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QuitJules
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First days

I’ve been thinking about it for weeks. Picked three dates in the past, but said I wasn’t ready. Yesterday, was my first attempt. I smoked 6 cigarettes vs my usual 1-2 packs a day. I excused that bc my ultimate quit date is Sept 4....allowed myself a few days too wean & fail. Is this normal?? 

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Barbscloud
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Actually, what works for you is normal.   The key is having a quit date and preparing and educating yourself prior.  There is so much good material on this site--the science of addiction and lots of support.   Understanding the addiction and the support from this community has made such a difference for me.  If you quit date is September 4th, I wouldn't call these last few days failing. It's preparing!   Reach out for help if you need it.   Take that first step; you can do it.

Barb

173 DOF

So your plan is to cut down to nothing and quit when you can?

Are you going to use nicotine replacement therapy?

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If you are and you're smoking 7 cigarettes or less, I'd suggest the 7mg patch. It is equal to the nicotine delivered by 7 cigarettes.

If you aren't, the nicotine receptors will keep most people in perpetual withdrawal when they get down to 5 or less.

When you get to that point, it's time to let the nicotine go and get through the first week without it.

/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-in-the-first-four-months 

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Giulia
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Each of us approaches  our quits in our own ways.  If doing little trial runs, cutting back, etc., works for you, then that's what works for you.  (If it doesn't, then you've learned that method didn't work and you need to find one that does.)  /blogs/Giulia-blog/2018/03/01/quitting-is-a-skill-that-can-be-learned?sr=search&searchId=c096a44d-d6...  I'm an all-or-nothing type.  Cutting back just made me want cigarettes all the more.  So my method was /blogs/SkyGirl-blog/2016/11/23/a-smart-turkey?sr=search&searchId=4d3e4b65-edf4-4085-bf26-b7225b9f0c9...‌  I read, prepared and jumped into the water.  But it was support that finally got me to where I am now with a 12 year quit.

What you have to be aware of is that our addict brain is going to come up with all sorts of excuses to not only delay our quit but to excuse a relapse.  https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2013/08/12/understanding-excuses?sr=search...‌  

Prepare well and use your quit kit.  Cheering you on!

Mommamich
Member

I think that is a great idea.  I have tried numerous times to quit and failed until I did exactly what you are doing. I slowly cut my intake down until my quit date.  In my opinion it made it much easier to stay smoke free.  Everyone uses their own method and I believe if it works it's a good one.  Good luck to you and keep up the good work.

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

I agree with the others - if it works for you - go for it.  If not, try something else.  Everyone is different and what works for one may or may not work for another.

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it  or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php
 
 After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 
https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...
 
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

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maryfreecig
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    What cutting down did for me was help me practice NO. No, not having a cigarette now. But I did not wean myself off cigarettes so much as smoke my stash for about 2.5-3 weeks. Near the end I knew my days of smoking would be few. I prepared for no. Preparing is so important.

    What is your plan for craves once you have quit. Making a list of things you are willing to do rather than smoke has helped many a quitter. It's about getting ready, then following through rather than quitting on a quit day and being frustrated by craves. Plan! yes you can, one day at a time.

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macm69
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I'm on day 7 of being smoke free. For the last several years I only smoked a half a pack a day. I started taking Chantix about a month and a half ago and that made me lose the desire to smoke so much that I was down to 4-5 cigarettes a day before choosing my quit date. It is still extremely hard for me though. I know it is just the habit I am missing and not necessarily the nicotine but after smoking for as long as I did it is hard. I am in sales and it is such a habit to smoke in my car that I am trying to avoid going out on sales right now. I did this morning and was so tempted to pull over and buy a pack of cigarettes. At home I have one cigarette left in the last pack I bought sitting on my counter with my lighter that just happened to be left over on my quit day, my husband asked me why I don't throw it away and I compared it with having ice cream in the freezer, I know it's there if I really, really want it but when I look at it I inevitably talk myself out of it. I will probably hang on to that last cigarette until I start to feel like I'm over the hump, if that ever happens. 

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