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Giulia
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UNDERSTANDING EXCUSES

Anything your brain comes up with that tells you that you’re justified in smoking is simply an excuse.  Here are some examples

  1. I’m under a lot of stress right now because of... __________ fill in the blank
    1. my family - (spouse, ex spouse, father, niece, mother, nephew,  grandmother, brother, grandfather, uncle, sister, grandchild, cousin, mother-in-law .....)
    2. my job, boss, co-worker, lack of a job, too many jobs....
    3. my boyfriend, girlfriend, frogfriend (just wanted to see if you were payin’ attention lol), boyfriend’s ex, girlfriend’s mother....
    4. my roommate, my roommate’s friend, my roommate’s mother, my roommates dog...
    5. my exams, my certifications, my teacher, my advisor, my class mate...
    6. my pet, my vet, my vet’s nurse, my vet’s front desk person...
    7. my doctor, nurse, health care facility, billing office, dentist...
    8. my friend, arguments with a friend, my friend’s friend, my ex-friend, my friends ex- friend...my friend’s mother’s sister,
    9. my gas-fed ... car, tractor, weed wacker, leaf blower, snow mobile, jet ski, chain saw....
    10. my refrigerator, my garage door, my dishwasher, my toilet, my computer, my basement leak...
    11. my lack of sleep, my grief, my physical pain,
    12. my lack of money, loss of a purse, rude person at the supermarket, person who flipped me the bird at the stop light, insurance agent, realtor, banker, lawyer, indian chief, social security office, collections department, identity theft....
    13. politics, rednecks, liberals, conservatives, PACs, the IRS, the NSA, CNN, FOX,  Obama, Trump...
    14. Covid-19
    15. global warming, global cooling, climate changing....
  2. I need to smoke because of.....  (fill in the blank)                             
    1. death (unless it’s your own because you didn’t quit) of a friend, family member, pet or mass murder
    2. boredom, (I don’t know what to do except smoke)
    3. my bi-polar disorder, depression, elation, pain meds, constipation, expectoration,  elimination, anger, fear, sorrow, loneliness....
    4. I need comfort and only a cigarette can comfort me
    5. it's my reward
    6. don't wanna get fat: it's my way of keep weight off 
    7. it helps me relax
  3. I can't quit because.... (fill in the blank)
    1. It's harder for me
    2. my birthday, anniversary, graduation party, vacation - is coming up
    3. I'm not sure I'm ready
    4. nothing can replace the happiness a cigarette gives me
    5. it's my only friend in times of trouble
    6. I live with smokers
  4. I smoked because.....  (fill in the blank)
    1. I got  drunk, I forgot.
    2. I got drunk, I forgot,
    3. I got drunk, I forgot
    4. I didn’t follow the NOPE Doctrine even though I knew I should
    5. I didn’t seek support and thought I could do it on my own
    6. I wanted to just see what one tasted like after all this time
    7. I was with a friend/family member and I couldn’t resist the temptation
    8. I was out with my buddies and they all smoked
    9. I became complacent and thought I had it in the bag
    10. I wanted to test myself
    11. I let life "get to me"
    12. I didn’t think

If you check any one of those boxes then you either haven’t done your homework or you’ve not made a commitment to quit.  Because if you have, NOTHING will prevent you from maintaining it.  NOTHING.  Well, except it you’re drunk.  Commitment means squat if you’re drunk because you aren’t in your normal right mind.  But if you ARE - then the rest is a choosing.  Choosing to smoke.  

 

Are you getting the message here?  There is NOTHING in your mind that should allow you to smoke once you have made the commitment to quit.   ANYTHING that causes you to put a cigarette in your mouth is an excuse to continue the addiction.  Recognize the thought for what it is - an excuse -  and eliminate it immediately.  You came to this site to help you quit.  Number one lesson - recognize and ditch the excuses.

 

Commitment means no smoking No Matter What.

 

Here's a link to another blog on Junkie Thinking - Excuses to Smoke.

 

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Addendum 1/30/17

Recognize that any reason you can come up with to delay your quit date, like "I wasn't ready,"  is also an excuse.  Don't justify why you CAN'T, rather elaborate convincingly on  how you CAN and embrace your choice.
 

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erma2
Member

awesome post.  i think everyone neesd to read this.  Thanks Erma   ..nope

GREAT blog.... and remember, smoking will give your frogfriend constipation.

joyeuxencore
Member

Are you kidding me??? This is the best blog I have ever read!!!! I hope you won't mind if I re-post it ad infinitum as I am not this clever! You continue to totally amaze and inspire me! I am oh so grateful we have Elders who stick around....Oh wait!!!! Your avatar always said NOT an EXpert...I guess you are about recovery not ego...

Thank you friend! xo

joyeuxencore
Member

Sootie
Member

Great job G!

The message in this blog is the essential key to whether a quit is successful or not.

No excuses accepted here.

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Excellent blog...and I made my family members look at me because of the a, b, and c answers to number 3 made me actually laugh out loud.  ; ) 

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Nyima_1.6.13
Member

I love this blog it made me smile! Let's get real Giulia, as far as I'm concerned "getting drunk = risking your quit"! If you're getting drunk enough to toss your quit, you weren't committed to the quit and you might have another addiction to be concerned about! 

People stay off the booze for a while or at least limit your intake and if you can't not get drunk for a couple months while you get your quit under control, well that's probably another addiction you might want to address!

freeneasy
Member

I agree with all of the above. I am the 1st male to post a comment here. I guess this proves women are smarter than men....   

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freeneasy
Member

P.S. I won't use that as an excuse to smoke!