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Those first days

Posted by Chuck_Quit_2-20-2011 Feb 28, 2017


Good morning EXers! So often after the first days of a quit, we seem to lose some of our stamina or rather the drive that we had felt when we first put out that last cigarette. There’s really no way to sugar coat those first days. Bottom line is that those first days are hard!


The thing to remember during those first hard days is our future. That’s right. When we feel the worst, it’s really hard to find things in the now that will help us to continue to fight, simply because the now is pretty miserable. We really don’t feel like analyzing and yet if we do, it can do wonders for us.


I always looked ahead, to the time after my current discomfort and the rewards that would come with it. I could imagine the peace and the freedom that was there for the taking, so long as I got myself through a little rough patch. I would see the future without cigarettes in my mind’s eye and when I peered into the future, I would always be smiling!


I used my mountain as well, because to me it represented so much of what I longed to see. So much of the life that I wanted to build was there waiting for me, if I could just get past today. And so one day at a time I trudged on, always believing in what was awaiting me and always looking ahead to where my goal lied.


I always remembered my mantra that what I do today will determine what my future will look like tomorrow. I’d take many deep breaths and would make myself understand something that was very important to me. That each day that I lived smoke free, another tentacle of my addiction would be ripped from my being. And with each tentacle that was removed, it would make the next one that much easier.


The thing to remember about quitting is that it’s a learning experience. And every crave that we overcome. Every day of success that we have teaches us how to survive the next day.


And one thing I remembered was that the physical discomfort of a crave only lasts a few minutes at most. If we latch onto that crave, then we feel discomfort seemingly the entire day. But if we can accept for what it is and dismiss it, then we’ve won another step toward freedom.


Of course it’s going to be tough and a big part of the reason is that our reward is a little ways away. But always remember that it’s there. That one day you’ll be standing on the other side of your addiction and you will be free!


You will find the peace that awaits any of us brave enough to take that first step and decide that our futures are more important than a little discomfort at first. Everyone who has quit has felt what you might be feeling now.

Just remember that what you’re doing now is for your future. What you’re doing now is for life. What you are doing now can dictate how the future will be. Go for it! No one is lying when they tell you how wonderful you will feel down the road. You’re not losing a thing. Instead, you’re gaining an incredible future and when you get there, you too will be telling others that it was all worth it. That life is wonderful and that there really is peace!





Did We Ever Need To Justify The Money We Spent On Smoking?

There were the direct costs, the indirect costs,

and, now, the health costs

We accepted the expense. It was an understanding with ourselves, a given.

So, do you now find you have any difficulty spending money

on yourself because you can't justify it?

Strange how we place more value on an addiction.


Treat Yourself Well

So this quit smoking thing.

What are you going to make of it?

Have you decided it's going to be a big problem? If so, It will be.


Are you afraid of quitting or are you afraid of failing?

Why are you afraid of either?


Were you afraid when you started smoking?

Didn't you just kind of slide into it with a friend or

sneak them from someone in your family?

There was no forethought, no discussion of repercussions.

Hell, you didn't know what you were getting into.


How many times throughout your years of smoking

have you said to yourself, "I can quit anytime." or "I really should quit?"


Isn't smoking a contradiction to living?

I'm telling you it is because you live to smoke and

you don't truly know it yet.

Not only that, it is damaging your health.

Everyone is here to encourage you.

Some of us have put in the time and watched enough peoples journey's to figure the angles, guide you along, and, teach you to believe in yourself.


We can show you how to slip the trap.


If you keep an open mind,

and, I don't mean we are going to be telling you "strange" things,

but, we have been there, right where you sit and


There's a method to our madness,

a reason to our rhyme,

Open up your mind and give it time.

What To Expect In The First Four Months 


Mt. Freedom

Posted by Chuck_Quit_2-20-2011 Feb 24, 2017

Most of my blogs as of late have been about the time that I first decided to quit. Now I thought I’d move on to the actual quit, and a vision that helped me along the way. Quite often, I mention the mountain and I’ve found that many find my vision useful, so once again let’s visit the mountain.


When I first quit smoking, I realized that I was a very visual person, or rather that I used visualisation to help me to deal with the realities of my quit. I created Mt. Freedom as a means of understanding what was happening to me or more importantly, to help to keep me focused on the task at hand which was never, ever smoking again. But first, like all of us, I had to get through the actual quit.


I above all else dreamed of being free from my addiction and I knew it was going to be hard. And so I saw myself standing at the base of Mt. Freedom and realized that this was a rather formidable mountain. I looked up at the tiny summit and dreamed of climbing all the way to the top, longing to be there, for I knew if I could just make this one climb, I would truly be free.


The day I put out my first cigarette was the first day that I stepped on the slopes of Mt. Freedom. I stood at the base and stared up at that tiny summit, vowing to one day be standing there. And I took the first shaky step upward. I trudged along that first day, fully aware that I couldn’t slip down the slope, lest I have to walk the path again.


It reminded me that now, on the first day of my quit I had to be careful if I was going to make it to the top. In life, I looked for things that might cause that slip and soon, I had finished the first day. The next day, I had a beginning to work with and I carefully climbed upward, still seeking that summit no matter how hard it was to get there.


I could see the slopes more clearly now. There were snow fields and boulder fields up there, things to watch out for, but it never deterred me and soon I was on day three. Carefully on that day, I climbed upward, never believing that I wouldn’t reach the summit.


Soon, I’d been climbing for a week and I dared to look behind me! There I saw that the beginning of my journey was a little ways below me now. Sure, the summit still seemed so far away, and yet when I looked below me, it seemed that I had come so far! This gave me confidence and I noticed that my footing had become much more stable on this journey to freedom. I was learning that with each step, I was closer to that wonderful summit that I desired to see so badly.


Time always passes. All we have to do is live that time and remember what we want to do with our futures. By the time I’d climbed for two weeks, I knew I’d learned so much! That the only thing that could now stop me was my own fear. And there was no way I was going to let that happen!


A month later, and I could see the summit so much more clearly. This was when I first noticed that there was a banner up there, blowing in the wind. I wanted to hold that banner! To take it and wave it proudly over my head! Believing in that summit brought me strength and hope. I really was going to reach that goal of freedom!!


I got past the slippery snow fields. I found that I was at last in the boulder fields, but I didn’t care because I was ready. I saw that banner waving in the wind on that mountain so much more clearly now and I could see what it said. It said freedom!!!


I climbed Mt Freedom for a good six months before I reached that wonderful summit that I so longed to see. And yes, I grabbed that banner and waved it high above my head!! I was so happy because at last, I was free!!


I still wave that banner of freedom proudly over my head, and I always will for you see, once one reaches the summit. Once a person knows that the future is going to be as bright as they hoped it would be. Once a person finds the peace that is awaiting on the other side of addiction, there can be nothing more powerful or more meaningful.


I see so many on the slopes of Mt. Freedom, clawing upward and always looking to that summit. Always believing that one day they can be standing there, and I long to see every one of you there. I long to see all of you holding that banner of freedom and with a smile, waving it high over your heads for I know how it feels. I know that it’s worth every step on the journey. I know what it feels like to be free.


And every time I see another reach that summit, it brings me as much joy as when I too reached it. Go for it! Take that first uncertain step on to that wonderful mountain. There’s so much waiting for you at the summit. I can’t wait to see you there!








I miss smoking...

Posted by JustSharon Feb 24, 2017

I'd be a liar if I said I didn't. But I don't smoke anymore and still work hard daily to stay that way.  Just a little low lately. Since my surgery, I am hooked to a wound vacuum.  It has a long enough hose that I get around well enough, but 2 days a week we travel to have the bandaging changed out and I'm growing weary of it all. May be another month of it yet. Oh well, not going to smoke over it, but it sure has been heavy on my mind this morning. Stay strong I say!

It will

pucker  and punify the power

of any crave

and make that sucker run away

Try it and see!

the cravings will flee

and your life won't be

old nicotine's slave!

PS You will likely remember the pucker

for the next craving.


Please do not get mad.

Posted by John10forteen Feb 23, 2017

Hello Everyone.

Are you on the right side of the tracks? Isn't that an old adage, "they're from the wrong side of the tracks" 


I am 861 days clean, smokefree, confident, understanding, thankful.... ALL because of the dialogue I was exposed to 861 days ago. "You can do it" / "NOPE" / "Ride the wave" / "You're doing great" / "Where are you? haven't seen you for a while"/ and on and on and on... All strangers turned into friends. People taking their time to help me. I vowed to repay that kindness because I tried quitting smoking 100+ times before my friends here, supported me, until I was strong enough to enjoy my freedom. I have been waiting patiently for this new platform to be presented and now it's here and so I am here also to keep my promise to myself. To help. 


I ask again... Are you on the right side of the tracks? I'm talking about the home page. Do you want to be popular, always having your content forefront, being first all the time because you have a popular page. Is it cool that every time someone say's hi to you, you go to the top of the line, the front of the class as they say..... pushing the needy, less popular and the lost further down the page until they are out of sight. (Please don't get mad, I'm just starting to understand how it's working)


On the home page, there are two columns (two sides of the track) The RIGHT side,(discussions/questions/etc) where the more popular you are the more slots you will fill. 

The LEFT side,(blogs) of the tracks is where the steadfast reside. Say your piece and get on with your day so someone else can be at the top of the page.


I'm just sharing what I learned yesterday regarding how the postings get prioritized. The LEFT side (blogs only) are posted in the order of when they were actually written, they do not move up in priority as comments and replies are made. The RIGHT side (everything else.. Not blogs) is prioritized by whomever writes the last reply or comment to the original post. The reason I think this is so important to understand is because as individuals of success we must save the most valuable forefront spaces for the most needful and also for the most beneficial content. 


There are awesome benefits to both side of the tracks, Understanding the dynamics is what I'm trying to share and learn too.

Informing students what they can and cannot say.

There is a no bias rule against smokers or smoking in Kentucky.


If this were Kentucky I wouldn't want to make you feel bad about smoking by telling you are damaging yourself and are going to cost society a lot

of money in the future, if you lived that long, because I'm not allowed to say that.  :-)

Of course if I were a smoker I wouldn't be listening either.   :-)


There will be no Free Speech much longer if this continues.

Just testing to see if this comes up as a discussion with a blog icon.


I'm writing this from the conversations page using the blog icon


Just before publishing I already noticed a difference form my regular blog. At the lower part of this page there is a section for Publish Location. From the conversation page, this defaults to a place blog instead the personal blog. 


I'll see where this ends up on the home page.


Publish Location


Starting to learn this new site a little more, and it’s a labor worth doing!


Anyway, I was thinking about way back, when I first started entertaining the idea of quitting. There were so many seeming obstacles in my way. I mean, like all of you, I knew that feeding my addiction was slowly killing me. I knew that with every single cigarette, I was adding power to an addiction that I didn’t really want.


Thinking back, I remember how intertwined my life was with cigarettes. Cigarettes were my reward. They were my comfort. They filled my life, always wanting the next one the moment I put the last one out. I was firmly addicted and over the years I had become content with enjoying the very thing that was killing me. It was crazy!


But what I remember most was every now and then entertaining the thought of quitting, and at the time I thought THAT idea was crazy! Digging a little further into myself, I eventually figured out the root of it. For me, it stemmed mostly to a lack of confidence in myself.


When I went out in public by myself, I’d somehow convinced myself that I could stand the scrutiny of others, so long as I had a cigarette in my hand. If I was trying something new, I needed that cigarette hanging out of my mouth to somehow give me the confidence to complete this new project or event.


When I was with friends, I’d smoke with them, never thinking about the future because that might make me think twice about smoking.


I’ve written before about that day that I first entertained the idea of quitting and how I shook and became sweaty, almost to the point of a panic attack and thinking back, I now understand why.


You see, for me at least when I spent all that time building my addiction, I kind of placed tentacles within my being. Perhaps this is how I justified the insanity of my addiction. Of that I can’t be sure.


But what I realized was that it was the past that was holding me back. I’d wonder how I could go out in public without the confidence stick in my mouth. I didn’t believe that I could concentrate without those smokes. I wondered what I would reward myself with when I accomplished something good. And how could I even eat without that delicious after dinner cigarette?


I used to stare at the mountains as I smoked. Everything I did seemed to be intertwined with my smoking. And I realized that with every cigarette I smoked, I was living in the past. I was allowing myself to kill myself because of what I’d already experienced.


Here in lies the rub. I was looking in the wrong direction! My future didn’t lie in the past at all. And yet I was using the past to create my future!


Again, insane thinking. For me the trick was a bit of training. I had to rip out those tentacles of addiction out of myself  and the first thing I did to begin this process was to begin using my imagination to see things differently. I visualized myself walking down the street without that cigarette hanging out of my mouth. But the thing is, I visualized this with a smile on my face.


I thought about the reward I seeked after finishing a project and duh! I realized that the reward was really the satisfaction of finishing the project. It wasn’t until I was very close to my quit date that I took a cup of tea out with me to view the mountains and I realized that it was more than satisfying. In fact, for the first time I was actually really seeing those mountains! And you know what? They were beautiful!!


To make a long story short (Which I’m obviously not very good at. LOL), I changed how I perceived my smoking. By taking the perceived positive out of the act of smoking, my addiction lost some of it’s power.


And once I was able to stop looking at the past, I was able to see my present much more clearly which in the end got me looking to the future. That was the first crack in the foundation of my addiction, because now I could see my future in a new light! A future without cigarettes looked like it might be possible!


And now I’m living that future that seemed impossible so long ago and you know what? The smiles are really there, just like I thought they would be way back in the beginning. The peace is there as well. So much peace and so much freedom!! I love the freedom. You too can find it if you can take the first step. A new and beautiful future awaits you!





"This Is Hard."

That kind of thinking put's you on the wrong

And Sets You Up For

Believe In Yourself

Hello...I'm Susie as you must know because of all the politically correct contents that I see...What happened to all of the nicotine crazed friendly happy and miserable friends that I met??? Why do some of the best things have to become "new and improved" I miss the old place...and not the one that involved cigs either... I hope this gets where it belongs... Susie 


         I live on the West coast and for the past 8 1/2 years on the other platform, I was onsite by 6am Eastern 7 days a week to see if anyone needed help before they went to work, to say hi to people I knew, to look for people that had joined that had more than one badge for joining and post a welcome on their message board.


That's all gone.

         There's no way to do any of those things any longer because when you come here, you have no idea if anyone is even on the site. No humanity.


Thanks for listening


The Test Drive

Posted by crazymama_Lori Feb 20, 2017

Okay.  You're about 2 1/2 to 3 months into your quit.  You're feeling mighty confident.  You might still be going through some emotional up and downs, but not as bad as they were when you first started this.  You're starting to notice that the wheezing has gone away.  Some have more stamina.  Some complain of still being tired.  Some have noticed that their concentration has finally returned.  That fuzzy head feeling has gone away. You're feeling pretty confident these days.


You notice that you can be around smokers now.  It doesn't bother you as much as you thought it would.  Anticipation of the event far outweighs the reality.  You're reaching into the 6-month mark now and feeling even better.  I'm liking this whole new non-smoking thing going on.  You've learned a lot about yourself over these past few months.  Learned about what kicks up that craving or what I like to call a strong urge to just pick one up and give it a test.  I've gone this long.  A couple hits or drags isn't going to hurt.  I've gone this long.  Come on, it ain't going to hurt you.


That's what I call the test drive.  The uncontrollable urge to just see if it stuck or not.  If truly this time was the last time.  I won't go back to a pack again.  I don't want to go back through all that again.  Or it might take another twist of nobody listens to me.  Nobody includes me in anything anymore.  Why do I even bother?  STOP.  Isn't that what got you here in the first place?  Didn't you have this conversation with yourself many, many times before?  What did you use the last time when you went back to smoking?  What was your excuse that time?


The physical hold of this whole nicotine dependence is a piece of cake compared to the psychological hold it has.  How we used the cloak of smoke to envelope our deepest darkest emotions.  How it swirled around them and made them seem bearable at the time.  Take this time to learn how to love yourself once again, become comfortable with yourself again, truly believe that you have the power and the skills to cope with life again.  Smoking is not your answer, nor is it the question.  Smoking is just a word.  It's no longer an action to you anymore....... believe that.


About Me!!!!!

Posted by Violet_Quit Feb 20, 2017

 i joined the EX back in August 2016, and started my  smoke free days September 17 2016. When i started i felt scared and worried and glad and all kinds of feelings but the biggest thing was i was going to Quit that old stinky habit and live again smoke free.... i say again because i tried to quit smoking a couple times many many years ago. Maybe 2 or 3 times never got past i bet the 1st week. How much did i smoke a lot i never thought i did at the time but but now looking back i smoked way to much.... and Yuk how could i smoke them stinking things....anyways getting started on my Quit date...Thanks to the elders and all the ones that helped me along. Day by day some easy days some hard but i was going to do this this time no matter what...because i had to from my DR orders do to some Health issues, i have my Grand children to think about and i want to be around a long long time for my Children and Grandchildren. Right now i 'm living here with my sister it helps living here right now because she quit smoking to. So we do not a low any smoking in the house which helps a lot. I keep coming back to the EX and reading and reading and reading everything i can. i still get the urge to smoke here and there but i know i can't because its not a option. NOPE .  Some of you asked me to tell you a little about myself so hope i told you enough oh and my Name is VIOLET you all can call me that. and just ask if you want to know anything else...

         Things change around us every day. We have to work to keep up with it.

Hoggie uses cardboard scratchers and makes a huge mess. I'm thankful that he's never clawed other things but it builds up fairly fast on the blanket I put his scratcher on then he tracks it everywhere even though I ask him to pick up his feet. Most of us have learned not to run the vacuum over our foot because we are aware.

         Quitting smoking is not any different. We just have to be aware until we fuhgetaboutit.


filling like crap.

Posted by diamond01 Feb 19, 2017

Hi, 49 days today, and this evening I am having so many cravings they seem like they are lasting forever, between the crying, and laughing, I swear I am going crazy. 


Am I Bi-Polar?

Posted by Pao777 Feb 19, 2017

One second I'm crying; then next excited; next I'm angry; next I'm exercising; next I'm eating; next reading; now blogging. What in the world is happening to me. I realize I have a problem with depression and I'm so scared it will turn into a Bi-Polar disorder. Of course I will talk to my doctor about it but blogging seems to really help. Oh my gosh, now I don't want to blog. It's almost funny. Almost.

So far today I did my exercise routine, got angry about 4 times, rode my bike around the university (near my home), cooked breakfast for my family, ate, and studied Spanish. Oh yea, my constitution is no longer 'behind' schedule - no pun intended.

My poor family! It's got to be as hard on them as it is on me. I think everything is intensified by not smoking. All the things that didn't or slightly bothered me are grating on my last half nerve I have left. Once in a while I feel a stingy-itchy feel on my head, arms, neck, or upper back. I think it's my new anti-depression medication - whatever it is it's driving me crazy. I have so many questions for my doctor tomorrow. I hope he calls me back on Monday instead of waiting until Tuesday.

I'm having a hard time focusing on anything for very long - I long for clarity and know it will come soon. When I feel this way it is impossible to see light at the end, but I have faith that it IS there!

Sorry my blogs are so uninteresting and whiny, it's all I got right now.



Posted by bonnie.s Feb 18, 2017

Day 21 smoke free.  I don't remember who posted but I just read on here where someone said about there will still be bad days no matter if you smoke or not.  I just read that like a day or two ago and it couldn't have been seen at a better time because today I had a bad day.   The kind that in the past would have cost me my quit.  This time however the first thing I said to myself was there will be bad days no matter what and I don't have to smoke because of it.  Day 21 smoke free.  I couldn't be happier


Fool's Gold

Posted by crazymama_Lori Feb 18, 2017

Sometimes the word "addict" can be too strong for a person, a simple word.  Sometimes with some people the choice of reliance or dependency is more fitting.  But nevertheless, it is what it is.  We here are not the occasional smoker.  We cannot just simply stop at one cigarette or one puff.  We have to smoke the whole thing and then rummage around for more.  If you want to use the word habit, vice, it all comes swirling down to the same thing.  The eventual comment of oh, I'm not that bad.  I can quit anytime I want to.  The realization of nicotine dependency, you need nicotine, you crave nicotine, you want nicotine, a cigarette was only the way to get it.  You might fool yourself into thinking oh, I'm only having two or three a day.  My come back would be why?  Why are you having those two or three a day?  Why are you hanging on to those so closely?  What are those replacing for you that you cannot simply give them up?  Think back of when your children had their favorite stuffed animal or a blanket that they carried around and wouldn't let it go.  Even though it was missing a leg or had reduced down to a small corner, they weren't giving that up.  Why?  It gave them comfort.  It gave them security.  Is that what that cigarette is doing for you now? 


Now, going back to the subject at hand.  The added illusion nowadays are e-cigs.  Big tobacco companies are jumping on the band wagon and marketing these as the way to stop smoking.  The connection of smoking and nicotine is now separated.  They never did tell you in their campaign it's the nicotine that is the problem.  It's the nicotine that makes you run back for more, the drug that they can legally stick in the form of e-juice.  But, you know, these will get you to quit smoking.  You'll be addicted to the e-juice now, but you're no longer smoking cigarettes.  Let the games begin......


Nicotine is a natural product of tobacco, occurring in the leaves in a range of 0.5 to 7.5% depending on variety. Nicotine also naturally occurs in smaller amounts in plants from the family Solanaceae (such as potatoes, tomatoes, and eggplant).  Isn't that a kicker?  Potatoes, who knew.


Then we now have The "Natural American Spirit" cigarette, marketed here as "100% Chemical Additive-Free Tobacco." American Spirit cigarettes contain 36 percent free-base nicotine, compared with 9.6 percent in a Marlboro, 2.7 percent in a Camel, and 6.2 percent in a Winston.  36 percent, wow.  Again the illusion again back in the '70s when they came out with the Now brand that was marketed to have 0.5 mg of nicotine per cigarette.  These were professed to be better for you.  Cough syrup in the olden days were made with cannabis and cocaine.  They were professed to be non-habit forming.


Then we come around full circle to the pharmaceutical industry.  Chantix, generic Chantix, Wellbutrin, Zyban.  Coverage by the insurance company is a crap shoot.  Some will cover them and others will not.  I personally think they should market these as only helping with the withdrawal symptoms, but does not address the psychological element.  Some are under the illusion that these products will magically stop your need for smoking and it will magically go away.  Listen to one of their commercials.  They give such false hope.  They allude you into thinking that without these products you could never quit and stay quit.  I've seen on here even throughout the year that some have forgotten to take their pill, their lozenge, their patch, their gum after going through the motions for a good 4 months, then relapse and blame it on not taking their NRT or medication.  Those things did not make you go back to smoking because you forgot to take them.  You made yourself go back to smoking because you didn't stop yourself and think.  Sometimes it's just the illusion of fool's gold. We'll make you think this is doing all the work.  Here's a list of 22 smoking cessation products out right now and their ratings:  Compare 22 Smoking Cessation Medications |  Each have comments to them.  These products only help with the physical withdrawal, to lessen it some, but they do not take them completely away.


Nothing will take away your urge to smoke.  Only you can take away your urge to smoke.  You take away your urge to smoke by understanding the reason for why you smoke in certain circumstances.  I've done my homework.  I know now when that urge comes upon me why it's popping up and I can stop it dead in its tracks.  When I first quit, I believed everything drove that urge.  There's only a few things now in retrospect that drives that urge.    When my few things pop up now, I know what to do to drop it, halt it because I've learned the signs.  Your signs might be anxiety, loneliness, anger, frustration, sadness, boredom, excessive worry.  Everyone, smoker or not, have those exact same things.  We just react to them differently.  We cope with life in general differently.  But as humans we are capable of learning or relearning certain behavior.  Cognitive thinking to change the outcome of certain situations.  Our minds are powerful things.  Our inner resolve, our commitment, our willpower is strong.  Always remember, my friends, you can do anything you put your mind to, anything..........  


Where did everyone go

Posted by Violet_Quit Feb 17, 2017

Where oh where did everyone go? I was looking for a idea on what to do when you want a cigarette really bad ? i   do  know its not a option. NOPE And there was  somebody asking for a little advice. i gave them some i'm not good at this but trying?

I don't blame her.

There's No Permanent Landing Place For Them.

Thank You Sarah For Your Work These Past Few Years.

And I would ask you new quitters, how many quits have you lost in those first 4 1/2 months?



Jack in the Box

Posted by crazymama_Lori Feb 17, 2017

Just a little something I wrote back almost a year ago.  Seems like we all start off at the same jumping off point, don't we?  ........

Are we the Type A personality?

Blog Post created by crazymama_Lori on Mar 10, 2016


Now that I don't have a cigarette in my hand, I've realized how tightly wrapped I am.  Read a post on here a while back that said us smokers never have patience for anything, we want it and and we want it now; we want it to happen and happen right now.  How very true that is.  The whole relearning concept is enlightening.  

Back when I was in the "workforce," actually going to a workplace all day (I'm self-employed now), I used smoking as relaxation ever since I was 16 years old.  Smoking on breaks, lunch, when getting off of work.  When I was in the "cutting back" phase, I was still using it that way and it was no wonder why that approach never worked.  I was still using it as relaxation.  Coffee was never my trigger.  I think that was the only one on that list that wasn't.  I used smoking for frustration, anger, relief, sadness, relaxation, boredom.  Okay, life in general.

Now that I have to relearn everything again, I deep breathe, rationalize, talk myself through it, think of why is this popping up.  Read a post on here yesterday actually about a young woman not being able to identify and replace any of those triggers.  My first thought was just think of it as relearning how to walk.  It's something we do unconsciously.  But when we're unable to, we have to think about it to relearn it.  That's just where I am right now at this minute........ baby steps, keep calm, keep going

Friday’s Promise: Resilience
I will face rejection and failure with courage, awareness, and perseverance, making these experiences the platform for future acceptance and success. 
I will NOT smoke today NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS! It has never helped me in my life and I Pledge to remain FREE FROM NICOTINE FOR THE NEXT 24 HOURS!

Please click the link below to make your pledge

The Daily Pledge February 2017 

Hope to see you there!   ~Terrie~



Round 2 here I go!!

Posted by shashort Feb 17, 2017

Good Morning everyone!  Well today is detachment of my hand to hip phase (or eviction day YAY!!!) phase.  Thank you everyone for getting me this far and helping me get through this stage of the recovery.. Thank you for all the love, support,, and prayers you all have shown me. @ Terrie and Plug thanks for being my secretary and helping me comnmunicate.  Well getting ready to go.  Will post when I get back.

This is something I wrote back in December when there were so many relapses and what they call stinkin' thinkin'.  I could have posted a link to it, but it wouldn't have the cool banner..............


There's so many good articles on this site concerning relapses, slip-ups, whatever you want to call it. I call it going back to an old friend. You see we all used smoking for different reasons. Some used it for comfort. Just to have that gray cloud envelope us as we are dealing with personal issues or a traumatic event. Some will rock back and forth for comfort or using shivering as a release of tensions, anger. The mind sometimes will go back to what it knows in times of stress if we don't teach it other ways of coping or take the time to identify what it is that draws us back in.


I'm not saying you have to sit on a mountain top and ponder the universe and life's meaning. But as you are struggling with the idea to smoke or not to smoke, instead of fixating on that cigarette, fixate on what it is that is drawing you to it. The answer is there. If you take a few minutes to look, you're going to find it. A very good article on this site is written by Giulia, REPLAY THE RELAPSE. There's several posts on there that one can read about how easy it is to fall back into what we know so well. Another one that I found helpful for myself is: Relapse Prevention. This has stories from members about their relapses and their triumphs. Another good article to read is What should I do if I start smoking again after I quit? - Quit Smoking - Sharecare . I think Dr. Oz (who personally I think looks like spock) has a very good take on a relapse, slip-up.  This article shows three opinons about the subject.


I'm just going to bring up my riding the bike analogy. Think back of how many times you fell off that thing until you finally got the hang of it. Banged up knees, skinned up elbows never stopped any of us. We were right back at it to get it right. Smoking is the same thing. It's something we did 30 to 60 to however many times a day over and over. Sometimes not even needing to smoke. We just did it. You find yourself in a weak moment and don't want to blog, use that search bar on the right-hand side of your screen. Type in a word or a feeling you're having. There's going to be an answer. Somewhere at some time someone on here has been through it. Stick with us. We'll get you to where you need to be.


Son update

Posted by tjanddj Feb 15, 2017

One thing I know for sure of these past two years is that being smoke free was one of the best decision I made. It allowed me the freedom to be where I needed to be there with my loved ones holding their hand, crying with them. Spending precious last days with my husband. Watching him die was from the affects of smoking was absolutely horrible but my time with him in those last days were so important to me and I was there with him not out smoking.  Being able to share my fears, my angry and my tears without running out to have a smoke. Thank goodness I could grief really grief and not run and hide.

Matthew continues to live with his brain tumor the best he can. He did have another seizure just a couple of weeks ago.  After the CT scan was done which showed no change from last MRI and 3 hours of observation at the hospital he was able to go home. 

Matthew had been for the past several weeks doing scans and other getting other test done. Finally all result in. We had an appointment with his oncology neurologist yesterday to discuss the results. One of the tumors is decreasing in size the other is slightly larger and he has a small new growth tumor growth. Several options discussed and Matthew choose to go through another course of chemo using a different drug. Next week we will discuss the treatment plan with his chemo doctor and get that going.

Thank you all for the prayers, please keep them coming. God has been a great comfort and still is for me during this time.

Save a Life - Let it be Yours    Keep your Quit



43 Days of freedom

Posted by agthornton007 Feb 14, 2017

Well on Valentines day I am 43 days free from cigarettes. I made it through the weekend like a champ it was a breeze and ended up having an amazing weekend with my wife and my daughter. 


I am curious to as how long does it take for your full sense of smell to come back ? 


Nothing much more to report on this blog other than enjoying being cigarette free. And also no cravings....shhhhhh I better not speak to loudly other one might sneak attack me LOL 



Posted by kristen-9.7.15 Feb 13, 2017

Hi Everyone. Happy early Valentines Day!


I started attending Zumba class on Mondays again and as I was driving home tonight, I was remembering how I would smoke 2 cigs on the way there and 2 cigs as soon as I got done with class on my drive home. Mind you, it takes me about 3 minutes to get home! How disgusting! I can't ever picture me being a smoker again. I have all my buddies here to thank! My boyfriend goes to my Zumba class with me. He won't admit it but I think he enjoys it and enjoys being the only guy. LOL....


525 DOF


Day 2

Posted by AbasKid Feb 13, 2017

No------Not Day2 of not smoking. It's Day 2 of trying to figure out the new format! I did promise to stay more connected, and this is my way of keeping that promise. If nothing else, I am tenacious!

The tenacity did serve me well when I decided to quite smoking. I can get very stubborn, even mule-headed, but I do everything in my power to keep my word. I decided I was going to quit smoking, and I did accomplish that.

I have always been hesitant to say flat out that I will NEVER smoke again because I have to remember first and foremost I am an addict. I must always remember at those times when I really want to go buy a pack of cigarettes that it is the ego of addiction nagging me. If I forget that fact, the swan-song of "just one won't hurt" will of a certainty suck me right back into feeding that ego.

Ego has led me down the primrose path too many times in my life with disastrous results for me to want to follow that call again. For me, personally. I would rather let Holy Spirit lead.

There is one tid-bit I ran across: "Do not ask the Lord to guide your footsteps if you are not willing to move your feet."


Hugs & Blessings all around


How many times have we said that to ourselves in the past or maybe you're even saying it to yourself now.  Believe it or not smoking does not relieve your stress.  Have you ever noticed after about a half-hour to an hour you're right back to where you were in the first place, just running out to get your relaxation again?  Hmmm, might not really be relaxing you after all.  Here's a good article I found that explains the illusion.   The Mental Effects of Nicotine Use and Tobacco Addiction 

Monday’s Promise: Responsibility

I will take complete responsibility for my health, my happiness, my success, and my life, and will not blame others for my problems or predicaments.
I will NOT smoke today NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS! It has never helped me in my life and I Pledge to remain FREE FROM NICOTINE FOR THE NEXT 24 HOURS!

Please pledge at the link below

The Daily Pledge February 2017 


stumbled across this article yesterday while searching for something else.  Some love him.  Some hate him.  Some just think that he's a dog and pony show, but interesting how basically they all say the same thing, isn't it?  Seven Steps to Breaking Your Addiction | Dr. Phil 

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