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A tribute to our Kellie!

Posted by pir8fan Aug 28, 2012

Last night I read that our Dear Sweet Kellie was going home from the hospital! I realized that it was EXactally two years, to the date, from a blog that I wrote introducing myself to Kellie! A friend has ask me to re-post that blog! I am painfully aware of the fact that this surgery that Kellie just went through, has bought her some time(3-5 years) before she will need a lung transplant! Her selflessness in the face of all of this has indeed been an inspiration to so many people. So today, out of respect for my friends request, and in honor of Kellie, I proudly re-post this blog!

 

August 27, 2010 by pir8fan Comments (11)

   DEAR KELLIE.
  
    
       
   
     

You don't know me, and I don't know you, but I sure would like to meet you! I have read your words and marveled at your courage for a while now! I look around and see so many with so much to be thankful for who "try" to quit smoking! We sit around our keyboards and pat each other on the back and talk about how hard it is to quit! We do not discuss the hardships associated with not quitting! Those reallties are a little too scary to talk about! Where is our courage?

    

Then we come to you! In an open and frank discussion of your real life, you force, us to look into the mirror. And often we turn away, at a loss for words. How hard it must be to spend your life trying to divert us from the trap you fell into, and seeing the indifference to your warning! Yet you summon up another snifter of courage, and and battle on. You struggle for everyone of us, in a tireless manner, and never looking for anything in return! I wish I had something to offer you, besides my unwavering respect! That and this salute to true courage!

    

One day we shall all take our last breath before we go and stand before our Maker. Shakespeare said thru the words of Jullis Caesar " Cowards die many times before their death, but the valiant taste of death but once." I pray that we might all face our future with the courage you display everyday. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you face each new challenge. Forever, Tommy

   
   
       
    
    
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hear! hear!

   

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well said! Thanks

   

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Thank-you for including us in this moving letter to this awesome woman!

   

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Tommy - You are such a dear man! Thank you for this beautiful letter to Kellie. I have always said that I can't even imagine how difficult this journey of quitting would be if I wasn't in the best of health. Those who do it amaze me...those who do it and help others do it - have "true courage" as you said! Thank you!

   

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I feel privileged to be part of this letter. God bless Kellie and her efforts to help save others from the ugly truths of the effect of smoking. Everyday I see more and more people here that have been touched by her and there lives forever changed for the bettter. I have no doubt many lives will be saved because of her courage. Thanks Tommy for your beautiful touching tribute.

   

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Very powerful. Everyone needs to read what she has to say. I dare anyone to feel sorry for themselfs afterwards. God bless this dear woman.

   

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I came in this morning and saw this, looked away, started reading, stopped, and then through teary eyes finished reading it. It took me a little longer to be able to read the comments.

   

Why is it that hearing nice things is more difficult than hearing the bad? Thank you for the beautiful words, it is humbling, As much as you say I have helped someone else, I feel they have helped me. Anyway, I am trying to find of a nice way to show my appreciation and how much it means to hear such nice and kind words.... I am just stumbling. Thank you too <3

   

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I went back and read my blogs today and noticed that the very first day I quit, on my very first blog, the very first person to reply is our dear Kellie!!! <3

   

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Mom, I love you and this sweet man Tommy has made it clear what an incredible woman you are and what strength you have. Through all of this pain and sadness there will come happiness. You helped me be the strong woman I am today so I know with the strenth and power in you, you will make it through this and help people along the way. I love you and I am glad others are seeing what we've seen all along! You are my strength... You are my world... I love you!

   

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:) Kellie, you are a true blessing to us all. Thank you Tommy for reminding us what true courage looks like, it is in the face of beautiful Kellie <3

   

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pir8fan

The Freedom Train 08/20/2012

Posted by pir8fan Aug 20, 2012

Good Morning fellow EXer's It is an honor this morning to once again find myself sitting at the throttle of the Freedom Train! For those of you who may be seeing this marvelous vehicle for the first time, come aboard and ride with us! This Train makes a daily run to Freedom from the bondage we have all been held in by tobacco! There are no tickets! The only thing you need to board is the desire to breathe Free! There are no baggage fees. Bring all your EXtra Baggage! We will help you sort it out!

I need to take a quick moment to update those you who have offered so much love and support through my recent trials! I am happy to report that 10 days after my surgery I am doing well! I go back to the doctor today because of an infection that I have developed in the leg they harvested veins from! I saw that coming, but no one believed me! Thank you for all of your prayers and support! Please continue them! Also please turn the focus of your prayers to our Dear Kellie as her surgery for lung volume reduction approaches!

The first stop for the Freedom Train this morning is in Brooklyn! Lisa11209 You have a Full Year of Smoke Free living behind you! We are so proud of you! Lisa arrived here a year ago and brought warm reagards to all that helped her! After her Shoot-Out at High Noon at the Marlboro Corral, she turned her focus to learning life without cigarettes! And a fine job she did! I remember when she encountered some struggle around the holidays, she was grateful for the preperations she had made! They helped her stay strong when the nicodemon blindsided her! And now, she has her first Year of Freedom! So, Lisa, grab you best Party Dress and your favorite dancing shoes! We are about to have a celebration! Please save a slow dance for me! I am still a little slow!

The next stop for that Freedom Train is at TracyLynne29's house! Tracy I hope you hear the Train whistle blowing as we cross Ohio to come and get you! You have 300 Day's of Freedom behind you! We have missed seeing you lately, but with 4 kids to raise, I am sure you time is streached thin! I hope you can find time to celebrate with us today!

The Conductor's Notes also show one other person! who should join us for their first Train Ride today! LVTigger 50 Day's! We have not seen you the last couple of weeks, but if you can  hop on this Train today as we celebrate your Freedom! Now Let's get this party cranked up!

This Train is bound for FREEDOM from the Evils of tobacco and smoking!!

"IF YOU ARE NOT RIDING WITH US, YOU ARE MISSING THE TRAIN"

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL ABOARD!!!!!!!!! Tommy

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Now what was the question?

pir8fan

Good evening Everyone!I

Posted by pir8fan Aug 13, 2012

I can only be here a couple of minutes, but I wanted to poke my head in and thank you all for keeping me in your prayers! With your prayer and love and caring I am progressing better than I have any right to EXpect! The medical professionals have done great work and my healing is going well! I hope to be back here on a regular basis very soon!

Love to all of you!!        Tommy

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By the time ........

Posted by pir8fan Aug 10, 2012

..........most of you read this I will be in surgery! Thank you for the outpouring of love and caring! Be kind to one another! I will be back as soon as I can! Tommy

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Today's Trivia!

Posted by pir8fan Aug 8, 2012

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pir8fan

Surgery Looms!

Posted by pir8fan Aug 8, 2012

Good morning Fellow EXer's! 48 hours from now I will not know anything that is going on! Some would argue that I have been in that condition for a long time! I will say that the messages from some of you have been taken to heart! I am not, nor do I need to be, Superman! I have postponed my cruise for four weeks! Thank you to those of you who reminded me that I have nothing to prove!

I am not coming here everyday in a cry for sympathy, or attention. I will however admit that I love attention! I am doing my best to chronicle what I am going through, both physically and mentally, because of the common addiction we share! I can not compete with Kellie in the classy, selfless way that she has shared her battle in her blog http://asiliveandbreathe-kellie.blogspot.com/ Nor can I walk you through the the waiting process that JoJo shared with us as we hoped and prayed for her new lung! I can only share the cold and ugly business of a quadruple by-pass! And it is just businesss as usual! A cottage industry built at the EXpense of addicts like me, and you! It is my hope that someone will read this and find a motivation they did not have before! As Maggie said on my last blog, if it reaches just one person then it has done its job!

Today is a busy day! I am trying to make sure that everything is taken care of, that I may not be able to tend to in the next couple of weeks! I go for pre-op this afternoon! So I should know all the details by the time the day is done! I have to go to the vascular surgeons office after pre-op so they can check the viens and arteries in my arms and legs. That way they will know which ones to harvest to make the by-passes! I don't like that thought! I have always had good legs(if nothing else) and I do not care for the idea of them cutting into a perfectly good leg! It is amazing that our bodies can provide the "spare parts" for us to take to the shop with us when we need repair!

The great Mickey Mantle was once quoted as saying "If I had known that I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself!" Does that ring true with any of you? Oh, how cavalier we were! Our smart ass remarks to those who tried to warn us! "Gotta die of something" "This is one of my few pleasures" "That will never happen to me" "Who wants to be old anyway" "Live hard and fast. Die young, and leave a beautiful corpseI Ha ha ha!"! Where is the laughter now!

People! If you can't listen to the warnings on the side of the packs, listen to your friends! If you are drowning out the warnings of the very people who sell you your drug of choice, listen to us! It you can somehow ignore the warning that your own body is giving you, listen to those of us who once proudly proclaimed "That will never happen to me!!"! It can happen! It will happen! I beg you, to make, and be firm in a personal commitment to avoid, at all cost, the regrets that I feel today!       Tommy

pir8fan

Routine Surgery

Posted by pir8fan Aug 6, 2012

Good morning to all my fellow EXer's! I hope that today is the start of a fantastic week! Mine is not going to be much fun!

As a lot of you know by now, I am having a quadruple by-pass on Friday! I keep hearing that it is a routine surgery! I suspect that routine surgery and minor surgery have one thing in common! That is the fact that they are both surgeries that someone else has! When it is your body that they cut into, nothing is minor, or routine!

The better news is that I am at one of the top 5% of cardiac units in the country! Also, because I live in Florida, which is known as "God's Waiting Room", these guys get lots of practise at this kind of thing! At this point my surgeon is going to be one of two who are described as "cutting edge"( pun intended)! They are both very highly regarded on a national level! So, generally things looks pretty good!

The other side of the coin is that I do not have any practise at being the patient in this kind of thing! I hope that I hold up my end of this OK! Either way I am thinking I have the least fun role in this drama! So looking at this from my seat, I want to encourage all of you to avoid this situation! Take care of your hearts! Take care of your quits! There is not a cigarette that has ever been made that is worth the price that I am going to pay! Look around the site, at JoJo and her new lung. Ask her if smoking was worth it! Look at Kellie, and the surgery that she is about to have, and ask her about smoking! Ask Thomas, and all the others who have COPD! The EXamples are all around you!

I know that you have seen all the commercials! I know that you have seen the Surgeon General's reports! All of your family and friends have told you what can happen! But that seems a bit abstract! Listen to us! We are your friends! We are very real people, with very real nerves, and blood, and feelings! We have no political axe to grind! We have no financial incentive to tell you this! STOP IT! Do not wait to find yourself on a list for a surgery, before it dawns on you that smoking is not a good idea! Use every resource at your disposal to make sure that you never smoke another cigarette! You can live Free! The people here at this site will support you every step of the way! Live Free! Breathe Free my friends! Quitting takes some effort, but it is damn well worth it!!                     Tommy

pir8fan

Good morning my Friends

Posted by pir8fan Aug 4, 2012

I wanted to jump on here to thank everyone of you who have been praying on my behalf! I am in the hospital for two more days! My heart is damaged from all the abuse I have subjected it to over the years! However it never ceases to swell with pride when I hear the words of love and caring coming from my Friends!

I am on a borrwed laptop her and my time is short! Just wanted to confirm what most of you know already because of Shawn! I will be going home on Monday, which gives me a little time to get details of my life in order! That is not pessimistic, just points to the fact that there are things I have ignored too long! This is not the way I would have chosen to be reminded, but it definately worked.

I will return here Friday morning and will go into surgery for a quadrupile by-pass of my heart! Not only will I go into that surgery, but I will come out of it too! For those of you that do not know, I have an 8 day Southern Caribbean Cruse scheduled for August 25th! I intend to be on it! At this point the cardioligist says I can't go! The surgeon says I can probably go but that I will not feel like going! I say that I will go and I will be fine! Stand by to see who knows what they are talking about!

Again, a BIG THANK YOU for all of your prayer, love and support! I will be back on-line Monday!! Love to all of you! Have a great week-end!                 Tommy

pir8fan

Good Morning my Friends!

Posted by pir8fan Aug 2, 2012

About two weeks ago a Lady named Denise joined our site! She has had a bit of difficulty getting to know us, and is struggling with a quit! If you can, take a moment, and stop by her page to let her know that we are here, and that we care!      Thanks!      Tommy

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/denise91

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