Today a blog spoke of the dangers that face people in the 30-100 day range! These dangers are real! The people who seem to do the best during this period are the ones I see subscribing to my theory of "Collateral Kindness" New people here go through a very real period of romance with their new quits! I remember it! I also know when it ended and I was asking questions like: "OK where is my reward? I have done good! What is in this for me? Do I get one cigarette now?"
Your reward is on its way! Mean while you have to protect your quit! The way you do that is "Collateral Kindness"! It is time to look to the newbies! You are their heroes! I have 325 days and a lot of people have more! New people do not relate to me! They may respect me, but they do not relate! They are trying to get through hell week! Their focus is the next few days and weeks, not the next few months! They are looking to you for help and guidance! You are the ones who have most recently been where they are! Look back! Help these new quitters get through what you have just made it through! I can remember what they are going through, but they don't know that I can! They see me as too far removed from the begining! They see you as the heroes that can offer them the most help! And you can!
Guess what? When you get caught up in this process you also help yourselves! You are reminded on a daily basis of what you went through! You are reminded of why you quit! And you remember how important it is to protect that quit! You help yourself by helping others! "Collateral Kindness"!!! It works everytime it is tried! Use your ability to help others in order to help yourself! What a great concept for quitting! What a great concept for living! I am Tommy Piver, and I wish you well!
