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JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Be Willing to Save your Quit

Some of you may know me, some may not.  I have not been here on a regular basis as I use to. I won't make EXcuses.  It just is what it is.  I had been mentally exhausted. I felt a disconnect because I did not have much to say that I already had not said.  I go through things just like the rest.  How I deal with them is still a learning EXperience for me.   Over 5.5 years ago I used cigarettes as my crutch.  I had not developed the skills of dealing on life terms without the immediate hit from a cigarette.  These last few months have been up and down emotionally but thank God He has given me friends and family to help me through it along with the knowledge that I do not have to smoke.  That it is my choice and my commitment, to honor it.  No matter how old we get, life is still a learning EXperience.  I think I am young until an old lady at the pier called me ma'am  ( just a little side joke) There were days that I would be in despair but knew that I would be okay because of my faith and the life that my sister and father lived. Normally I take the bull by the horns and charge forward.  I did not have that energy for EX.  Being honest and keeping it real.  I had to protect myself from the Pandemic and deal with all of the images of violence was at times draining. Through prayer and understanding, I/we will be okay.   

Anyway, the point that I would like to relay is if you are new at this quit thing, please, please don't give up. No matter what you are going through you do not have to smoke. Life is going to happen and if you stick to NOPE you can make this quit thing a reality.  It can be hard at times but just keep telling yourself that you can make it and do the things you need to do to stay smoke-free.  It is called WORK.  In time to have a smoke will not be that important.  If you hang tough and never give up one day no matter what you are going through will never be a reason to smoke but an EXcuse.  Sure you may have thoughts but in time the thought of smoking will be a glimmer that floats into nonexistence.  Be aware of your triggers and work through those moments.  One moment at a time.  You will survive.  You will not die if you do not smoke.  You will die if you continue to smoke zit all boils down to a choice.   Somethings are easier to get through than others but in time no matter how great the crisis you will make it through and smoking will not be part of it.   Sometimes it is the little things that can cause you to slip, so know what those little things are. and BREATH> If is a person, place or thing learn how to work around it.  If you have to smoke if you are around smokers don't be around smokers.  If you have to smoke if you drink don't drink.  https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/newbie-quitters/blog/2019/08/14/keep-it-simple?sr=search&s...‌  Stay true to your quit.  It is yours and worth saving.  I hope this does not sound rhetorical. I also have learned it can get that way when you are trying to help someone realize they do not have to smoke. Thanks for all those who reached out to me during this season of my life.  Love back at you. The journey continues...

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SimplySheri
Member

Yes.  To all of it, of course, but yes especially to keeping it real.  And you always have.  I like that about you, Jackie, and I simply love that you have a way of putting it all together so that anyone and everyone understands quitting.  I hope you are finding some peace and I hope you are feeling the love others have for you.  You deserve both.

God Bless,

Sheri

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Hi Sheri.  I hope all is well with you.  Yes, I have peace.  I have to remind myself to be mindful that I do have peace. Sounds crazy but true. God bless you as well.  Stay safe.

SimplySheri
Member

Doesn't sound all that crazy to me.  Stay safe.

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YoungAtHeart
Member

As I said earlier, it IS so good to see you,   Come to us as you can.  We understand!

Nancy

MarilynH
Member

It really is good to see you Jackie huge caring hug from me to you.

Giulia
Member

You know, as an actor that's been in a long running show, it can get really boring to go out there every night.  Well, not "boring" exactly, but just "uninspiring."  You start what we actors call "phoning it in."  But then somebody will remind you that there are those people out there in that audience who have never seen the show before.  It's brand new to them.  And that reminds you of why you have to keep doing your best every night and not just "phone it in."  Figure out a way to make tonight's performance new for yourself creatively and emotionally.  I think there's a similarity with those of us who have been on EX for years.  It's hard to come up with new material.  Things we've not said before.  But the challenge is to say it in a new way.  And even if we say it in a way we've said it before we must remember that the new person who has just joined this site HAS NEVER HEARD IT BEFORE.  Just like when we joined this site or some other site.  We were neophytes.  

For myself, having been on this site for 12 years now (dear Lord!), I don't put up many blogs these days.  (I tend to put links to those blogs I've written that I think may help) But I DO respond ON blogs to those that I think my "take" may have a different impact or give them a thought that hasn't yet occurred, or just offer an understanding of what they're going through from my point of view.   So when you say:  "I did not have much to say that I already had not said."   Just keep in mind THEY haven't heard your voice before.  

A couple of my "take aways"... other than the above

"do the things you need to do to stay smoke-free.  It is called WORK.

"You will not die if you do not smoke.  You will die if you continue to smoke"

 

And reference your title  I will do everything in my power to save my quit.  Because I don't ever want to go back there, to that hard, dark place of another Day One.

sweetplt
Member

Good to see you Jackie...JACKIE1-25-15 

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