peace and Grace my fellow quitter!

 

ahhshucks
Member

So, are you smoking Donna?

The one thing I have realized is that it will come when you are truly ready.  I hadn't been truly ready until 42 days ago.

I would smoke a little, quit a little, smoke a lot, quit a little.

We are here for you.  I am only 42 day "smober" but I was ready, truly ready for the challenges. 

Joy

DonnaMarie
Member

ahhshucks wrote:

I would smoke a little, quit a little, smoke a lot, quit a little.

Bingo. I'm riding a dangerous train, right on the edge of smoking and smober. I'm trying to open myself up to accountability and reality and truth today. On one shoulder sits the nicotine devil telling me it's okay, you've smoked on and off all your life, more off than on; you can just keep doing what you're doing. On the other shoulder is the smober cherub telling me that this is really what I want (the quit) and that if I go on and do it, it will be done. 

Like I said, I'm processing. Big time. Something's gotta give. 

ahhshucks
Member

Well Donna, chin up!  Keep plugging and keep coming here.  You will figure it out either way.  I think we have all been there.  It definitely can make us crazy.  Sometimes I think too much as well!

HUGS!

It's a choice. Whatever happens will be because of your choice and action.

elvan
Member

DonnaMarie‌ Smoking does nothing FOR you but it sure can do a lot TO you...take it from someone who is reminded every single day.

joyeuxencore
Member

 Hello DonnaMarie!!

You can stay on that merry go round for a lifetime and the something that has got to give is YOU..

Give your yourself a chance to be truly free. 

"You can't THINK your way into right action, you have to ACT your way into right thinking." 

"Leap and the net will appear."

Don't cry wolf....HOWL like one!!!! 

This site will get you through if you come here for help before you pick up a cigarette...You have all the power you need right now! xo

DonnaMarie
Member

joyeuxencore_11-5-12 wrote:

 

"You can't THINK your way into right action, you have to ACT your way into right thinking." 

"Leap and the net will appear."

 

Don't cry wolf....HOWL like one!!!! 

I love this - thank you.