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Roller831
Member

NML Weekly Check In – 9/20/2017

Most people, who have quit smoking, have had at least one unsuccessful try in the past. It is not important how many times you try to quit. The only important thing is, that eventually you stay quit!

 

We are doing this discussion every Wednesday to offer encouragement and camaraderie to those in NML, basically months 2-3-4 of a quit. Regardless of how long you’ve been quit, anyone who likes the conversation and wants to offer support is welcome to participate!

 

We will offer topic questions below if you find yourself at a loss for what to post.  These are for ideas.  We are happy if you just stop by to say hi and let us know you are still with us in NML.  Feel free to offer up ideas on topic question and I will include them in next week’s post!  Stop by daily or as often as you like!  Don’t forget to post to the Daily Pledge! 

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Topic Question: Thanks to Giulia for this week’s topic question!  Building on our knock know jokes from last week....

Knock Knock

Who's there?

Me

Why are you here?

To stay free

And just how are you going to attend to that?

 

Are you about a month into your quit? Are you feeling a little down, a little lost? Don’t fret – you’re entering No Man’s Land, the 100 days that start about the time your first month ends.

 

The first month of a quit is emotional, exhilarating, exhausting, and many other “e” words I’m sure!  You are trying to take one moment at a time and focusing all of your energy on your brand new quit. Around the one-month mark, things start to change, and you spend the next 100 days or so in a place called “No Man’s Land.”

 

In No Man’s Land, you’ve come a long way, but still have a long way to go. The routine cravings are gone but the surprise cravings can knock you to your knees. Your family and friends think you should be “over it” while you still feel quite fragile sometimes. Your relationships with smoking friends/family may be feeling strained. Your inner junkie is still around, still whispering to you, and the temptation to give in can be every bit as strong as it was in your first few days.

 

But here’s the good news. In these same 100 days, for most people, your circulation has improved substantially, walking has become easier, and your overall lung function has increased noticeably. Sinus congestion, fatigue, and shortness of breath have decreased. Your body's overall energy has increased. The roller coaster is smoothing out, and you are feeling calmer and stronger overall. Good things are happening!

 

Click here to read Dale’s helpful blog about No Man’s Land:https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2011/05/24/no-mans-land-days-30-to130-appr... 

Click here to read what to expect in the first four months: /blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-in-the-first-four-months 

 

Checking in here will help you get through NML and on your way to the first year where you can celebrate being in the 6% Club!

 

NML List  (Please let me know if there is anyone who has been missed!)

roller831

julesakaGG

TW517

Christophina

Brianairb2

constanceclum

josnyder72

Free2BU

bookee6

turtlegirl101

TurboRose

tlajbenn

Dani_2017 

Ready2021

Diannnnn

gregp136 – GRADUATED!!!

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18 Replies
Free2BU
Member

Hi Guys

I am here and still very strong in my quit.  73 days today and really feeling good.  I still have the odd cravings  and think about smoking, but it is a fleeting thing.

Knock Knock

Who's there?

Me

Why are you here?

To stay free

And just how are you going to attend to that?   I know in my mind that I can never ever smoke again, it is like an alcoholic or a drug addict, if i ever have one puff I will be right back at the beginning.  Therefore for me it is constantly knowing that this cannot ever happen.  N>O>P>E....is my motto and N>O>P>E it will stay.

Keep on keeping on everyone

Caroline x

elvan
Member

I am so proud of you...ALL of you, it is a period of time when humor and support are seriously helpful.  I was lucky enough to go through NML when it was being led by OldBones-Larry‌ as the Caravan Leader...leading us all through on camels and watching out for "Desolation" Point, it was a fictitious but wonderfully fun place to feel supported. Some people got nick names and helped with different things, it made it fun...JUST LIKE THIS IS.  It's a challenging time but it is the beginning of things really getting better.  The stronger you get, the more strength others will feel coming from you, whether they are smokers or not. 

Congratulations to a really strong and admirable group!

Ellen

josnyder72
Member

Good Morning and Happy Hump Day fellow NMLer's.....What a week it has been! More of the craziness at work but it has settled down quite a bit on the homefront (THANK GOODNESS!!!!). I AM STILL HERE AND I AM STILL SMOKE / NICOTINE FREE (65 WHOLE DAYS!!) Thank you again roller831‌ for giving us a space to check in and support one another during our journey through No Mans Land and thank you all for your posts every week...I truly enjoy reading everyone's weekly success stories.....Before I answer this weeks question, I just wanted to share that we had my 6 year old granddaughter over last weekend and I shared a few of the knock knock jokes that you all had posted with her....of course she thought they were the "greatest EVER" (her words)......Now onto this weeks question...‌

Knock Knock

Who's there?

Me

Why are you here?

To stay free

And just how are you going to attend to that? - I WILL CONTINUE TO REMAIN NICOTINE / SMOKE FREE BY STOPPING BY THIS WEBSITE EVERY CHANCE I GET, OF COURSE. I WILL CONTINUE TO TAKE MOMENTS DAY BY DAY AND I WILL CONTINUE TO REMIND MYSELF THAT SMOKING HAS NOT BROUGHT ANY SOURCE OF GOOD INTO MY LIFE. IT HAS ONLY BROUGHT ON PAIN, SORROW, REGRET AND DEPRESSION. I WILL REMAIN FREE BECAUSE I CHOOSE TO REMAIN FREE...THIS ADDICTION NO LONGER HAS A HOLD ONTO ME AND I AM THE ONE IN CHARGE NOW. I WILL CONTINUE TO BE GRATEFUL EVERY EVENING FOR ANOTHER SMOKE FREE DAY, A DAY WHERE I CAN TAKE DEEP BREATHS AND INHALE THE AIR INTO MY SMOKE FREE LUNGS, TO BE THANKFUL FOR THIS SITE AND THOSE WHO ARE ON IT, BECAUSE THERE IS NO WAY I WOULD HAVE MADE IT THIS FAR WITHOUT THEM....I WILL CONTINUE TO BE THANKFUL FOR THE DAYS WHERE I STRUGGLE, BECAUSE IT IS A REMINDER THAT THE FIGHT WILL NEVER BE OVER. I MUST ALWAYS REMAIN ATTENTIVE TO THE TRIGGERS THAT MAY BE LURKING AROUND THE CORNER. I WILL CONTINUE TO SUPPORT THOSE WHO HAVE JUST BEGUN THEIR JOURNEY, BECAUSE GETTING TO BE A "TOUR GUIDE" IS AN HONOR AND A PRIVELEDGE AND NOT SOMETHING TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY. I WAS FORTUNATE ENOUGH IN THE BEGINNING TO HAVE A STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM HERE AND I HOPE TO BE A PART OF THEIR ROCK THE NEWBIES MAY NEED TO LEAN ON DURING A ROUGH CRAVE. I WILL REMAIN FREE BECAUSE I WILL NEVER FORGET WHERE I STARTED...CHAINED TO THIS HORRIBLE ADDICTION.

Jo 65 DOF

 

TW517
Member

Before I get to the question, I just want to say how sad I am to be posting in this edition of NML Check In.  This Friday is my day 130, so this is likely my last post here as an "official" NMLer    I remember reading about NML and dreading how terrible I thought it would be.  And it was a pretty rough start for me.  Then Diannnnn came along all excited about being able to join our group, and I teased her mercilessly about it.  I have since learned that her excitement was not unfounded at all.  

We all need to (and have) acknowledged the elders who shared so much with us.  And we all should be extremely proud of ourselves for our strength and accomplishments so far.  But for me, it was the camaraderie of my fellow recent quitters that made the biggest difference in my success.  I just could not have done this on my own.  I can't thank you all enough.

So..., 

Knock Knock 

Who's there?

Me

Why are you here?

To stay free

And just how are you going to attend to that?   The same way I have been the last 128 days.  One day (or hour if necessary) at a time.  Checking in on EX regularly.  Maintaining my friendships here and hopefully making new ones.

Tom 128 DOF

Roller831
Member

Tom - Let it be known you are ALWAYS welcome to post in the NML check-in!!!  130 days is approximate and there is no magical day count for NML.  I am sure I can speak for all when I say I hope you do check in or at least stop by and play in our little sandbox.  You, my friend, are well on your way to the 6% club and I know there currently isn't some kind of check in for those between 130 and 365 days.....LOL!

elvan
Member

TW517  I didn't want to leave NML either because I was afraid that I would not feel the support that I felt while I was there...it's funny, isn't it?  We hear so much about it and then we are afraid to leave.  I love the idea that we can always check in and support people who are in NML, that should NEVER STOP.  We can support them and they support US.

Giulia
Member

TW517‌  Ditto what Roller said.  It's important to keep playing in the sandbox!  

Why are you here?

To stay free

And just how are you going to attend to that?  

I maintain my freedom by continued education, by offering support to others on their journeys, by being actively engaged in this site and by NEVER taking my quit for granted.  Maintenance takes nourishment.  Caring and mindfulness is the oil that  keeps the rust off our tools and lubricates our longevity.  

Brianairb2
Member

Here I am.

I have 86 days of freedom behind me.  During my time here, I met another quitter, not as active or present as me but just as committed to changing her lifestyle, who also happened to have the same quit day AND live in San Francisco.  Is that an EX first??  Anyway, we struck up a regular correspondence friendship, checking in with each other every few days.  Adding to the intrigue, she lives just a couple of blocks from the studio where I practice yoga, so we're constantly in each other's orbit, two ships in the night, never the twain shall meet...until today.  We agreed to meet at day 90 to commemorate our accomplishment, but since I have to work on what will be day #90, we have settled on today.  To celebrate, we have an appointment to get a pedicure, and will most definitely be comparing notes on our quit.

Anyway, I wanted to share that with you because it's been a really cool component of my quit, and now that I'm at a point where I feel stable and grounded in this endeavor, I'm looking forward to my virtual friend becoming just my friend (and forever quit buddy).

More to come later...

-Brian 86 DOF!!!

TW517
Member

Wow!  How cool is that?!