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big changes

Posted by vanlil Sep 25, 2020

i am in california waiting for my 5 star assisisted living apt. near my kids in huntington beach, husband going up north near his kids in philadephia

area. 33 years in the florida keys and time to move on.  i am content ,serene and pure of heart.thankyou and still off cigs. yeah


The big FOUR

Posted by vanlil Jun 18, 2020

Holy Cow it has been 4 yrs. with no cigarettes...YEAH!  A big yell because 4 years ago I was losing my voice because I fried (my diagnosis) vocal chords.  (cords????) My life has changed a lot.  Retired from my concert stuff - husband is not doing well.  I also  have a live-in woman who is  a joy for us.  Yeah another hurricane season will be starting and hopefully no big one down here in Key West.. Thank you all who participate on Ex.  I visit every night.  Love you all!Lillian



Posted by vanlil Aug 30, 2019

We are the safest place in the State of Florida.  Yup Key West!  If we would have to evacuate it would have to be Havana Cuba only 90 miles South of here.  Sunny and calm so far. We could get some wind but not hurricane force wind. 



what a b/day!

Posted by vanlil Jul 5, 2019

Well I turned 83 this past week.  However my husband had a bad fall again and he really bashed in the back of his head. But he didn't have a concussion and only spent one night In the hospital. What a way to celebrate huh.  But I stayed cigarette free and grateful as ever to have that "monkey off of my back."

Also I had my 6 month physical and except for the arthritis and neuritis in my feet I am not on any meds for anything brought on by my 63 years of smoking,  THAT IS A GIFT.   Yup that makes it  a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!


Three Years smoke Free

Posted by vanlil Jun 20, 2019

On the 18th. of June I have 3 years of not stinking my body, my house, my car YEAH.

I could hardly talk 3 years ago. I was FRYING my vocal chords. I was blessed with almost instant relief the 3rd. day of not smoking.  For me - that was instant gratification.  Oh yes - I have triggers WANTING a cigarette but I DON'T WANT TO SMOKE - so I get through it.

Thank you all for being here for me.

So grateful I don't crave a cigarette for being smoke free for almost 3 years.  I am still healthy except for feet problems - not any major organs - just pain and some minor mobility problems. Husband fell 2 times yesterday because his balance is worse.  He refuses the walker - a Cadillac walker - and I know he is scared but he is being so nasty to me. I really am frustrated with his rudeness and then I find myself YELLING at him. I am truly upset this morning.Just thought I'd vent today.  He is age 90 and I will be 83 in 2 months.  GOLDEN YEARS????



Posted by vanlil Mar 15, 2019

Thanks Mark for reminding me I have 1,000 days of not smoking.  I still can't believe it!

Been vey busy with sickly husband.  Lots of Dr. visits and he is constantly tired and sleeps a lot.

Having lots of blood work done.  I have retired from the Classical Concert Board after many years. Left them in a very good place with a strong Pres. and enthusiastic Board Members. I also have feet problems. Neuroma on the balls of my feet.  Ouch!  Going Tues. for another injection in both feet for pain. Boy have I been sitting and reading some fantastic books. I do belong to a book club and enjoy other peoples insight.  Still doing my Pilates class 3 times a week but only on the mat and off of my feet.  But I am healthy and blessed after 62 years of smoking.  Can't believe I will be 83 in 3 months.


900 days wow

Posted by vanlil Dec 5, 2018

Thanks Mark for reminding me of not smoking for 900 days.  I am so thrilled to be remembered and reminded.  I am so blessed to not having smoking family and friends and especially to EX.  After 63 yrs of smoking it is quite a miracle that I still have excellent health.  (some arthritis but that doesn't count when a person is 82) I am still teaching my Pilate class 3 times a week. I have retired from my Classical Concert Group.  Sometimes I get bored but now I am doing a lot more reading and enjoying the monthly book club I now have time for. NEVER THOUGHT I COULD EVER QUIT CIGARETTES...……..tried so many times!!!! So Grateful.


hurricane season is over

Posted by vanlil Nov 9, 2018

Well we certainly faired well this hurricane season.  No storms thankfully. My dgtr. in law (California) stayed with us for 7 weeks "in case" of a hurricane.  She is a chef - and wow did we eat.  My husband hasn't fallen for about a month now and hopefully he will be extra cautious after so many falls and injuries.  My fibromyalgia (both feet) is not good but I will be seeing my Dr. soon and we will discuss what to do next.  Maybe even CBD oil.  Yikes.

But how wonderful to say "I am a nonsmoker" and for that I am grateful. Almost 2-1/2 years (next month) after smoking for 63 years.  I am a very grateful elder.



Posted by vanlil Oct 1, 2018

I am truly blessed for many, many things but especially for not having any Hurricanes this season.

I know it isn't completely over but the terrifying dates are over. ( peak season early Sept.) I live in the Florida Keys.

Also blessed that I am not smoking.  I don't know the days but I have been smoke free 2 years this past June and grateful for that.  After 63 yrs of smoking I am truly amazed that I am healthy for my age of 82.

Husband is finally accepting his frailty and hasn't had a fall for about 2 months now.

Thank you all for being here for me.


Another Birthday

Posted by vanlil Jul 5, 2018

Well I just turned 82 yrs. old and I can't believe it.  Not only that I am 82 who smoked for 63 years and can't believe I am still very healthy and alive. 

Also...………..I can't believe I haven't had a cigarette for 2 years and 16 days...……...THAT IS A MIRACLE!

Thank you all for being here for me and hopefully I can help someone realize that you are never to old to quit smoking.

I can't be on the computer a lot because my husband isn't doing very good.  Falling a lot - uses a cane and pray he would use the walker (only have 3 in the house) more than he should.  

Yes my nerves are on edge waiting for the next fall to happen and it usually looks like crime scenes because he bleeds very easily.  He is 89 yrs. old and very stubborn.  

However I am still so grateful to be a non-smoker.  I don't stink - my house doesn't stink and I do not feel like a 2nd. rate citizen anymore.    Whoeeee


whoppee  2 yrs. tomorrow

Posted by vanlil Jun 17, 2018

Can't believe I am smoke free for two whole years!!!!   Feeling blessed to have made it this far.  I smoked for 63 years and tried to quit more times than I can count.  The gratitude to all of you on EX.  It sure has been a ride with my husbands health issues.  That is still happening - living on the edge.  But I don't want/need to smoke.

Thank you all for being here for me. I cut down on a lot of my volunteer work in Key West and I do not drive at night anymore.  Hopefully no big hurricanes this Season.  But then again - I LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Still teaching Pilates 3 times a week. Not bad for someone who will be 82 in less than a month.  Whoppee  


600 days cigarette free

Posted by vanlil Feb 6, 2018

Holy cow 600 days ago  I had my last cigarette and I am soooo grateful.  ONE DAY AT A TIME and no regrets.  Not even the 8#'s I gained.   I really found some interesting things about me.  Especially how ashamed I was to be smoking and then trying to act like I wasn't a smoker.  That took a lot of time and work and then I felt like a liar and 2nd. rate citizen.  Free at last.



2nd. smoke free Christmas

Posted by vanlil Dec 24, 2017

Can't believe I am 555 smoke free days!!!! Grateful to all of you for being here for me and helping me to stay quit.  I quit a lot - but couldn't stay quit.

This is a gift I can not buy, order on line or ask someone to give to me.  For me it is a miracle and I will continue to stay humble and appreciative.

Merry Christmas to all and my best wishes for the year 2018.


Ring a Ding Ding

Posted by vanlil Dec 6, 2017

Yup starting to feel like Christmas.  My biggest gift will be 1-1/2 yrs smoke free on the 20th.  Never thought that would ever happen after over 60 yrs. of smoking.  Husband is still in recovery and not driving - Hurricane debris is still all over the place and won't be cleaned up for a couple of more months.  However - I am so grateful that we didn't get MAJOR damage like a lot of people did.  Nice to have the screens on the wrap around porch now - Can you believe screens and railings are hard to get and especially people to install them.?

Thank you Ex family for    always  BEING here for me.