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Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Jan 21, 2016

Have you noticed that some of us seem to have a smoother time getting through those first challenging weeks of our Quit Journey? Often they’re the folks on the true Quit Journey for LIFE! I call this mind set Quititude!

Quititude doesn’t just come naturally – it’s a learned behavior! That’s good news! If I can learn it, I can acquire it! Some of us learn at different rates or in different ways but we all have the ability to learn!

Here are some suggestions that might help you with your quititude:

As often as possible throughout your day, take a moment to celebrate an activity or a thought related to your new smoke FREE status such as, " I love how delicious my food is tasting," "I love how wonderful the air is smelling," "I love the compliments and support I get from the people in my life," or "I love this brand new day of smoke FREE living." These sincere reflections of appreciation immediately will bring you into perfect alignment with the Creator of your Being and enhance your Values.

When you acknowledge these gifts and EXpress your Appreciation for Smoke FREEDOM, you will begin to change energetically, and it will influence every aspect of your Quit Journey. By practicing Quititude, you begin to have a relationship with the true essence of who you are and everyone who is within your sphere will benefit from your appreciation, even the naysayers! As you accept support graciously, more support comes your way!

By living with an awareness of Quititude, you are open to appreciating the element of Love in all things beginning with your Divine Source and yourself. As it touches every area of your life, it cultivates well-being and happiness, and when expressed around others, it brings about an increased level of peace, optimism, confidence and empathy. Quititude is not only a great virtue for successful addiction recovery, but the person who exhibits Quititude will benefit many people around them.

How do you cultivate a sense of appreciation every day? Just by saying the words “Thank You” out loud, you fortify and grow more Quititude! Work at practicing and remembering to give thanks and gratitude as often as possible and even plan it into your daily routine. Every morning, before getting out of bed, Thank God for another Smoke FREE Day! While going about preparations for the day send out an intentional thought of Gratitude for Recovery. Let the Universe know that you are grateful and appreciative for letting you have another opportunity to learn, understand and perhaps influence another person and hopefully change a life for the better.

How can you grow by incorporating Quititude into your daily agenda? First, it enables you to acknowledge the positive aspects of your quit, whether it is clean living, health or even opportunities to view something from a different point of view. It can assist you in putting things in perspective. When you have a negative thought such as "I really wish I could smoke right now," Quititude can spin that thought into "I am happy that I don’t have to smoke in order to deal with life on life’s terms." Whenever you look at quitting as hard and difficult, instead think of it as exciting and challenging. Start to perceive obstacles as opportunities to learn and grow, and change and improve.

When you emanate an attitude of Quititude, it is the same vibration as the energy of Love. When you practice a mindset of appreciation, you will let go of doubt and fear and live in the presence of everything that feels right and good. The act of giving thanks will make you feel good, and this feeling is your soul's way of letting you know that Abundant Smoke FREE Living  is how you really are meant to live. As you live with Quittitude, your view of the World and yourself will completely change and your circumstances, situations and relationships are forever altered.

When you practice Quititude, you see everything in your life as a miracle and you become aware of how many opportunities and possibilities are before you. You look at the things that are rich and positive instead of poor and fearful. It strengthens your body, mind and soul, and you will begin to attract those situations and people into your life that are also positive and soul-enriching.

Look around you today and acknowledge everything about Living Smoke FREE  for which you are grateful. And give Thanks to the Almighty!


I tried everything

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Jan 20, 2016

As it gets closer to my 365th day quit I have been reflecting quite a lot.   I enjoy this site and the friendships that have been nurtured.  I am inspired by both the new and the old members.  Thoughts come to mind from where I started and to the now of this nonsmoking freedom of life journey.  I do know the best is yet to come in this and other aspects of my life.  

 Before quitting, my addiction was always telling me that I “wanted or needed a cigarette”.  In fact, nicotine told me that lie at least 10 times a day, 7 days a week give or take a few cigarettes for over forty years.  Calculate the effect of your brain being told that for so long.  More importantly, imagine what it takes to replace those thoughts in your new nonsmoking daily life.   Some may dispute it but it took me, one day at a time, sometimes moments, hours, seconds, or the length of an urge.  Along with the time, it took determination, with an in your own face; I am not going to smoke no matter what attitude.  This is my quit and I was/am not going to allow anything, anyone, no thought, no urge, and no addiction to cause me to fail.  This may sound easy but at times it is not.  First, I had to relearn my thinking.  I had to listen to the advice of the elders.  I leaned on my friends here for support and vice versa.  I put my trust in God and prayed learning that with a willing spirit I would make it through.

 I focused on learning, reading, studying, researching. blogging,  making friends,  commenting, and having fun.  I left no room for failure.  When Nancy gave me the link to Allen Carr’s book, it took me less than a night to read it.  Then I purchased my own updated copy to make sure I had it all.  There were days that my eyes were so tired, red, gritty that I would literally have to take a break to recover.  No NRT’s but I had them available if needed.  I used Wellbutrin for a very short period of time.  MY MIND WAS MADE UP.  TURNING BACK WAS NOT MY FUTURE.  I developed my own mantra SINAO...smoking is not an option The other day while reflecting I had this epiphany.

I tried everything to quit but it did not work until I tried myself.

This statement is so huge yet hard to explain to someone new.  To someone who has just begun this journey let go of all the excuses and apply yourself it is "doable".... 360 DOF. God bless.    

"Can't believe I am still craving a smoke after two weeks"

"Can't wait until I am quit one year"

"Wish these craves were over"

"Why can't I just be done"

"Wish I could say I had 900 days"

"Can't do's just to hard"

"When will it be over?"

If this is you.......may I make an OUTLANDISH suggestion..................


The journey is the reward is the mantra of many runners.  A true runner enjoys the run....not the finish. A true runner runs to run...not really to finish or place or really anything. The RUN ITSELF is the enjoyment! Yet, runs can be tough. Even if you are a trained runner. Why do they run? The journey is the reward.

The same is true of many things----------life itself. So many people rush through life..."wish I was 16, 21, married, kids out of the house, retired". Life goes too fast the way it is...enjoy the journey. The journey is the reward.

Quitting can be the same. Once I stopped fighting how I felt...I found the quit went so much better...actually started to enjoy it (promise!). When things got rough---I sort of "pulled out of myself" and looked at me like an experiment...kind of like..."hmmmm look at that---you crave a cigarette MORE when relaxing than when you are actually stressed.....interesting." Instead of fearing craves...I hit them the way runners hit the hills. You know they are coming. PREPARE and run them. Let the journey be the reward.

Just food for thought........wishing everyone here on EX a rewarding journey.

It started with a decision: I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired! I no longer want to be in the 70% of smokers who want to quit – I want to be in the 6% who really have quit!


For that decision to become a reality requires that you develop a series of habits and activities that become second nature and will keep you moving in the right direction. Attitude feeds action and action feeds attitude!


You also need to prepare yourself for the tough moments. The first days you probably expect that but what about Month 2? Are you preparing to confront the no Man’s Land challenges during Months 2 – 4? Your chances of becoming an EX increase much more once you get past Month 4.


What To Expect In The First Four Months 


And we’re not there yet! 6% refers to those who launch a quit and see it through an entire Year! Don’t like those numbers? Here’s the good news:


It is absolutely within your ability to become a 6%er regardless of how long you smoked, how many packs a day, messy life stuff. You can make it happen!


Victories don’t only happen with milestones and calendar days. They are built on true challenges to your resolve! Your inner Nico-Voice knows that (and is probably screaming right now because of it!) Each victory makes more challenges less frequent and less intense – for me, that’s a huge motivator to get to the other side NO MATTER WHAT!


Here’s some techniques that will help you make it:




Smoking is a ritual – from counting how many Sickerettes you have left to never losing your lighter. Now it’s time to start a new set of rituals. Coming here every day to BLOG is a great ritual. Reading at


The Easy Way




is also very helpful.


Making Daily Pledges is a wonderful ritual. Our Community has made it easy for you. Just hop on this link:


Take the Daily Pledge 


Cleaning you teeth, your house, your car can be ritual. Drinking 8 cups of water a day, eating 6 times a day, walking 10 minutes 3 times a day can all support your quit with ritual. Mindful breathing can relieve your cravings ritualistically.


These are just a few Examples of how to ritualize your Quit Journey. You can do any or all of these and add your own.


Recognize your cravings:


Ignoring cravings doesn’t help. Recognizing them while deciding to change your focus leads to success. When it gets to be day three and you’re debating whether tobuy a pack or borrow a Sickerette, recognize what’s going on. Learn to say to yourself, “I’m facing a craving.” Recognizing this is like taking the blindfold off before the fight begins. Now you know that you have the option to fight or to calmly walk away and focus on your alternative list. “What can I do instead?” Each victory makes winning the next one easier.


Smoking is not an Option (SINAO):




Unlike other “bad habits” such as binge watching Netflix or biting your fingernails, smoking is ADDICTIVE! So you’re doing more than breaking a habit.  Therefore, smoking even one single puff ever is simply not an option!


1 = 1 million!


Around here we say: N.O.P.E. Not One Puff Ever! Any other approach is a recipe for failure! Coach yourself through a craving by asking these two questions:


 1) How will I feel if I beat this craving? and


2) How will I feel if I lose it?


 This brings emotion into the process, and emotion promotes action.


Mindfully imagine the feeling of accomplishment, the pride and confidence you gained, the self-empowerment from knowing you can beat this! You can turn craving into victory. Relish the process from beginning to end when you know that you beat another craving. Review through your mind how your total body is healing all the way from your mouth to lungs, from your heart to your Brain, from your blood to your skin. See yourself celebrating with your buddies and family. Tell them how hard it was and how you did it!


 Feel it happening – right now!


 Mindfully go through the entire process of going to the store, saying those words, placing your hard earned money on the counter, going to a smoking area, feeling the stares of strangers who judge or pity you, unwrapping the package, putting the Death Stick in your mouth, lighting the end and taking that first puff. Clearly imagine the feeling of the smoke hitting the back of your throat, travelling down your bronchioles, entering your lungs rushing through your heart to your blood stream and hitting your brain. Even allow yourself to envision that false hit of dopamine.




But don’t stop there! Feel the guilt and shame! The sense of loss and frustration of failure! Imagine telling your family that once again, you let them down, you let yourself down! Feel the disgust at the whole dirty habit!


If you can imagine that you are no longer a smoker, you’re going to feel good about yourself and probably a lot healthier. If you’re still smoking, you’ll probably feel like a failure, or at least experience negative emotions that come with not meeting your goal. In either case, negative or positive emotions are powerful motivators that will help you become a success.




See Yourself in the Future:




Take thirty seconds and, in great detail, think about where your life will be in five years if you consistently stay smoke FREE. Be honest and let yourself feel the benefits of constantly beating your Addiction.




 Then, go through the same process and suffer the feelings of defeat after giving up on your Quit Journey. How much you’ve embraced these techniques will determine the outcome.




Let’s assume you’ve joined the 6% Club, a new lifestyle has become a regular part of your existence, and smoking and quitting no longer feel like things you have to intentionally remember or push yourself to do. It’s normal to feel proud, but keep your guard up. Common traps can send you into relapse. Check out Giulia’s very comprehensive Relapse Traps Group:


Relapse Prevention 




Do you want to jump through the same hoops over and over again, each time a little more discouraged, a little less confident? Do you want to convince yourself that you can’t do it and will die a Smoker?




OR do you want to get it right the first time? The choice really is YOURS! We want to support your Quit Journey right through the 6% Club and beyond! We want to see you celebrating this time next Year your Smoke FREE Victory!




You may wonder just how many of us have actually done this. Well, here’s the list of active members who belong to the 6% Club and beyond. Next Year you could be there too!




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