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Respect Is Two Way Street

JonesCarpeDiem
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Respect Begets Respect

      When people point you in different direction, don't attack them for trying to redirect your thinking.  There's no need to leave comments on other posts about how you felt you were treated badly. That further distances you from your goal and is similar to going around mommy by getting daddy's permission and pitting one parent against the other.

      No one who has been here long term is out to disparage anyone.

      Deleting your content shows a lack of respect for those who took the time to respond and attempt to help you. Your prior interaction (history) is the only way you and we can see your progress and know what's been said so we know better how to help you.

      Occasionally, mistakes in assessment or responses may be made or misinterpreted. You control your feelings not us. As Diane Joy says, "Take what you need and leave the rest."

   "Grow a backbone. A wishbone won't cut it."

(paraphrased from Tommy.)

   No one can make you fail but you.

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.