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UNDERSTANDING EXCUSES

Blog Post created by Giulia Champion on Aug 11, 2013

Anything your brain comes up with that tells you that you’re justified in smoking is simply an excuse.  Here are some examples

1.    I’m under a lot of stress right now because of... __________ fill in the blank

a) my family - (spouse, ex spouse, father, niece, mother, nephew,  grandmother, brother, grandfather, uncle, sister, grandchild, cousin, mother-in-law .....)
b) my job, boss, co-worker, lack of a job, too many jobs....
c) my boyfriend, girlfriend, frogfriend (just wanted to see if you were payin’ attention lol), boyfriend’s ex, girlfriend’s mother....
d) my roommate, my roommate’s friend, my roommate’s mother, my roommates dog...
e)  my exams, my certifications, my teacher, my advisor, my class mate...
f) my pet, my vet, my vet’s nurse, my vet’s front desk person...
g) my doctor, nurse, health care facility, billing office, dentist...
h) my friend, arguments with a friend, my friend’s friend, my ex-friend, my friends ex- friend...my friend’s mother’s sister,
i) my gas-fed ... car, tractor, weed wacker, leaf blower, snow mobile, jet ski, chain saw....

j) my refrigerator, my garage door, my dishwasher, my toilet, my basement leak...

k) my lack of sleep, my grief, my physical pain, 

l) my lack of money, loss of a purse, rude person at the supermarket, person who flipped me the bird at the stop light, insurance agent, realtor, banker, lawyer, indian chief, social security office, collections department, identity theft....

m)  politics, rednecks, liberals, conservative, PACs, the IRS, the NSA, CNN, FOX,  Obama, Trump...

n) global warming, global cooling, transgendered pipelines....

 

2.  I need to smoke because of.....  (fill in the blank)                             

 

a) death (unless it’s your own because you didn’t quit) of a friend, family member, pet
or mass murder
b) boredom, (I don’t know what to do except smoke)
c) my bi-polar disorder, depression, elation, pain meds, constipation, expectoration,  elimination, anger, fear, sorrow, loneliness....
d) I need comfort and only a cigarette can comfort me

e) it's my reward

f) don't wanna get fat: it's my way of keep weight off 

 

3.  I can't quit because.... (fill in the blank)

 

a)  It's harder for me

b)  my birthday, anniversary, graduation party, vacation - is coming up

c)   I'm not sure I'm ready

 

3.  I smoked because.....                            fill in the blank

 

a) I got  drunk, I forgot.
b) I got drunk, I forgot,
c) I got drunk, I forgot
d) I didn’t follow the NOPE Doctrine even though I knew I should
e) I didn’t seek support and thought I could do it on my own
f) I wanted to just see what it tasted like after all this time
g) I was with a friend/family member and I couldn’t resist the temptation
h) I was out with my buddies and they all smoked
i) I became complacent and thought I had it in the bag

j) I wanted to test myself
k) I didn’t think

 

 

 

 

If you check any one of those boxes then you either haven’t done your homework or you’ve not made a commitment to quit.  Because if you have, NOTHING will prevent you from maintaining it.  NOTHING.  Well, except it you’re drunk.  Commitment means squat if you’re drunk because you aren’t in your normal right mind.  But if you ARE - then the rest is a choosing.  Choosing to smoke.  

 

Are you getting the message here?  There is NOTHING in your mind that should allow you to smoke once you have made the commitment to quit.   ANYTHING that causes you to put a cigarette in your mouth is an excuse to continue the addiction.  Recognize the thought for what it is - an excuse -  and eliminate it immediately.  You came to this site to help you quit.  Number one lesson - recognize and ditch the excuses.

 

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Addendum 1/30/17-

Recognize that any reason you can come up with to delay your quit date is also an excuse.  Don't justify why you CAN'T, rather elaborate convincingly on  how you CAN and embrace your choice.
 

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