There has been a lot of talk about the relapses that we have seen here lately! Relapses are bad! We hate to see them! We do not condone them! In fact, a lot of us take them personally! We look inward, and we ask ourselves what we might have done differently that would have been more helpful! The truth is that it was not our fault! We can't stop every relapse every time! And, it is better to see them than not to see them!
I have been here for over three and a half years! Our relapsers come and go! There are time when we go a long time without seeing one! They are still happening! However, during those times, people are just quietly dropping out of sight! Then we have times when we see a lot of them! These are the people who relapse, but stay here to fight again! These are the ones that we still have a chance to help! The ones who relapse, leave, and never come back are forever lost!
I would suggest to you that when we hear about relapses, we should be sorry that the person did not do all their homework, and did not take our words to heart! We should be upset that they were not able to face down the demon! This time! We should, however, celebrate the fact that those people did not slink off into the night! We still have a chance to help them! They still have a chance to find their personal Freedom! And at the end of the day, that is what we are here for! To help ourselves by helping others!
If you look through the membership roles, we have a lot of long term quitters here who were once serial quitters! But serial quitter that never gave up on us, or themselves! Let us keep our Focus, and help those who stay with us become the leaders of the next generation of quitters! Tommy
