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UNDERSTANDING EXCUSES

Posted by Giulia Champion Aug 11, 2013

Anything your brain comes up with that tells you that you’re justified in smoking is simply an excuse.  Here are some examples

1.    I’m under a lot of stress right now because of... __________ fill in the blank

a) my family - (spouse, ex spouse, father, niece, mother, nephew,  grandmother, brother, grandfather, uncle, sister, grandchild, cousin, mother-in-law .....)
b) my job, boss, co-worker, lack of a job, too many jobs....
c) my boyfriend, girlfriend, frogfriend (just wanted to see if you were payin’ attention lol), boyfriend’s ex, girlfriend’s mother....
d) my roommate, my roommate’s friend, my roommate’s mother, my roommates dog...
e)  my exams, my certifications, my teacher, my advisor, my class mate...
f) my pet, my vet, my vet’s nurse, my vet’s front desk person...
g) my doctor, nurse, health care facility, billing office, dentist...
h) my friend, arguments with a friend, my friend’s friend, my ex-friend, my friends ex- friend...my friend’s mother’s sister,
i) my gas-fed ... car, tractor, weed wacker, leaf blower, snow mobile, jet ski, chain saw....

j) my refrigerator, my garage door, my dishwasher, my toilet, my basement leak...

k) my lack of sleep, my grief, my physical pain, 

l) my lack of money, loss of a purse, rude person at the supermarket, person who flipped me the bird at the stop light, insurance agent, realtor, banker, lawyer, indian chief, social security office, collections department, identity theft....

m)  politics, rednecks, liberals, conservative, PACs, the IRS, the NSA, CNN, FOX,  Obama, Trump...

n) global warming, global cooling, transgendered pipelines....

 

2.  I need to smoke because of.....  (fill in the blank)                             

 

a) death (unless it’s your own because you didn’t quit) of a friend, family member, pet or mass murder
b) boredom, (I don’t know what to do except smoke)
c) my bi-polar disorder, depression, elation, pain meds, constipation, expectoration,  elimination, anger, fear, sorrow, loneliness....
d) I need comfort and only a cigarette can comfort me

e) it's my reward

f) don't wanna get fat: it's my way of keep weight off 

g) it helps me relax

 

3.  I can't quit because.... (fill in the blank)

 

a)  It's harder for me

b)  my birthday, anniversary, graduation party, vacation - is coming up

c)   I'm not sure I'm ready

d)  nothing can replace the happiness a cigarette gives me

e)  it's my only friend in times of trouble

f)   I live with smokers

 

4.  I smoked because.....  (fill in the blank)

 

a) I got  drunk, I forgot.
b) I got drunk, I forgot,
c) I got drunk, I forgot
d) I didn’t follow the NOPE Doctrine even though I knew I should
e) I didn’t seek support and thought I could do it on my own
f) I wanted to just see what one tasted like after all this time
g) I was with a friend/family member and I couldn’t resist the temptation
h) I was out with my buddies and they all smoked
i) I became complacent and thought I had it in the bag

j) I wanted to test myself

k) I let life "get to me"
l) I didn’t think

 

 

If you check any one of those boxes then you either haven’t done your homework or you’ve not made a commitment to quit.  Because if you have, NOTHING will prevent you from maintaining it.  NOTHING.  Well, except it you’re drunk.  Commitment means squat if you’re drunk because you aren’t in your normal right mind.  But if you ARE - then the rest is a choosing.  Choosing to smoke.  

 

Are you getting the message here?  There is NOTHING in your mind that should allow you to smoke once you have made the commitment to quit.   ANYTHING that causes you to put a cigarette in your mouth is an excuse to continue the addiction.  Recognize the thought for what it is - an excuse -  and eliminate it immediately.  You came to this site to help you quit.  Number one lesson - recognize and ditch the excuses.

 

Commitment means no smoking No Matter What.

 

Here's a link to another blog on Junkie Thinking - Excuses to Smoke.

 

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Addendum 1/30/17

Recognize that any reason you can come up with to delay your quit date, like "I wasn't ready,"  is also an excuse.  Don't justify why you CAN'T, rather elaborate convincingly on  how you CAN and embrace your choice.
 

FOUNDATION FOR A SUCCESSFUL QUIT
  
1. KNOWLEDGE

We always say on the site to read the info the site has to offer and other links we give you.  Reading the blogs of our members gives you knowledge of their experiences. Learning about our addiction, the triggers and how to react in certain situations is equipping us for our journey. You will go through NML

 

( No Mans Land) days 30-130 of your quit  where your emotions run high. It's at this point in your quit, if you haven't educated yourself with the info, you could lose your quit. In all my previous quits, I never knew much about my addiction and they ended up as failures. This time I did it the right way and am still quit to this day. Be smart this time!

 2. HAVE FAITH

If you lack faith in your quit, you tend to worry, have anxiety and become more controlled by your circumstances because we aren't confident in the outcome. We  need to believe in ourselves that we can do this!

 

3. COURAGE

It is the mental or moral state to face fear, difficulty and to keep moving on. For example, the initial phase of our quit, where we decide to set that date and start is the easy part. But as days go on, we get a higher resistance from our body and mind.  The challenge is to get through this part of the phase. The resistance will increase but we must continue and never give up. At some point the resistance will get weaker and the going will be easier. Through this process, we become stronger.

 

4. USING WISDOM

The ability to discern or judge what is true, right, or lasting. If you know or have those feelings that something just isn't right or you have a fear something is going to  happen that might jeopardize your quit. DON'T DO IT!! For example, if you always drink and smoke together, going to a party isn't a good idea in the beginning unless you are saying no to the alcohol. Even then, you are still in that social setting and you are putting yourself at RISK. Is it worth it?

 

5. BEING OPTIMISTIC 

It ultimately means the best possible outcome of any given situation. We can either lift people up or drag them down. How you react to circumstances affects other people. Everybody has an influence on somebody.  To become a more positive person, we must replace every negative thought with a positive one. Examples, I can't do this, I just want to give up = yes I can do this! I will try.  I hope I can stop smoking = I will stop smoking. We really need to reprogram our minds. This doesn't just apply in our quits but in our lives. It helps us to become a happier person.

 

I am including useful links below. Use them to find your own personal freedom!

 

Allen Carr's Book..Easy Way to Stop Smoking (free downloadable ebook)

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