"Pick yourself up & dust yourself off" Really?

Blog Post created by JACKIE1-25-15 on Jan 27, 2019

Sounds easy, doesn't it.  It is not and to me, sounds quite rhetorical. Listen to how it sounds. "Just pick yourself up and dust yourself off and get back on track."   It sounds as if quitting is not as serious as it should be and if you relapse it is okay.   We all know from experience that it is not that easy to just "get back up".  If it were so, the success rate would be greater than 6-8%.  Right now the addictive brain may not like what I have to say but that is okay.  Take what you can use and leave the rest.  Don't care too much for that quote either but I will use it "this time" because there may be someone in the 6% that may be able to take what they can use to get to a better place on this journey.  It is like medicine, it may not taste good going down but it helps with what ails you. 

Just pick yourself up and dust yourself off... I ponder, does this quote give permission to continue on a vicious cycle of  "serial quitter?"   Is it a relapse trap?  I don't have the answer.  I do know that treating smoking as a serious addiction can make a difference.  It did for me.  Yes, we can fall short of the goal but we also need to remember it is better NOT to fall than to continuously struggle to get back up.  

We hear it quite often,  "I have failed.  I feel miserable, I let myself down.  I don't deserve to be here and on and on.  From the words expressed relapsing causes a great amount of mental anguish and low self-esteem which makes it harder to just get back up.  Please do not get me wrong.  Everyone doesn't "get it" the first time out of the gate.  The idea is to learn from your experience (mistakes) and not continue to do the same things over and over again.  It is better to prepare NOT to relapse as oppose to relapsing.  For example, you know you should not have cigarettes in the house, why have them?  Low and behold someone admits they had a stash waiting just in case.  If you don't get rid of what causes you to crap you are going to keep crapping.   Another example: you know being around certain people or places is a trigger, therefore, be willing to make the sacrifices to protect your quit. Your quit should be the number one priority. Then there is the financial side, wasting money AGAIN.  Wetting them down throwing them in the trash?  I raise my hand... I did it.  Gosh, I felt so foolish.  Money right down the drain. To this day I wish I had quit sooner.   I feared a stroke, cancer or heart disease.  I had enough and was tired of continuing to take the risk.   Will you say you have had enough to stop playing with your death by smoking?  It's better to prepare NOT to relapse as opposed to doing so. I have several friends from this very site that fell and have not gotten up after several years.  If it was as easy as picking yourself up and dusting yourself off they would have done so.  One of them would often tell me that we are just one puff away from relapse.   Do not take that risk, NOPE no matter what.  Then you never have to get back up again.   Look toward days WON instead of day ONE.  It can be done because quitting is DOABLE.   


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