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Prayers for Husband's Family: His Dad Died

Blog Post created by minihorses on Aug 28, 2019

We found out a little over a year ago that my husband's father had pancreatic cancer.  It's a quite aggressive form of cancer  He has been pretty good and outlived the doctors' prognosis by at least 6 months.  They live 1 1/2 hours from here so my husband has been going down every few weeks.  Over the course of a couple months he has been going to visit every other week. His dad has kept his sense of humor and was eating well.  When my husband came home last week he said he would probably go back this week.  His sister is still in town so it gives them all time together. When he came home this evening he said he was going back down on Monday.  He told them he'd see them next Wednesday.  Dad's wife said he should make it Monday, that his dad may not make it even that long.  His sister had gotten laid off work so she has been there and will continue to stay.  My prayers are that my husband will be able to see him one more time if he still has his faculties left. I pray that Dad's wife is finding her peace in therapy and meditation.  I pray that my father-in-law remains comfortable and passes quietly in his sleep.  I pray that Father God draws him close when he goes into the higher plane of life.

It's been one hell of a year.

 

UPDATE:  My father-in-law had been in and out of it for the last couple weeks and my husband has been going down at least twice a week.  He went down on Friday and his dad was just in the end zone where they're just keeping him clean and comfortable i.e., drugged.  They didn't think he'd make it through the night, same thing Saturday.  He couldn't go down yesterday and it has become just a 'death watch' at this point anyway.  His sister even flew home yesterday.  Back to husband, mini farm and look for some work. My husband's job(s) is getting more demanding by the second. Between that, his dad, and all my medical crap my husband is beat up and burnt out. He could really use some love sent his way, and his dad's wife could use the same.

 

Update 09/10/19:  My Husband's father passed away today at around noon. He went peacefully in his drugged sleep. Strangely, I woke up this morning and had a feeling it would be today.  It seems that a lot of people pass away near family celebration dates like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. and tomorrow is my husband's birthday. I knew he wouldn't do that to his son. His dad's wife let him know by text which I thought was odd until I thought about it. Christine has really been an absolute wreck. She's a manic as all hell as told by my husband when he came back from his last visit.  With a text she didn't have to show emotions to anyone yet. His dad was her 4th husband but I knew the minute I saw them get married that she truly loved that man and they would stay together til the end.  I wish I could do something.  I don't know anything about a service, get together, or any other arrangements.  I don't think they are doing anything except the business part of death.  My husband and Christine really need a lot of prayers and I know my warriors here won't let me down. I'm going to start talking to God and to Dad now that he has crossed and I know he'll hear me.  

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