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A reintroduction

Posted by Jeanmarc19561 Feb 17, 2020

Good morning Everyone, I have been here before about a year ago and found this site and this community incredibly helpful. So this is a reintroduction if you will. Here I am at 63 and have smoked since I was 15. Over the years I've attempted to quit many times. In fact I'm an expert at failing to quit. I'm not wallowing however. I've never lost the resolve to keep trying. Each failure has actually been a learning experience in one form or another. Over the years I've gained a lot of information about smoking, tried a number of ways, read countless books including Alan Carrs and used many techniques to deal with cravings. One really effective one was writing here when a craving came. It was, not sure what word to use,  comforting perhaps, that the intended group were a diverse bunch of people who have all dealt with the same issue. It reminds me of the passage "The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience." So having said that, because of the support given on this site by so many, it is my hope to be a benefit to someone else as well. Today is the day I quit and I'm reminded of something I saw on Pinterest. It was a picture of Gandalf (Lord of the Rings) looking down a valley with hordes of the enemy below just before a battle and he say's "And so it begins." Thank you for this site. John


Changed my mind

Posted by Jeanmarc19561 Feb 16, 2019

I've been thinking about NRT's. I've never used them in the past because like Alan Carr I thought fighting a nicotine addiction with nicotine did not make sense. This time however, I am pulling out all the stops to quit and using a patch (21mg) as well as the occasional gum. It is definitely helping because I experimented and went without for a day and noticed the difference. The patch does take the edge off. So what about the nicotine addiction itself? Isn't that our biggest enemy? My thoughts are now this on day 16. Yes and no. Yes it was nicotine that brought us to the point where we are at now but there is, I believe, something else that demands more of our attention. My understanding is that anywhere from 72 hrs. to 3 months the chemical part of the addiction is gone. From pervious attempts I'd say this is accurate. The insidious enemy is association of a smoke and and an action or non action. So I started smoking regularly at 15 and I am now 62. Every single day I'd light up in any and all circumstances. Thats a lot of years and a lot of associations, i.e. triggers. Even in the short span I've not smoked I'm already experiencing moments when I realized I did not think of a smoke when I normally would have. Few and far between but there none the less. Now I read here that only 6% make it a full year. So here is why I've changed my mind about NRT's. It won't take long for the physical part of quitting to completed but the psychological aspect takes much longer for obvious reasons. We've smoked a long time. So a years time seems a realistic time frame for that. So for me, the patch is a benefit and worth whatever discomfort I my feel when I stop using them. This is not an endorsement for everyone but for those who find it helpful, don't feel guilty or "less strong" Whatever works! Have a great day everyone and stay focused! 


Two weeks

Posted by Jeanmarc19561 Feb 13, 2019

Today is two weeks without a smoke and it's been interesting. Not horrible or knuckle biting but to put it in a genteel fashion, challenging at times. Ok, let's cut the crap. A couple of times would have been a disaster if I was one of those who kept a pack around "just in case". But so far so good. This afternoon I read Allen Carrs book per your suggestion and it was very good but it also triggered a "moment" One that I had to laugh at myself over. Near the beginning you'll read this, "It's essential to keep smoking until you have finished the book completely." My first reaction was Woo woo!! and to take Mr. Carrs instructions to heart because he said we should achieve success "Provided we follow all instructions". In the book this is capitalized. So my first thought is 1-as an ex military person I can follow orders 2-Who am I to argue with a proven method of quitting smoking. 3- I'll follow the instructions and smoke until I finish the book. Of course I didn't but this is how the addictive mind works. That is what I remembered as I was reading the book and when I went back to re read the part about smoking till you finish the book I read what I had to have read before but conveniently did not register in my addicted mind was the previous sentence, "provided that you are not a non-smoker or an ex smoker" Whew, close one! I say this mostly in jest. Anyway, hope everyone is doing well and have a great evening! 

Hi Everyone, Just ranting a bit and perhaps be of help as well. I'm on my 6th day of not smoking and all of you know what that entails. Having gone through the process countless times I've come to expect a certain pattern. That the first three days would be the most difficult and somewhat ease a bit after that. Well this time was different. It was starting on the fourth day that I started experiencing urges with alarming frequency. So I pulled back a bit and gave it some thought. I'm 62 and started smoking at 15. What that means is that there is probably no time in my life when I didn't have a cigarette in any given circumstance. Feeling good, light up. Feeling down, light up. Under stress light up. Excited or bored, light up. And on it goes. Heck, I remember a time when I was in the Army I fell asleep smoking! But that realization did not answer the question as to why so many urges after three days. Then it hit me. I have a great deal of patience with other people but not so with myself. The thought process was lets get through the first three days then move on. Git er done as they say. That isn't how it works when quitting. You need to be patient. Deal with each urge as they come, know that more will come, but trust the folks here when they say it does get better and the urges are less frequent. I guess being patient with yourself is part of being good to yourself. I hope this is a benefit to someone. Just thought of something, how about if when an urge strikes we quickly think of something we're grateful for? 

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