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Just a heads-up!

Posted by pir8fan Mar 31, 2012

For those of you who are not yet aware, our sister in Freedom, Dawn, is back in the hospital, and locked into another battle with cancer! Please remember her in your prayers! Thank you all!

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Why this place works!

Posted by pir8fan Mar 29, 2012

As I talk with people I meet, this site often come up in the conversation! From smokers, people who are new to quitting, or those who have never smoked the questions I get are always "Whys?".

#1. Why does this site make a difference?

#2. Why do people who have tried before and failed, find success there?

#3. Why do you say you owe your success in this quit to a website?

#4. Why, now that you have been quit so long, do you continue to spend your time there?

In the next few minutes I am going to try to answer those questions. Then I am going to turn the floor over to you, my fellow EXers, and ask you help make this something that the new people here will understand!

#1. This site makes a difference because there are people here, from all walks of life, that understand what you are going through as a new quitter, as a mid-range quitter, and as a long term quitter! There are people here who, if you will, have "been there and done that". There are "First Responders" to introduce you to the site! There are "Professors" who have a vast storehouse of knowledge thast they will share with you! There are the "Cheerleaders who will always be here with encouragement when things get rocky! There are the "Dispenser of Tough Love" who will tell you what you need to hear, even when you really don't want to hear it! There are the "Motivators" who lead by EXample and always have a way of making you better than you think you can be! There are the "Entertainers" who can make you laugh when you want to cry. And there are "The Fighters" here who fighting everyday to stay alive while they wait for new lungs, or a miracle to save them! They selflessly share their agony, and misery, in an effort to save others from the fate that has befallen them! Why does this site make a difference? It is the people you find here!

#2. The answer to this one is pretty simple! On-going support! Many of us have support in the early days of our quits. It comes from family and friends! However many of them are not smokers, and never have been! They think if you quit for a week., or two weeks, or a month, that you done, and it is over! This is a horrible addiction and it requires on-going support! The people here understand that, and they are always here for you! Why do people finally find success here? It is because of the people they find here!

#3. The reason that I say I owe my quit success to this site because of a phenomenon I discovered here! I have termed it "Collateral Kindness" Helping yourself by helping others! What a way to quit! What a way to live! The way that you help people get to the top of a mountain is to go with them! When they get there, you are there too! The day that I came to understand that, was the day that I knew, without a doubt, I would never put another cigatette in my mouth! Why do I owe my quit to this site? It is because of the people who showed me "Collateral Kindness"!

#4. The reason that I stay here is because I have learned something that I feel a need to share! The greatest yearning of all animals is the desire to be Free! Some years ago a very intelligent chimp was taught sign language. The first complete sentence he signed from his cage was "Let me out"! The people of this site and the "Collateral Kindness" that I have found here, have have shown me the path to FREEDOM! Now that I am indeed FREE, I want to share that path with those who come behind me! I feel an obligation to those who are still shackled, and live as slaves to their addiction! Look to us my friends! We will hold open the doors to your cages! And we will "Let you out"! Live FREE!! And live well!                      Tommy

There are a lot of new people here, and this is also a reminder for those who may have forgotten! Always remember your lifelines!

If you should have a serious craving use your lifelines before you smoke!

#1. Ask The Audience! Come here and tell us that you are in danger, and why! Wait 15 minutes for us to respond! Give us that opportunity to help you! That is why we are here!

#2. Phone A Friend! Befriend someone here that you feel you can trust! Exchange phone numbers with that person! If you are in a situation that you can not handle on your own, call that person!

#3. 50/50! Make two list! The first list should be all the reasons you should not smoke! The second list should be all the reasons you should smoke! Now take the second list and mark out alll the "Excuses" to smoke! Excuses and reasons are two very different things! If there is anything left on the second list let me know! Keep your first list handy. Read it if any of the "excuses" try to steal your quit!

This message was brought to by: The Freedom Train! "IF YOU ARE NOT RIDING WITH US, YOU ARE MISSING THE TRAIN" Tommy

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Please Join Me in Prayer!!

Posted by pir8fan Mar 6, 2012

I am coming to you tonight to ask that you raise your voices in prayer for Sootie's Mom! The mother of our wonderful Friend, has been hospitalized with a mass in her colon! To quote Sootie: "could be an actual tumor or could be an inflammation or, or, or." We will know more on Thursday! In the meantime, please join me in prayer! Thank you in advance my Friends!

In January of last year a thought turned into reality when the first Freedom Train ran down the tracks! It was a thought that it would be wonderful to give my fellow EXer's a vehicle in which they could celebrate their milestones! The Freedom Train has grown to be, I think, the most recognized, and responded to icon of Becomeanex.org. I will take to my grave the pride that I feel every time I see the daily blog posted!

 It is a fact that I would have never been able to take the Train anywhere near the level that it operates at today! When I reached the limit of my endurance, Maggie, you was there to keep me sane! And I enlisted her help! We both knew that two people were not enough! So we approached Marcie and Linda! These are the three wonderful ladies have made the Freedom Train what it is today! Thank you! We have enlisted the help of others, but this group are the Freedom Train as we know it! My contributions are very limited! It is time to acknowledge facts, and give credit where credit is due! I serve no valid role in the Freedom Train anymore! And I have no desire to be a figurehead! With that thought in mind I would like to cede ownership of the Freedom Train to these three fine Ladies! It is time for me retire from the rails!

Maggie, Thank you for always being there for me! I could never write enough words to tell you how I feel about you!

Marcie, God smiled on this Train the day that you accepted our invitation to join the staff! I know that there have been times when you felt the entire burden of the Train was left to you! You wiil always be a Shero in my eyes! Thank you for keeping it together. You hold a special place in my heart! Always will!

LindaN, If the Train could run on love you would be able to handle this job all alone! Thank you for all the love and hard work you have poured into this Train! Love you, Sweet Young Lady!

A special thanks also goes out to everyone who has, and continues to contribute to the success of the Train! Cyn, Jonilou, Shill, Bobby , and now Karen!

Last, but not least I want to thank all who have ridden and posted on the Train! You are the one's that this Train is all about! Continue to ride everyday and smell the sweet scent of Freedom! And never forget!

"IF YOU ARE NOT RIDING WITH US, YOU ARE MISSING THE TRAIN"

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL ABOARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tommy

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